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Future Baby Mamas and Baby Daddies, Be On Notice!

Updated on July 29, 2013

Baby Momma and Baby Daddy Role Models

Kanye has reason to smile as the rapper and his girlfriend Kim Kardashian, pictured together at a Paris fashion show in July, announced they're expecting a baby.
Kanye has reason to smile as the rapper and his girlfriend Kim Kardashian, pictured together at a Paris fashion show in July, announced they're expecting a baby. | Source

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With all the press they are receiving, you would think these two just kept us from going over the fiscal cliff. Lamar Odom attempted to put a spiritual spin on these two. Young people look to them for legitimacy of their prenancies out of wedlock. They don't realize that Kim and Kanye are filthy rich. Kim and Kanye will not need welfare. They proudly bear the monikers, "Baby Mama" and "Baby Daddy."

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Since I began teaching in 1994 I have become increasingly concerned about the cycle of very young unwed parents. Students are getting pregnant as early as middle school. While I believe children are a gift from God, I also believe there is a sequential order and time for everything. The sad truth is that children are celebrating these pregnancies by calling themselves “baby mamas and baby daddies.”


Some children in middle school are having babies. The average age range for 6th through 8th graders is ages 11 through 14. There is an increasing acceptance of the possibility that these children will have sex. Contraceptives are made available to these children. However, use of contraceptives requires planning. These children are not long range planners. They do not book rooms in hotels. They are spontaneous!


At the time of their lives when they should be learning sponges, they listen to sexually explicit and vulgar music. They watch sexually explicat and vulgar movies. They romanticize and emulate what they see and hear. Part of the romanticization is reference to their boyfriends and girlfriends as “baby daddy” and “baby mama.” I have seen girls point at guys and predict, “He ‘gon’ be my baby daddy!” The translation is, “I like him. I want to have his baby.”


Each year I make my spiel to my high school classes and hope that it gets through to at least one child. My speech includes:


  1. Please focus on your studies this year. You will have lots of time for sex after you graduate. Your love relationships are temporary.
  2. If you do get pregnant, please do not invite me to the baby shower. I make my contributions when I pay taxes.
  3. Children don’t need baby daddies and baby mommas! They need fathers and mothers. Those little babies are going to get older. Will you be able to clothe them? What will you do when they need things that you can’t afford?
  4. Many of you have friends who are not living with their parents. Do you know why? How many “baby mamas” or “baby daddies” will you have by the time you are 25. Will you be able to trust your “man” or your “woman” with your children? Will your children be taken away and placed in foster care?
  5. Babies deserve to be loved and provided for from maternity through at least the age of 18. Wait until you can properly provide for children and then be parents. Girls … be mothers. Boys … be fathers


Since I began this process, I have noticed a decrease in pregnancies among my students. Throughout the year I remind them to put first things first. My students chuckle when I get on my soap box but at least I'm getting through to them.


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Future Baby Mamas and Baby Daddies, Be On Notice!

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      Starmom41 4 years ago

      Excellent hub!

      What stuns me even more, though, is when parents & other adults tell these young kids that keeping their babies is the right thing to do- they don't even present the option of adoption. What in the universe are they thinking?!!

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Usually the parents fit into the categories of the questions I raise to the kids. I can't say "Look at what happened to you!"

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Thank you for reading Starmom! Part of the cycle is babies having babies who have babies.

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      Sheila 4 years ago from Surprise Arizona - formerly resided in Washington State

      diantrotter you are the kind of teacher we need in America. God Bless you and please keep doing what you are doing - you are needed! Voted Up and all. Your Hub was a pleasant ending to a long day.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Praise God and thank you Conservative Lady!

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      MaysensMommy24719 4 years ago from Huntingdon Pennsylvania

      I am 19 and have a 3 month old son my mother never talked to me about contraceptives maybe you should take that into consideration that maybe some parents feel as if there child is too young to have ther talk until they do end up pregnant and it is too late to have that talk its not everyones fault

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      junko 4 years ago

      dianetrotter,To be a father, one must see a father. Many of the kids you are dealing with come from places where for generations fathers have had difficulty being a decent dad. Their Great Grand mothers were not allowed to have a man in the house. Government people were dispatched without warning to look in closets and under beds, if any were found, the baby daddy's children lost public assistance. The baby daddies back then had no civil rights and no affirmitive action. Private SectorUnemployment for black men back in the day considering population growth is worse now, than then. A well balance, educated and sexually mature child is most likely if mom and dad are both in the house, and working if need be.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Hi MaysensMommy, I was not directing my comment to 18 year olds. Hopefully by then most girls have graduated high school. At your age, I would think your friends could share information with you.

      I'm addressing a) non-adult school children b) who glorify sex c) use ridiculous names like "baby mama and baby daddy" and, in my case, d) want me to buy a baby shower gift.

      From your name it sounds like you are proud to be a mother. That's good! A mother sacrifices and uses wisdom. I pray you do both. Thank you for sharing!

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Hi Junko, My father had an 8th grade education but he worked hard to provide for us. He had a regular job and then performed odd jobs, working 16 to 18 hours a day. I can trace dysfunction to the late 60s and 70s with drugs, shacking, and entitlements. The drug problem got worse. Gangs were formed, drugs were sold, people were killed for ridiculous reasons, and the pursuit of education went to the wayside. During that time grandmothers raised the grandkids. Now the grandmothers may be in gangs, dead, crackheads or God only knows what.

      What can we do junko?

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      junko 4 years ago

      We can understand cause and effects. If we understand than we should help and not accuse the underclass of being underclass and uncivilized. Only a few made it out of the underclass, most didn't make it out, it's obvious. You must ask yourself why would people choose to be jobless, murdering, drug users rather than productive citizens. Did the fact that they didn't get into the race until the 60's and the race ended in the 90's have anything to do with today's Negros?

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      I think it is a disintegration of the family.

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      junko 4 years ago

      Exactly, I agree. The Disintegration of the Family produce baby momma and daddies. A people who sleep for three hundred years may need a hundred to wake up. I think the Creator has a Master Plan. I feel love and understanding and I know you know if each one save one, 60 years or so can reverse the negatives. Thank you for what you do did and will do.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Hi Junko, I thought about it after your last post. I think, might be wrong, you assumed I was speaking of black people. I work in a district that is 80+% Latino. A small percentage of students are white and possibly 10% black. The article goes across racial lines. I talk to the kids and I nurture them. I arrive at school at 6:15 because some kids would rather be there than home. It is good to understand why it is happening. I started teaching mid-life because I wanted to make a positive impact.

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      junko 4 years ago

      I'm glad you were not talking about black kids since you appear black, I think black when I hear baby momma and baby daddy. I didn't know latinos use that type phraseiogy. The underclass of all hue are underclassed and share many simular negative life experiences. I still stand by what I said about black Americans descendants of African Slaves and other underclass children. They all need an understanding of cause and effects.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      I agree that they need understanding. When you teach school, you get to see them becoming what they will be. If you can impact them, it's possible to help them change course.

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      junko 4 years ago

      I remember the teacher that helped me change course, she help save my children and grandchildren.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Concern and care of ordinary people can make a difference in a person's life. Thank God for your teacher!

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      Theresa Ast 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Fantastic! And good for you! And how lucky your students are to have you. I do a similar spieleil to my college classes. At least they are 18 and 19, but that is still way too young. I may tweak my presentation, now that I have seen yours. Being direct is the way to go.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Thank you phd! Kids need more adults to share tough love. You are so right that the college kids need to hear it also. My former students come back to tell me about their shock of sitting in classrooms without behavior problems. The professors tend to have a less personal approach. I'm so glad you have a burde for them.

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