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For the Father to Be

Updated on June 15, 2012

Many expectant fathers feel both excited and worried. They look forward to a new baby in the family and this new phase in their lives. It is normal for them to worry about the type of father they will be. We all know that a new baby can bring challenges. Believe it or not studies show that men who are involved with their children are actually more successful at work. They learn skills like listening, teamwork and how to quickly adapt- skills that can be applied on the job.

Babies are more secure and responsive and have higher scores on developmental tests when they are close to their dads. Young women receive their self confidence from their dads. As a result, when the father is missing from the home or there is a strained relationship, it creates a whole different set of problems for the girls. We'll talk about that in another hub.

If you are about to become a father, here are some tips to consider:

  • Did you know that fathers are eligible for time off under the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA). Many think this time is only granted to mothers. However, Fathers- it is your right to take up to 12-weeks unpaid leave for the birth of your child. Check with your employer.
  • If your wife will be taking unpaid leave as well after the baby arrives, budget your expenses over the next few months until you settle back into a regular work routine.
  • Have a talk with your manager- Let him know what's going in your family and what you will need in terms of time off or an adjusted schedule.
  • Cut back on your outside comittments- You'll need to help more at home with the additional responsibilities of a new baby.
  • Be accessible to your wife at work as the due date approaches. Keep your mobile phone charged and ready.
  • Be prepared to be tired. Parents of a new baby need to adjust to shorter amounts of sleep.

Being the father of a new baby is a huge job. Talk to other fathers and I'm sure they will tell you that the pleasures outweigh the pain. Shaping a child is one of the most rewarding experiences God gave us. Proverbs 22:6 says "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." What a huge responsibility for us. To all the Fathers- Happy Father's Day!


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      Evans4life 5 years ago

      Jpcmc- I love your comment about just holding back her hair while she throws up. Such a litle jesture will mean so much to your wife. Thanks for reading the article and your encouraging words. Happy Fathers Day to you!

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      JP Carlos 5 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      My daughter just turned 1 last May 24. Every step was new to me. During my wife's pregnancy I felt powerless and useless. She felt discomfort, pain and all those nasty stuff. All I can do is watch in the side lines - that's frustrating. No husband wants to see his wife suffer. The best that we can do is to provide support in every possible way we can. This means doing house hold chores, waking up in the middle of the night to massage a cramping leg or just holding back our wife's hair while she throws up.

      When the baby came out, the work just doubled. It cannot come close to what my wife had to endure. It is tiring but it is all worth it.

      The tips you have here will really make a huge difference for the dad and for the new family.

      I hope more dads and husbands become more active in their wife's pregnancy and in raising their children.