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From Diapers to Denim and Beyond
A Parent's Prayer
A Parent's Prayer:
Please give me the
Strength of an ox,
Patience of a saint,
Memory of an elephant,
Wisdom of a psychic
The beginning: Mom & Child
"It takes a village to raise one child”; discipline and love are the principle factors.
Children do not ask to be born nor do they come with an instructional manual. Parenting is a twenty-four seven, lifetime commitment. A huge, personal and social sacrifice but has its own rewards. They are our kids for better, for worse and forever.
Kids are cuddly, temperamental and, sometimes, spiteful. We do not return spiteful tactics. This scars them for life; however, we do not reward bad behavior either. We sit them down and explain right from wrong. We also learn from them as they learn from us.
As children grow into young adults, the parental concern deepens and escalates regarding their well being. We ask ourselves, “When does our job or does it end at all?” The parental role has no expiration dated.
Flexibility, strength, wit and endurance of precious sanity, all play huge roles in the parental tightrope. We become the boxer in the ring who goes down for the count, hide our pain, then rise again and prepare for the next round.
TV Show Host, Jerry Springer, best explained it as: "We can divorce a spouse but we cannot divorce a child."
When our children marry, the level of concern becomes the “silent” concern. Parental authority now takes a "backseat" and translates into mutual respect and support. Just "being there" for our adult children, is the maximum requirement. Although we still hold our breath and bite our tongue, watching them make questionable decisions.
Seem that the more we distance ourselves from their lives and relationships, the more we are invited to participate in their lives and events; hence the expression, “less is more”.
We offer advice only at their request. The parental "best friend" factor does not exist nor, should it ever be depicted by our off-springs. Our role is to be the one “constant” in their life – their “rock” and positive factor. “They have their own friends with whom to share thoughts and feelings.
The five-star parent develops the "primo" instinct of knowing when to approach and when to distance themselves from the situation. This is called the "push 'n' pull" method or, "balance"
We need to be that pillar of strength and role model who creates and ensure a structured, solid family foundation for our children from "diapers to denim and beyond".
Parents are not perfect, but they are "forever”