- Family and Parenting
Why Girls Joining Cubs or Scouts is a Good Thing
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I loved Girl Guides
When I was growing up I was a member of the Girl Guides of Canada. I was a Brownie, Guide, and Guide Camp counselor. I loved it. I learned a lot and had fun doing it. It was good for me; it taught me self-confidence, fair play, how to care for my community, volunteerism, how to work as part of a group and how to be a leader. My younger sister on the other hand hated it. She struggled with camp and didn’t really like going to the meetings. I think she had to go because I was a member and her big sister …
So when I had my girl and she got old enough, I signed her up for Brownies. She is an only child and longed for a sibling, I thought being part of a group of girls would be good for her, help her grow as a person and give her more interaction outside our family unit.
It was good for her for many reasons. Five minutes into the first meeting she made a friend; that taught her that she could go into new groups of kids and that she would be accepted – great lesson. She learned how to be part of a group, to compromise, to try new things and much more.
Problem: I think in the end I was getting more out of the experience than she was. When it came to rejoining, she was reluctant, but I encouraged her and she continued on. For the next 4 years she joined a new unit every year. She didn’t want to give Guides up altogether, she liked being part of a bigger group, she just wasn’t finding a group that was the right fit for her.
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Girls can join Cubs?
Until, that is, the twins on her softball team, told her about Cubs. They invited her to come to a Cub meeting with them to check it out, “it’s so much fun” they told her … and they were right. She loved Cubs. She talked about it for days. She had such a great time that left Guides the next night and joined Cubs the next week. When I asked her what the difference was between Guides and Cubs, she answered with the honesty of a kid, “in Guides all you do is talk and in Cubs is all you do is play”. Perception is such a great thing.
So this year I’ve joined as a leader. Partially out of curiosity, partially because they needed leaders, and partially because of the opportunity it allows me; to be involved with my girl in a program that she obviously loves. I’ve only just started but already I’ve made some interesting observations and can see why she likes it.
Scout and Guide Canada leaders are very dedicated volunteers and most of them are passionate. They have all had criminal record checks, so parents know their kids are safe. They are unbelievably patient, they have to be; they are role models of caring behavior for all these children, who really benefit from watching how they, as leaders, resolve different issues.
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a Great Opportunity
From my mom and female perspective, I think having her in Cubs at this time is a good age for it; she just turned 10.
It’s a great opportunity for girls to have positive male role models in their lives that are not family members, teachers or neighbors.
The leaders in cubs are mentors to the kids and there is a trust and respect that grows between them because of the relationship built within the unit. They teach, they play, they give the kids opportunities to try new things, they have fun and they all do it together. It creates a comfortable trusting relationship between the cubs and leaders.
It’s great for girls to have the opportunity to learn to identify trustworthy men. Cubs gives them that opportunity in a safe, fun environment within an organization that has been around since the first fire was made ;O).
Thanks to the leaders, the cubs, their attitudes and activities my girl found a unit that is the “right fit” in the end, I just never thought it would be with Scouts Canada instead of the Girl Guides of Canada …
ps… Cubs is not all just play, but it is her perception :O