Feeling isolated as a SAHM
Feeling isolated as a new mom
I often wonder how many of us, moms who stay at home with their children suffer from being somewhat isolated, feeling not appreciated and burnt out? As I am thinking of this I remember stories my mother spun about her own childhood and long ago times when she lived in a small village across the pond. She grew up in a tiny tipsy house that had just one bedroom and a big kitchen that served as a main room in the house. My grandmother was busy all the time, she was a very good seamstress and had lots of orders but like any other woman she juggled her sewing with other chores. They had a small yard with cherry trees that I even remember because she took me there once. The cherries were very sweet but I couldn't comprehend how could they all have lived in that small tiny place. My mom explained that village kids played outside all the time and since there were no cars yet, it was safe for them to gang up and play together out in the village. Not only this, women lived so close by that they babysat their neighbor's children and cooked together sometimes. It was a small place so everyone knew what was cooking next door. One more important thing, the grandparents usually lived with the family and nobody was ever alone. Remember that one only bedroom? They also called it a cold room, they wouldn't even heat it up in the winter, this room was solely for sleeping. Now, they all slept in that one room, parents, grandparents, children.
Wintry forest near my mother's birthplace
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