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"Grandparent That Raise Their Grand Children Or Great Grand Children"

Updated on August 27, 2010

"Grandparent That Raise Their Grand Children Or Great Grand Children"

We must care enough for our parents not to burden them with raisinf out children, they already raised us.
We must care enough for our parents not to burden them with raisinf out children, they already raised us.

"Grandparent That Raise Their Grand Children or Great Grand Children":

This is a major thing that's happening all over the world and it's really sad for the grand parent. I wrote this hub after talking to a favorite aunt about her grand daughter moved herself and two kids into her home. I know it's my aunt fault for allowing it, but she was trying to help, but her grand daughter has been there a year and hadn't made any preparations to leave or to find a place for her and her kids. Young people,sometimes take advantage 0f grand parent for their own benefit. The reason so many grand parent are raising  their grand children, or great grand is their parent dropped the ball or have shrugged their adult responsibility because of drugs or other problem. sometimes grand parent take their grand children or great grand children, because their parent have and outstanding drug problem,or alcoholic problem. 

Grandparent take their grand children, because they don't want them to end up wards of the state or living with strangers. This is when the grandparent step up to the plate and take custody of their grand children, some children lose their parents to death; this something that can't be helped. There are sometimes, when parents are just plain irresponsible,with their children casing child abuse and neglect to their children. The reason I say it's sad and my heart go out to the grand parent; is it doesn't seem fair for them to have to raise the children and then turn around and raise their grand children. I think grand parent should be enjoying their lives and their old age. I'm hurting for thr grand parent that really feel they have no choice but to take their grand children in their home and raise them. We all should care enough for our parent that we burden them down; with raising our children, when we know it's our job and responsibility to do so. Lets get our lives together,so we can raise our own children and give our parent  a break; where they can enjoy the years that they have left,instead of being tied down to their grand children . Love your Parents and be responsible for your own children, because it's the right thing to do.

Benny Faye Douglass

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    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you pmccray, what you say is true, we have to use tough love sometimes to get a point through. Thank you for your comment and feedback. blessings to you. creativeone59

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      pmccray 

      8 years ago from Utah

      This problem is a 20th century cancer. I've personally had to perform "tough love" for two of my nephews, when parents through up their hands in desperation. I closed my door to both. One had a drug problem the other just plain lazy.

      Now both have turned their lives around. The drug addict is clean, married with children, and the lazy one is working. More often than not tough love wakes folks up.

      It's sad that grandparents/great grandparents are left with raising their childrens offspring. Many are ill equipment financially or physically to take on this burden. Sometimes you have to play the bad guy, it's not fair, but it's also not fair for new guardians who've already paid their dues to be saddled with the burden of raising another family.

      Peace to you creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Audrey, I don't look at it like abnormal, I look at it as be ashame for the grand parents, because they already paid their dues by raising us. Thank you for you comment and feedback. God bless you. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you BK, thank you for your take on this hub, I appreciate you and your comment and feedback. God bless you.creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you always exploring, it is good that the government give financial benefits, but it's still would be better if the parents is able to take care their own children. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Love To Read for your visit,comment and feedback and what you say is so true, The times aren't like they use to be. God bless youj. creativeione59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Hello, for your comment, I appreciate you. Godspeed.creativeone59

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      8 years ago from Washington

      Seems like an epidemic - although I was raised mostly by my grandmother so I think it would be hard for me to look on it as all that abnormal. Great piece, Faye.

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      BkCreative 

      8 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      Hello creativeone59! I read that more than any other state, grandparents in the state of GA are raising their grandchildren. Not helping but raising them. I also have a friend doing this and it is her life. I don't mind helping - in fact I enjoy it but if I my child thinks I am SUPPOSED to do it - then I am going.

      If raising children is harder today and more expensive - well imagine how grandparents must feel doing this all over again. I agree with you - we don't want to see children abused or put in foster care - but we shouldn't be quick to take on the role of parents. We must step back - even be absent sometimes so they can see how much work it truly is.

      Thanks creativeone for addressing a very important topic that concerns so many of us. I don't know of any other nation on earth where it has suddenly become the responsibility of so many elders to raise grandchildren. Something is seriously wrong here.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      8 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I agree, grown children sometimes take advantage of their parents. Here in IL.Grandparents are given a check from the gov. for taking care of the children. I think that,s a good thing, esp. for low income families.

      Cheers

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      Loves To Read 

      8 years ago

      This is so true creativeone. Although many grandparents of today were the old style that brought their kids up as best they could. Those parents born 70's, 80's had a mind of their own and wanted the free life. This is the start of the downfall of true parents and their children. Not all are at fault of being bad parents but with no discipline in todays generations. Heaven help us all.

      God Bless

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      Hello, hello, 

      8 years ago from London, UK

      You have made a good point. Thank you for a well written hub.

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