- Family and Parenting
Forgiveness : part 2
Your anger and hurt can feel like a bottomless well. It can ruin a friendship or it can crush you.When these feelings are with you the last thing you want to do is forgive the other person.
Here are some ideas for how to forgive:
We may deny our feelings or maybe we don't understand why we feel the way we do. There are times though that we know exactly what we feel and why and we just want to hit something or someone.
Talking to someone who is understanding always helps. Think and reflect...take time to decide what to do. Sort things out..write your thoughts on paper or a journal. It helps to learn about your feelings.
Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Maybe you made an assumption mistakenly. If the shoe was on the other foot you may want to be forgiven.
Try to talk it through with the person that hurt you. Let them know how you feel...although at times it can take days, weeks, months, or even years before it is possible to talk. You will feel better and the anger will go away..and No grudges.
When you have been hurt, doing positive things for yourself helps to heal the wound. Let yourself be loved, by a close friend, a grandparent even your pet can help. Listen to up-lifting music.
Foregiveness is a process. It takes time for most people. Foregiveness doesn't mean forgetting what happened to you, but it does mean freedom from the pain you experienced.
Foregiveness isn't the easiest thing to do. But it is the best thing to do.
God Bless and be foregiving G-Ma :o)