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Updated on April 17, 2015

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Do You Fight With Your Spouse


Does every morning start with arguments over breakfast and each night ends with a quarrel over dinner for you and your spouse?

Do both of you get into ugly fights and scream and yell so hard that the neighborhood comes knocking to your door?

If the answer to all this is yes then you, your spouse, your child and your marriage are all in grave danger. THE DANGER OF FALLING APART!

Here I will share how your child will fall apart.


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Do You Love your Child?


If no… then please do not read further, it is no use as you will not gain from this article. You may have your reasons but seriously I do not want to waste your time. No Offence :)

For those with a yes:

You love your child and everything about him and wish to see him rise to lead a happy life in the future. You smile each morning when you see his face and sing lullabies to him every night and wish him the sweetest of dreams.

DADS: You wish him to have the best baseball bat and go play ball with him every evening

MOMS: You make him the best chicken in the world and sing praises of him in front of your friends

Yea, both of you love him… but you fight… I mean… you Brawl

My dear parents… parental love is not individual, it is complete when you love your child as whole

Now let me tell you your child is suffering heavily fur to your fighting. He sits in the corner and weeps seeing you rip each other apart not knowing that he is falling the most.




This is how he or she suffers or will suffer:


1. Very Low Self Esteem


It is a very general consequence of parental fighting which occurs in children. They may feel very low of themselves, consider themselves outcaste and abstain from social interaction at school and play. This feeling usually gets prolonged and leads to a seriously unhappy life. Such children fall easy prey to bullying and social abuse.


2. Poor Self Confidence


Low self esteem will lead to poor self confidence. The feeling starts from when the child sees that he cannot stop his parents from fighting. The feelings lead to extensive feeling of low confidence at other places and activities like studies and extra-curricular activities. The child tends to socially isolate himself and start hating and feeling negative about him all the time.



3. Induced Fear, Trauma and Shock


The violent atmosphere at home leads to permanent feelings of fear in the child. He tends to fear the slightest scene of violence and is traumatized by loud voices, smallest of gatherings and tends to develop fear inducing hallucinations. All this leads to frequent trauma and shock. The holistic development of the child is destroyed and such tendencies show evidence in poor academic performance and poor feedback at school.


4. Mental Abuse


You do not realize but you usher mental abuse to your child when you fight with your spouse. Mental abuse can be all these effects combined with the feelings of loneliness and depravation. You should know that any kind of abuse to the child is punishable under the court of law and you are guilty in this case. Such abuse to a child remains inside him for a major time of lifespan and he is not able to attain stability at any point and frame in his life.


5. Loss of Parental Feelings and Respect


You can also refer to this as rebellious tendencies. A rebel child may render you words you have not heard before of him which may be unpleasant enough to cause you depression! Seeing both of you fight in childhood, the feeling of love and respect for both of you may disappear slowly towards the future and feelings of hatred may take over.

It pains when the child you loved and cared for suddenly walks up to you, says bad things and leaves and never comes back. Parents do not realize the reasons behind this but in most cases fighting parents are the cause.


6. Escapist Tendencies


When deprived of love and understanding in a collective form at home, children tend to seek such feelings outside the boundaries of home and often fall into wrong hands which may have dire consequences like physical and sexual abuse. On the other fronts early exposure to drugs, smoking and alcohol may take place due to escapism.


Escapist tendencies lead to rebellious nature in the long run. This happens due to brain washing in the wrong company of friends or peers. This sort of activity may render your child into the world of crime. As such children seek understanding outside, shrewd people tend to take advantage of this fact and exploit them.



7. Increase in Gullibility and Vulnerability


Escapist tendencies lead to rise of gullibility and vulnerability. When the child seeks parental comfort on the outside he falls prey to those who exploit on the basis of showing slight care and infusing negative perspectives and opinions in their minds which increases gullibility all the more. Such children tend to divert towards bad ways of leading lives and have to face umpteen difficulties later on!


8. Profound inferiority Complex


One of the most noted consequences of parental quarrels is the feeling of inferiority induced in children. When they see classmates or other children in the neighborhood in good parental company they feel inferior about having dismal parents. This complex slowly creeps in and spreads to other aspects of their professional and personal lives later on.


9. Acute Depression


In worse cases a dangerous mental condition of depression develops. This general happens with female children. It is accompanied by fits, epilepsy and suicidal tendencies. Chronic feelings of loneliness, inferiority and mental imbalance may lead to a very unhealthy and devastating life.


10. Exposure to other kinds of Abuse


Another consequence which develops later on in reference to escapism and gullibility is the exposure to other kinds of abuse like physical, sexual, drugs and alcohol. This again leads to all other kinds of trauma and leads to a life which is propelled to destruction



Are you scared for your child yet? Children deserve better. What was there fault in your fights? Why do they have to suffer?


If you love your child please sit down and have a talk; discuss matters. There might be some misunderstandings leading up to your fights. Sort them out. You are above fighting and quarreling. You are mature beings who love each other and your child. That is why you married in the first place… to have a happy family of your own.

Are you facing an upcoming Divorce

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It is the same as rendering your child orphan. He will feel the need of the other parent but never tell you. I agree that in some cases it is necessary to separate. If you have such cases then act quickly, for the betterment of your child at least!

Scared! Let me scare you more: Read some facts about Children and Divorce here and come back!

In the end just this much :

DO YOUR BIT FOR YOUR DEPRIVED CHILDREN. THEY DESERVE BETTER

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      this is a great hub. my kids are grown and gone and have families of their own. I will pass this alone to my friends that have children and are not happy in their marriages

      Bless you for writing this

      Debbie

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very, very good hub with a strong message that needs to be read by hundreds of thousands of parents. I am very impressed by your wisdom my friend. Well done!

      p.s. you are mentioned in my latest hub if you care to take a look.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Debbie! Thanks for your kind comments. it is important for parents to know that their slightest actions affect their children!

      Thank you so much!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I am humbled by you kindness Bill, My friend and teacher!

      I read the hub! It was very kind of you to honor me in such a way! Thank you :)

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      Jackie Lynnley 5 years ago from The Beautiful South

      This is so true, I have seen so many people put their kids through so much. No wonder they raise monsters sometimes. Great write!

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      bhargvi sharma 5 years ago from jammu ( India)

      Very well Explained,Great hub... Voted up!!! :)

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you Bhargvi... Much appreciated!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Words of truth and wisdom indeed Jackie! This kind of environment often leads to development of psychotic tendencies..

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      Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

      There is no doubt about it. This is a well done job Rahul. So many people went through this problems when kids. The traumas can be remembered thorugh a lifetime. Great topic!

      LORD

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      Melanie Chisnall 5 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

      This article is SO true! I only wish more parents would realize the implications and affects that they have on their children when fighting in front of them. By this, I certainly don't mean that children should grow up thinking that their parents never argue, for then they will be in for a huge shock when they have a first argument with their partner one day. Arguments and disagreements happen, that's life. But, it should never turn into a screaming match, where verbal, emotional or physical abuse is part of the disagreement. Parents should not put each other down in front of their children. Well written article and very good points here. Voted up and interesting :)

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      Frank Atanacio 5 years ago from Shelton

      Great article rahul times are different now.. back when I was a child it took a neighborhood to raise a child today.. we are so closed in.. we text instead of talk we are huddled together under one roof.. and the child witnesses everything.. I played ball from sunset to sundown so if there were any arguments I missed it.. by the time I got in they were on make-up sex.. big time...

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      Very good information here. I don't know if I mentioned, but you are doing a great job introducing all the writers in the community.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thanks for the add Lord! Yes more parents should be aware of it

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Words of truth Melchi! There are arguments.. sometimes they are necessary .. but there should not be brawls...

      Thanks for the addition to my work

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Times are indeed different Frank! I was always isolated from the beginning of my childhood!

      I will not do that to my children for sure

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I yearn to share all the good work I read my friend! Thank you for noticing and appreciating :)

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      Diane Minton 5 years ago from Evansville, Indiana

      This hub should be read by all parents, even those who don't fight like that, even the small things we think are small that is like, not showing affection and being distant in front of the kids makes a big dent in their little lives and will affect the future relationships that they have. I have lived thru some of this and know first hand what these behaviors do to children, especially in the teaching I did for years with Preschoolers. The kids are watching every minute and it all sinks into their hearts. This is a Top Notch Hub in my eyes.

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      Voronwe 5 years ago

      Great hub, Rahul! Nicely compiled. Some parents hardly ever realize these consequences. Although, in some cases their actions to stand up are unavoidable and justified.

      Losing respect for your parents has a terrible impact on your own life; leaves an empty space and watching them lose respect for each other is even more unpleasant. Being endlessly monopolized from both sides is another thing. The inferiority complex establishes a long-standing excuse (to lay blame and uncover their intentions) and also allows you to judge your parents bitterly, sometimes even quite severely/in excess, leaving the relationship utterly irreconcilable.

      Awesome topic, Rahul. Voted up.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and awesome. Rahul thanks for this very powerful hub. It is definitely something to take into consideration for people who have children and are constantly fighting. I feel that TV and movies which make humor out of these situations are dead wrong. I'm one of the lucky ones I never remember my parents arguing. I'm passing this on.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Diane! I agree with your words of truth and wisdom. Parents should realize the fact that the mind of the child is more observant than any other mind and every small action around him affects him in some or the other way.

      Thank you for your kindness!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      In some mismatched marriages... the case is unavoidable but there too.. as mature beings the parents should realize that their actions are harming the development of the child in every possible way!

      You comment adds so much to my simple work! Thank you for the words of wisdom

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      All my luck to you Rasma! It is very nice to have clever parents... it leads to better lives for the children...

      A good guidance is always needed...

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      Sharon Christy 5 years ago from India

      A very concerned and detailed hub! I appreciate your efforts to better and reform devastating practices! Great hub!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thanks for connecting Sharon! Much Appreciated:)

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Rahul, this is a message to be spread worldwide, without a doubt. I do, however, have something to say about divorce. Firstly, do not stay together for the sake of the chidren! What are you showing them? That marital relationships are volatile? That this is how you interact with someone you supposedly care about? The answer, in my opinion, is a resounding NO! Yes, your children will experience separation anxiety. They will be angry with the parent who ostracized the other. But, trust me, in the long run all will work out for the better.

      I divorced my son's father when he was six. I wanted to divorce him a few years before that, but he wouldn't go for it. He wanted us to stay together for the sake of our son. That is so wrong. What are we teaching our children by staying in an unhappy environment that results in resentment and anger?

      In an amicable divorce, the children do not lose their parents. Your parents are your parents and your children are your children. Nothing changes that. However, we as our childrens' first teachers must teach them compassion, love, understanding, forgiveness, charity, concern for others and the power to give. Staying together "for the sake of the children" discredits our childrens' intelligence, feelings, and sends a dangerous message.

      My son was angry with me. He went through what I call his "dark years" in rebellion to my decision to divorce his father. Now, at age 20, he sees I made the right decision. Sadly, his dad passed away when he was 15. But guess who was with him when he passed? My son and myself. We may not have been married anymore, but we created a son together, whom we both loved more than life. I know his dad was at peace when the family he created was by his side in the end.

      And so is my son at peace with me.

      I'm sharing this one, Rahul. Your message needs to go global!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      What an addition to my simple work Shauna! This entire comment is better than my entire hub!

      i agree with you on the fact that where the divorce is justified, it should take place, in the long run it always is for the betterment of children!

      In fact I am i complete agreement with your statement! If the Divorce is delayed then the consequences are all the more dire.

      Short term pain is always the harbinger of long term happiness and that is what is the holistic point of view for writing this hub: the happiness of children

      I am happy for your son to have come out of the dark years. And yes! I loved the maturity with both you and your ex-husband ( RIP ) acted...

      Such maturity is essentially required for the betterment of the entire family

      Thanks for the unwavering support Shauna! You have been very kind :)

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      rabbit75 5 years ago

      This hub is so true, Rahul...I can remember my parents fighting a lot as a child, and I would lie to say that it didn't affect me. I know that two people can't always get along and there will be disagreements, but when this happens too much it's no good.

      As for divorce, divorce...anyway you slice it affects the kids involved...do get affected negatively by divorce...unless the father was abusive towards the kids or mother, or even if the mother was abusive towards the father.

      Interesting hub, Rahul...voted up!

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Thank you, Rahul, for your generous response to my comment. However, you don't give yourself credit. It's your amazing talent that sparks such thought in your readers. You touch us, make us think and wanting to speak.

      Look in the mirror my friend and see yourself as do your faithful followers!

      Peace!!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Rabbit! So nice to have you back! I am sorry to hear the facts about the fights between your parents!

      Your words of truth and wisdom only add to my simple work! You for yourself have a tremendous talent for writing engaging works!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I am humbled once again by the tremendous love you show me Shauna! I am no one but a slave of my readers....your following me is a kindness you beckon me with.. And I yearn to please you more with my upcoming work!

      Your comment just shows how beautiful you are as a person! Glad to be in such company!

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Aw, shucks, Rahul! You've made me blush! tee hee....

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      "If you love your child"...that is what's important. Parents fighting is mental abuse and causes one, if not all, of the consequences you mention.

      Everyone argues or disagrees but that doesn't mean you should be fighting or screaming in front of your children. If you really need to yell at each other do it when your children are not home..with a babysitter or at school. You should NEVER let your kids see you 'fight'.

      If you can't reconcile to keep that out of your marriage, I agree with Shauna, get out of the marriage for the sake of your children.

      Rahul your range of subjects is amazing. This is a great hub and should be included in a parenting book!

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you for adding to my simple work and being kind to me Mary!

      You and Shauna both are right and I agree with both of you :)

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      informative hub, Rahul.

      You touched the right wire here. Ego's of people in a relationship/married 'cause them to fight and argue and in turn kids get affected.

      liked the various ways kids are getting hurt. voted up indeed as useful and interesting. sharing it across

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Ruchira! I am glad you liked my work! Ego's can seriously affect the bearer and the surrounding people and kinds in dire ways

      thank you for connecting

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      Voronwe 5 years ago

      Thank you Rahul. Your hub covers a very important topic...there were many things I could relate too and I wrote from familiarity, especially the mental abuse and inferiority complex.

      A great hub well-written from your own observation and experience. Thanks.

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      klarawieck 5 years ago

      Rahul, I see these children on an every day basis. The aftermath, as described in this hub, is very accurate. The problem is that so many parents are too young and don't know any better. How can a child raise a child?

      Thanks for creating an awareness on this issue. It's very much needed.

      Klara

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      dmop 5 years ago from Cambridge City, IN

      Rahul, I feel so guilty reading this. I fought with my children's mother all of their lives until 5 years ago when I made the decision to leave. I've been in a relationship for most of those five years now and we have never had a yelling fight. I have tried to get my kids, but the courts have not been helpful. My kids tell me of their Mom's continued fighting with whoever she is with at the time. I wish I could do something, but it seems that my options are limited. Great article, voted up, all but funny, and shared.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Such a very important subject and presented with great detail. I hope this will end up where it needs to! I shared this online and with hub followers.

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      dxnworks 5 years ago

      Gr8 topic... and eye opener !

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      Poetic Fool 5 years ago

      Rahul, what an awesome hub and so well-researched! Loaded with great information. This is a subject near to my heart. So much so that I wrote a poem about it. You've handled this subject so very well, my friend. Voted up, useful, awesome and interesting. Kudos to you!

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      alyessamoore 5 years ago from Miami

      Nice Hubs. Parents and Spouse should learn these things that how to treat their kids and how to behave in front of their children.

      Share it like a fire. Its interesting Hub :)

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      Vegas Elias 5 years ago from Mumbai

      A very informative hub and very useful to parents. Being myself a victim as a child to regular fights between my parents I know very well how it has affected me and stunted my growth. My teachers helped me get out of the mental effects but the economic repercussions could not be reversed till date.

      Great hub and I voted you up for this.

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      Shampa Sadhya 5 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

      Voted up and useful!

      Absolutely useful hub but yes, you are right only for those who love their child. Those who are not bothered about their child will gain nothing from this article. This article of yours is for those human beings who have a sensible heart. Let this article help many to sort out their problems and give their child a beautiful life.

      Very accurate and beautiful hub.

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      Bredavies 5 years ago

      Yep my parents used to fight all the time and they didn't even think about how it has changed my outlook on relationships. Very important hub. Thank you for writing it.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I am sorry for you if you have experienced any of these effects. But the positive fact is that you have come out and become a fabulous writer!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      HI Klara! You are right, that is the general case... where premature marriage leads to destruction of the childs present and future! But in some cases Mature couples also indulge in such behavior!

      May be due to professional or communication gaps

      Thanks for connecting!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Dmop! If you sould not sort it out! You made the right decision to leave my friend! It is nice to know you are finally in a compatible relationship! Touchwood :) I seriously feel for the present state of your kids! i wish I could help! Keep trying my friend..I know you will cause you love them!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Angela!I am glad you found my write useful and thank you so much for sharing it :)

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you for stopping by dxnworks!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you so much Rick, my friend! I am pleased that you are pleased with my writing! Your poems are a treat to the Hub!

      Kudos.. my friend

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you for the useful insight Alyessamoore! I am glad you found my work useful and thank you so much for sharing my work!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Vegas! It is sad to know you were a victim my friend! My condolences! But see how strong you are, came out of everything to be a prolific writer and a great commentor.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank yo Shampa for the great insight, words of truth and the utter kindness you have shown me by connecting to my work!

      Much appreciated!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I am sorry to hear that Bredavies! If you ever feel like sharing anything, feel free to honor me!

      Trust me, I will be glad to help :)

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      Anne 5 years ago from Spain

      Hi Rahul. Your hub had me almost in tears.So many people live in unhappy marriages and their rows and fights have a terrible impact on their kids which they don´t even see because they are too busy dealing with their own issues.If your marriage isn´t fixable, then get out and take the kids with you, rather that then subject them to years of suffering inflicted by you and your partners constant fall outs. What kind of message are you sending by staying in that sort of relationship ?

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      HI Annie! Nice to see you here! you are right about how unhappy marriages cast their row on kids without any fault of theirs..

      Thank you for connecting and leaving your words of wisdom on my work

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      I'm not married or have children. However, I properly understand the points you have mentioned here.

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      carriethomson 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      rahul you have explained very well and it is that child who suffer the most without being any fault.....i can understand what would be the situation of innocent childrens.....parents should think seroiusly on this matter.........

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      It is not necessary to be married to understand these Vinaya my friend! The point underneath is to feel for that child who suffers

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Carrie! Thank you so much for the wonderful insight

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Good work. I agree with the effects of parents fight over children. Children are very eager to learn and copy everything. It is best for parents to discuss differences when children are in some other safe place.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      HI Ruchi! Your words of wisdom and truth add to my work!

      Thank you

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      poojasd7 5 years ago from India

      I can relate to this hub to the core. :-) great one!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Pooja! It is sad to know you relate! Id you wish to talk feel free to honor me :)

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      Angelme566 5 years ago

      If we only make God as our center of the family , i believe , all will fall into place.

      Very eye opening hub ..Well done dost !

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      Awhile back my husband and I were having fights... pretty bad ones to. In fact, we were on our way to divorce. Now, mind you, it isn't that you try to fight in front of your kids and even if you don't, the know you are doing it anyway. That being said, when my children found out that we were getting a divorce it tore them apart. We talked to them about the situation. Now, anytime either of us get angry, my oldest always says she is scared we are going to get a divorce. There are effects of fighting obviously and it can really be scarring for young children. Great article about the effects.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Your spiritualism speaks right to my heart Dost! Thank you for connecting

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Stacy... I am glad that at least you and your hubby realized the facts and acted for the greater good... This shows that both of you are good people...In time the scars will heal and your efforts will reap their colors...

      Hang on till then... you are right about how these things devastate children...

      Thank you for a great comment and insight

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      Starmom41 4 years ago

      excellent hub and important info.

      if I can add- another consequence is the kids can grow up believing that's an appropriate way of interacting with other people.

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      devjeet 4 years ago

      Excellent hub dude....keep it up...*claps

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      Jessee R 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Very correct Star.... rightly said... Kids generally tend to develop the same behaviors if exposed to them for a prolonged period... and that leads to more destruction....

      Sometimes it leads to birth of Psychopaths

      Thank you for stopping by

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      Jessee R 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thank you Dev.. I am glad you liked it :)

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      Jessee R 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      thank you Devjeet

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      Ina 4 years ago

      Easy to preach wise words my friend but much more to it than that though. Practice is not in what we say about ourselves, but how others speak about us, no? How can I know you from what you say about yourself here....all these wishful thoughts are nice but sort of a waste of time when you could be spending your time better cultivating real flesh and blood true blue friends with good things to say about you....but here online we have to settle for assumptions of wishes for better. I am a product of parental love and pain and so will my family be.... Not perfect but trying our damnedest to give them all we have to give. This kind of puritanical thinking comes across to me as a rant more than really useful tips for how to handle any real life conflict...sorry mate

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

      A very wise and sensible hub packed with all the valid points! I completely agree with your views in the beginning & end of your hub. I am blessed with happy parents who loved each other as well cared for me deeply but I could relate to this hub as my young relatives have parents who fight almost daily which is indeed sad! However, these fighting relatives came back together for their children's sake. Once again, a well-presented hub! Well-done!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      And all these will be more pronounced if the fight is about the child. A very important share, Rahul.

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      Albin Pius 4 years ago from kerala,India

      Great hub.Surely the fighting between parents affects the child the most.So they should try to be more friendly in front of the child.

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      Jessee R 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thanks for the kind feedback Ishwaryaa... I am glad you liked this article.... fighting parents become a bane for the children for the rest of their lives...... I am glad you are blessed with happy ones...

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      Jessee R 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      true Midget... very true words... thanks for the feedback dear :)

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      Jessee R 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hello Sereseus.... you are absolutely right... we should always stay alert :)

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      Manjari Soni 4 years ago from India

      A serious point that we all are well aware of but mostly neglect in our egos and issues. Really hope this reminds a lot of people to think about the child than them. Very nice of you to bring up this and the way ou have out it together.

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      Jessee R 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hello Manjari!! You are correct... its mostly egos and petty issues....

      Thanks for the visit

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