- Family and Parenting
"God won't give you more than you can handle"... RIGHT!
Is God trying to break me?
Sometimes you have to wonder, how much can one human being put up with, what will be the breaking point? Naturally everyone is different,your innate ability to withstand stress, turmoil, pain and suffering are not the same as the person before you, not even the same as the person standing beside you, perhaps your spouse, your parent or your child. Stress, or your perception of stress is completely subjective.
So going back to the title, why is it, why? Why do people always say he won't give me more than I can handle?
For some I think it's simply that they don't know what else to say and this statement is offered as a token of support and to be helpful, uplifting perhaps and it used to feel that way, at one point I would hear it and think to myself, Okay, this person cares. Now, after hearing it so much it's actually painful to hear. Sure I still nod my head and smile slightly and thank people for their kindness, because surely they couldn't possibly mean what my overwhelmed tired brain thinks..(OK, thinks on a bad day) that the stress and misery is going to keep piling on..because apparently I've been "handling" it, so obviously I'm up for more right?
Should I keep pulling my sleeves up just a tad higher each time because I'm not broken yet..oh, I've teetered on the edge, sometimes wishing I'd just take the fall and yet mysteriously, I bounce back with a new resolve a new direction, a plan.
Maybe that "plan" is gods plan.
I myself, do not know the answer to that
so, for now, when I hear the old, "God won't give you more" etc etc..I now respond with a kind humored "well with any luck, someone will let him know I'm about maxed out"
I try to never say this to people I meet who may be struggling in some capacity especially given I have no clue if they've carved out a relationship with god, in fact I realize in hindsight I actually kind of stink at the whole sympathetic musings... I think some might call it.'emotionally spent'
In any event, do YOU have kind words to support someone, what are they?
I know from personal experience that a strangers kindness has pulled me through bad times and they would have never known the gift they shared with just a few words.
Is saying I'm sorry enough? Do we show our sincerity by pairing the comment with a reference to God?
Well, Maybe God won't give me more than I can handle, but he's getting awfully close.