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Gypsy's but not Tramps and Thieves

Updated on April 21, 2017
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Nell is a trained Psychologist and lives in London England. She has been writing since she was a child.

I grew up in a normal working class home, and went to school just up the road from where I lived. My mum and dad presumed I would marry a man that was similar to me, and up until the age of twenty I dated men similar to the kind that they approved of. Until one day I turned up at the house with someone that they took one look at and just shook their heads.

When he was in the kitchen making a cup of coffee, my mother said to me. You have got to be joking. And my dad just shook his head and said, oh Ena leave her alone, he's probably very nice. My dad was like that, give everyone a chance until proven wrong. My mum on the other hand, wasn't so polite. He looks like a Gypsy, she hissed. I don't know whether she was being insulting or very astute! But yes he was a Gypsy, or Romany as they prefer to be called. I think my mum was remembering the old saying, which was told to us when we were small. If you don't behave I'll give you to the Gypsies. I must have been a very bad girl.

Now you're probably thinking, how did she know what he was? well, he had the looks. I meant dreamy. she meant swarthy and untrustworthy! I meant romantic, she meant lazy and a crook. so as you can see, it didn't get of to a very good start.

At that age, just turning twenty, I thought i knew it all, and the more my mother said no I said yes, she said leave him, so I went and married him! Neither of us had any money, and much to my mother's shame, when went to live in a caravan on a site, in the next town. Talk about cliché, as my mother so aptly put it, ' you only need the horses and the pegs and you will be well away'.

Actually she was nearly right. The site that we lived on was full off Romany's, but there were a few Gorgies, as they call normal people. In the old days they called us Giorgio's. There weren't any caravans with horse's, the old caravan's were called Vardo's, because this was the eighties not a hundred years ago. But the similarities were still there. Scrap metal was a day to day encounter, men sitting on the steps of the vans, with their hammers and Stanly knives stripping copper wire, or burning off the rubber and tying up the clean copper. Cars and vans delivering brass and iron to be sorted and put in boxes to take to the scrap yard. The women always seemed to wear brightly colored clothing even though the younger ones wore modern clothes, the older ladies always wore knee length pleated or straight skirts, some with aprons, others with big belts.

And the earrings, I have never seen so many big bright hoops and the majority always wore scarves around the hair. The one thing that absolutely amazed me was their kindness. After we had moved into the caravan, a stream of women would knock on the door with presents for the caravan. Curtains, tablecloths, cups and saucers, bedding even makeup, just to make you feel welcome. When I showed my surprise, they said in a puzzled way, well girl, you are one of us now. As though it was normal for everyone to do this.

The other thing that surprised me was the cleanliness of their caravans. They were spotless. The carpets were bright and clean, very thick pile. Their cups and saucers had gold rims around them, and I was always afraid to go into there vans because i thought I would make them dirty with my shoes!

We were always broke, but it wasn't through lack of trying. Jake my husband looked for jobs everywhere and sometimes worked for months, but at other times he lost his job and we were back to the scrap metal. I did a bit of cleaning, but by now my pride and joy had come along, my son, and I stayed at home and looked after him. At the back of the caravan site was a winding road that led to a village called Owlswick, which led alongside a small stream, and because it was a small road there were not many cars along it so to get to the scrapyard there,Jake made a barrow about six feet in length and put two wheels underneath towards the middle. With a couple of handles at the front, we were well away. I sat in the middle, and my son, who was about eighteen months old by this time, sat at the front and Jake pushed us all the way to Owlswick, surrounded by a ton of scrap metal! Ah, those were the days!

I remember one time we went there, I met a gypsy woman who pulled into the car park, and came over to us. I didn't know her, but she had the gypsylooks. Dark skin and long black curly hair, earrings jangling around her ears. 'well dawdy' she said, was you doing here with a chavi in a barrow then? she said. chavi?, oh I thought, she means a baby. It takes a while to understand the accent, the only way I can describe it is like skimming a stone across water. The words seem to jump and not quite touch the ground.

Anyway, I told her what we were doing and she said, Well, you come a me, and I see what I got in me boot o me car,' so I followed her and she opened the back. Reaching in, she pulled out about three bags of brand new baby clothes, and handed them to me. That's for da sprog, and I won't take no for an answer, we's has to look after our own' she said, giving me the biggest smile, and with a wave, got back in the car, and drove away. I was astounded and humbled. When Jake came back i told him what had happened. He just looked at me and said, Yeah well that's what we do' and smiled. Every year when the fairground came to town, we would get dressed up in our finest and take my boy along to see what was going on. We never paid a penny, because it was run but gypsies and there is a knowledge of who belongs to the community. The men are all friends and even when they don't know each other, after ten minutes of talking the find out that Ben knows Fred and Joe is related to Jon, by marriage or cousins once removed! and that's it everything is automatically free. My son went on all the rides, got free candy and had a whale of a time.

The only time I felt scared was when we went to visit Jake's aunt Janie, we drove out into the countryside and instead of turning left, we turned right by mistake. Going into what we thought was the proper Romany site, we found that we had made a mistake and gone into the diddicoy one, as Jake called it. We heard shouting and dogs barking, and looking out of the window I saw two men approach us with shotguns. I was terrified. But Jake rolled down the window and spoke to them. Their faces were ugly with anger, until he told them that he wanted the other site, spoke to them in Romany, and English slang, and then to my relief, the anger turned to smiles, the guns went down, and they yelled at the dogs to be quiet. They then pointed out the right road, and we headed off, much relieved. As we drove away, i looked back and saw a horse box with a window high up in the side, children were playing and a little girl was staring at me with her fingers in her mouth. She was filthy, with no shoes and a skimpy dress, even though it was winter. I couldn't believe the difference. Jake told me that they were only part gypsies, but mainly gorgie, who chose to live this way because they didn't quite fit into the main gypsy way of life. When we reached aunt Janie's caravan, it was like walking into a small compact palace. I had learned something that day. If we had been gorgie's, what would have happened i wondered. I shall never know.

We had to move when my son was two years old as the van wasn't big enough for us. so we went back to being house dwellers as they called it. I couldn't get used to it, bricks and mortar made me feel claustrophobic, and the people were normal, everyday people. Oh, don't get me wrong, they were very nice, but I missed the communal friendliness of the Romany's, the laughter and in jokes, the generous nature, and most of all there was never any bitchiness. If they didn't like someone, they wouldn't say oh keep away from her or him, they would just smile and say' well now i is akeeping away from her, but yous can make up your own mind now, an' anyway, thems not all bad, my dear'

it's twenty years now I have been a house dweller again, but if I see a gypsy woman selling heather in the street, i will never pass by without giving her some money for a sprig, and I always take time to stop and have a chat. I sometimes get odd looks, but i smile a secret smile and think to myself, I know the truth, i know what you've been missing. you see a gypsy selling heather, being a nuisance, not even talking intelligently with a posh accent. I see a lovely kindhearted lady with a touching smile, grinning at me with pleasure, because I am giving her something she doesn't get very often. A bit of respect. But i know the secret you see, so I'll let the gorgies get on with there life, in ignorance of these wonderful people i had the privilege to meet.


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      Nell Rose 2 weeks ago from England

      Hiya Paula, it always makes me smile to see you have commented! yes its the same one. we have been through some pretty weird times, and of course he is no longer my hubby, but we live together as friends. I have been out there meeting other guys over the years but didn't find anyone I wanted to be with, so I am stuck in this friendship! lol! ah well never mind! yes I will tell you when its published, I even laugh when I am editing it, its so darn funny! Haha! thanks

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      Paula 2 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Nell....I see this goes back 7 years when you first published it. So glad I caught it at this time. You never cease to surprise me, girlfriend! What sort of delicious stories do you have hidden. under your bonnet, up your sleeves and Lord knows where else?

      I can't help but think this had to be a wonderful experience for you.....actually sounds quite romantic. Did your poor Mum ever get over the shock? LOL

      So tell me, is this "dreamy" gypsy man your one and only hubby? Is he the same man you told all of us about in some of your hubs?

      I don't believe I've ever met an authentic "gypsy," but after reading this fabulous tale, I would love to!

      I'll be eager to know when you have published the book you're currently writing. I just know it will be a page-turner! Wishing you well, Paula

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      Nell Rose 3 weeks ago from England

      Thanks so much Shayla, yes people do get the wrong idea about gypsies. I am in fact writing a book about living with them, at the moment.

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      Shayla 3 weeks ago

      Loved your story. My mother told me about her encounter with the gypsies when she was about four years old. They had camped near her home. She and her older brother wandered into the camp. The gypsies were very kind and gave them black biscuits to eat. She loved to tell the story and I have felt as though I have lived the life of a gypsy ever since hearing it.

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      Nell Rose 22 months ago from England

      Thanks Jodah, it was my hubby who was the real gypsy, I am a 'gorgie' according to him! LOL! thanks for reading, nell

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      John Hansen 22 months ago from Queensland Australia

      This was very interesting Nell. Thank you for sharing this intriguing part of your life. Who would have known you were once a gypsie. We should never judge others without getting to know them. Great message here.

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      Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

      HI sparkley, yes sometimes the Gypsies who give readings on the spot so to speak are really genuine, and that sounds amazing! glad you got a good reading, thanks so much for your awesome comment!

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      Lynsey Harte 2 years ago from Glasgow

      I have once met a Gypsy who was offering readings. While I never wanted one, she homed right in on me (perhaps it's because I have a level of psychic energy) and said that I knew what she was. She then proceeded to tell me things about my life at that point that no one could ever know. She also said that I was torn between two men, but not to worry as I wouldn't end up with either. That relieved me. But it also freaked me out! I gave her £5 for those couple of minutes and as I handed the money over, I felt a surge of energy passing up my arm. Not sure how sane all of this sounds, but she was right about everything and I have ended up being with someone completely different, too :-)

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Lol! thanks Larry, I don't think the gypsies over here get a bad deal, not as bad as they used to, and of course with the tv program My big fat gypsy wedding on tv all the time, I think these days its cool to be a gypsy, thanks as always, nell

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      Larry Fields 4 years ago from Northern California

      Hi Nell. Thanks for your description of Gypsy life from the inside. I've never met a Gypsy.

      I get the impression that the reputation of Gypsies in England is less favorable than in the USA. Our cultural stereotype involves romance, moving around a lot, telling fortunes, and occasionally sticky fingers.

      And I loved the beautiful horse in the top photo.

      Voted up and more.

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi Amethystraven, thanks for reading, yes you are so right, I still do the trading and recycling! lol! well mainly the recycling! cheers nell

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      Amethystraven 5 years ago from California

      I really like this hub. I love learning about people especially outside of the concrete jungle. There are many ways to survive. I love the communal generosity. There's nothing wrong with traveling, and there is certainly nothing wrong with trading or recycling. Great hub!!!

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi katyzzz, yes many of them are, using herbs and flowers to make their own perfumes etc, and living out in the open like that is a wonderful experience, thanks so much for reading, cheers nell

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      katyzzz 5 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      Gypsies have always fascinated me. They are so different, so much closer to nature than we.

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, Denise, yes there is definitely something about that word isn't there? so romantic. I can't wait to read your hub it sounds fascinating, and thanks so much for reading, cheers nell

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      Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

      You had me at 'gypsy' Nell...it was always my favorite costume to dress up in for Halloween trick or treating. The romance of their lifestyle, the freedom and free spiritedness was what attracted me. I recently wrote a hub called Daughter of the Universe and mention having the soul of a gypsy.

      Loved the hub / rated up and awesome/interesting.

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, Trish, thanks for reading, and I am glad you liked it, cheers nell

      Hi, PDX, lol! they certainly are over the top, so to speak, funny you should say about the English voices though, a lot of the series centred around the Irish travellers more, but of course they did do the proper English Gyspies too, thanks so much for liking it, cheers nell

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      PDXBuys 5 years ago from Oregon

      I must admit, I got hooked on watching "My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding". The excesses were quite amusing - comically huge prom dresses, stretch limos, really big cakes... But the ladies are gorgeous. Having lived in England myself (long ago) it was fun to watch. Their voices were SO English...

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      Tricia Mason 5 years ago from The English Midlands

      Hi :)

      Thanks.

      An interesting glimpse into another way of life :)

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, homestead, it was a strange, funny and totally different experience, never a dull day! lol! thanks again, nell

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      Cindy Murdoch 5 years ago from Texas

      I have always been fascinated by the gypsy culture, but have never met anyone closer than you. I truly enjoyed your story.What wonderful memories you must have.

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, Thomas, thank you so much, it was a bit bizarre to say the least! lol totally different but fun at times too, cheers nell

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      ThomasRydder 5 years ago

      Absolutely splendid article!! I never knew much about gypsies (except for the aforementioned voluptuous woman or the crone over a crystal ball :)), but have gained immeasurable insight into their lives, via your writing. I plan on coming back and reading each and every sub-hub you have within this one...NICE

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, jami, thank you so much! it was a strange but very enjoyable time, thanks nell

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      jami l. pereira 6 years ago

      Voted up , awesome and beautiful , I loved your story ! I was on your iincredible journey , its always quite an experiance to get to know and understand other cultures , and i think that living others ways opens doors for a better future for everyone . thank you for this read ! an incredible enjoyment :)

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, queenpoetica, thanks for reading it, It was a strange time but really amazing too! thanks nell

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      queenpoetica 6 years ago from England

      Thanks for sharing your story. You write so honestly and this makes your story feel alive. I wanted to read more and I will read more of your stuff.

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, penny, thanks for reading it, Yes, most of them are lovely, and always accept you into the family, I was very surprised! lol

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      pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

      Wow gypsies sound very cool. Loving and kind comes to mind. You describe their way of life so tenderly. Thanks

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, home witch, thanks for reading it, I know what you mean, after living with them in their community, I couldn't believe how wrong everybody was! thanks again nell

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, home witch, thanks for reading it, I know what you mean, after living with them in their community, I couldn't believe how wrong everybody was! thanks again nell

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      home witch 6 years ago from Manchester

      Hello Nell,

      What a fabulous story. You really are a great writer. I really enjoyed it. Wish people weren't so bloody minded about the Romany. My best friend, the one with the posh Oxford accent used to teach some Gypsy kids when she was a teacher, and she said she always envied their closeness.

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, lightning john, it was a bit terrifying! lol luckily we were visiting the genuine caravan site up the road, otherwise I dread to think what might have happened! phew! thanks again nell

      Hi, Erin, glad you liked it, it was certainly different to what I was used too! lol cheers nell

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      Erin LeFey 6 years ago from Maryland

      Very cool hub, I've learned more and more about real gypsies in Europe this year. I love stories of other cultures and clans. Great writing! Namaste'.

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      lightning john 6 years ago from Florida

      Hi Nell, when you and your husband made a wrong turn and met the diddicoy, weilding guns, that must of have been a real unnerving moment. You certainly have experienced a lot of unique culture.

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, Eiddwen, thanks for liking it, it was a strange but funny time! but I really enjoyed living there, thanks so much as always nell

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      Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

      Hi Nell,

      I can't believe that I had missed this one out. What a brilliant hub. I can almost see you living so freely with these people for whom I have the greatest of respect.

      I am bookmarking this one as one one of my favourites plus an awseome and up.

      Before I go on anywhere else I am going to check to see many more of yours I have missed out on.

      Take care Nell.

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, Wendy, thanks for reading it, and I am glad you liked it, cheers nell

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      WeNdYpOoPoO 6 years ago from Hudson Valley NY

      I really liked this hub. Thank you for sharing it.

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, Tatjana, thanks for reading it, I am glad you liked it, cheers nell

      Hi, TVL, lol thanks so much!, cheers nell

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      TheVacationLady 6 years ago from Everywhere

      Oh....I SO much enjoyed this hub! What a fabulous read for the night. Thanks!

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      Tatjana-Mihaela 6 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA

      Thanks for sharing amazing piece of your life...

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, ahorseback, blooming cheek! ha ha ha I expect it is true, but I am an honest gorgie girl, not of the blood as they say, but to tell you the truth if the girls can lie as good as the men, then they will never ever know each other properly! lol I know my husband was the best liar in the world! thanks again nell

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      ahorseback 6 years ago

      Nell, but don't jypsy girls just make up stories? I thought that's how you trapped you men! He He.....

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      Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

      Hi, ahorseback, I will certainly try and remember a few more stories, lol there are so may things that happened back then, I have to get them straight before I write them down, thanks so much nell

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      ahorseback 6 years ago

      Nell , this is so interesting , we need more of these stories , tell us more......

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Phyllis, thanks for reading it, it was sometimes good and sometimes bad, especially when the roof was leaking! ha ha thanks for stopping by, cheers nell

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      Phyllis Doyle Burns 7 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

      Nell, I just came across this hub and read it. What a delightful read! When I was a little girl I so wanted to be a gypsy and travel in those vans. You brought back some lovely memories for me. You sure must have some wonderful and loving memories.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, vietnamvet, glad you liked it, it is also one of my favourites too! thanks nell

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      vietnamvet68 7 years ago from New York State

      Great Hub, I really enjoyed reading your story. And I love the Cher Song, one of my favorites.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, rgarnett, thanks again for reading it, it was a very bizarre time! but totally different, and it got even weirder! so many odd things happened because of being married to my husband, it could only happen in my life! lol cheers nell

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      Rachael Fields 7 years ago from KC, MO

      LOL, I tell my niece that all the time. If you don't behave, I am giving you the gypsies. I have called them on the phone before :P So your lead up to this title in your profile definitely made me laugh. What an enlightening hub, I really enjoyed reading it. Thanks so much for sharing it.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Micky, how you doing? Thanks for popping over, I will be there with you shortly! lol well not literally, I mean i can't find a plane, where's the plane?.....

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      Micky Dee 7 years ago

      Just came over to say hi. Hi!

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Freya, thank you so much for reading my hubs today, I really appreciate it, have a nice day, cheers nell

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      Freya Cesare 7 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

      I always feel fascinating by gipsy. their colourful clothes always fun to watch. And some of them look really beautiful in it.

      This beautiful story, Nell. Like always. Your life really not an ordinary one.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, esther, glad you liked it, I lived with them on the caravan site and they were brilliant, I have never met such nice people in one place before, and I will always buy a bit of heather when I see a lady selling it in my town, thanks nell

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      estherdaniels 7 years ago from LONDON

      Hi nell thank you for your story it brought back moorises of my granfather he was a the hoses that they are so well know for and that kinds you still see it among them today there way of live is so speacial some needs to let the thurth be know about a goup of people that belong to this world as anyone relly intresting thank you.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Petra, thanks for stopping by, and yes you are right. just because they live differently to us doesn't mean that they are always thieves and lazy. some are good, some not so good, just like the rest of us! thanks again nell

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      Petra Vlah 7 years ago from Los Angeles

      This is a fascinating story for us and a great personal experience for you. Years ago I saw a very interesting and informative documentary about the migration of gypsies from India and the way they influenced, especially through music and dance, the cultures of other countries in Europe.

      The stereotype of gypsies as being thieves and lazy people – is just that; a poor understanding of a culture and a narrow-minded way of looking at them from a perspective that values a unique and very human way of life.

      Thank you for this great hub.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, mythbuster, yep that was my mum, she was so insightful! ha ha she knew what I should have known. but we live and learn. It was a very strange marriage, I can tell ya! ha ha thanks nell

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      mythbuster 7 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide

      Nell, I love this part:

      " I meant dreamy. she meant swarthy and untrustworthy!"

      lol

      There was no way I was leaving this hub 'til I finished reading after THAT.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Artisina, I always thought that the gypsy way of life was strange until I lived with them, and they are so different from what I thought. obviously there is good and bad in everyone, but I found that the way they treated outsiders marrying into the family was lovely. thanks for the comment. Nell

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      Artisina 7 years ago from Sacramento

      Thank you so much for your story. I think I must have been a Gypsy in a past life because I have always felt a connection and empathy for them. Their way to life seems wonderful to me. Thanks for showing the loving giving side of Romanys. I knew it to be true, but love the confirmation. Namaste

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Valerie, I think there is always one of us who do the odd thing, as my mum used to say. I have no idea why I went this way, completely against my family, and took the hard path instead of the easy. I always say, youth is wasted on the young, if we knew then what we know now, we probably wouldn't have done it. thanks again nell

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      valeriebelew 7 years ago from Metro Atlanta, GA, USA

      very interesting story, Nell. I never experienced anything similar, but have a niece in New Mexico who did. She traveled with rainbow gatherings all over he country, and married a homeless guy, had two kids, but divorced him later. She is the daughter of my Florida family, with quite a bit of money, so it was pretty unacceptable in her family group. Anyway, good story, and all I could think of was my niece living on the New Mexico Masa. (: v

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, 2uesday, thanks for reading it, yes it was amazing when I married into the families. Just the way they acted towards me. They gave me curtains and makeup and cups, etc, what a great way to live. thanks again for the comment. nell

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      2uesday 7 years ago

      I recently watched a TV programme about Romani/gypsy weddings it was very interesting to see. Your writing here backs up the impression of how strong the community spirit is. Thanks Nell.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Ron, That sounds really interesting. have you taken to the road? lol A couple of Vanners and a vardo. Horses and caravans! I know exactly what you mean about scrap metal. Aluminium, copper brass, etc. I think I know enough to start my own business! lol thanks again, nell

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      Ron 7 years ago

      I enjoyed your this hub very much. In some ways, I am of late living some of the same circumstances you describe. I'm learning more about scrap metal than I ever thought I'd know or care!

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Polly, sorry it took me so long to answer, glad you liked it, I will be writing some more about this subject soon. thanks nell

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      Pollyannalana 7 years ago from US

      Yes, really beautiful story. Now I will listen to the song real quick so I can move on...can't pass up Cher. Great hub!

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, gypsy horses, I am glad you liked it. I love your site, It is so well planned and the horses are gorgeous, I keep showing to everyone! sorry it took so long to answer, but I have been away for a couple of days. thanks again nell

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      gypsy horses 7 years ago

      Thanks for letting us peek into your experiences.I really appreciate it. I will try and keep finding stories about this time, and put them together for a story.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, gypsy vanner horses for sale, I have no idea! We never really had anything to do with horses, well at least I didn't being just a gorgie!! ha ha but seriously, we used to live in a modern caravan, it wasn't really up to date, I mean we had no main drainage or water at all, but I left the looking after of the horses to my husbands family. Thanks for the comment. Nell

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      gypsy vanner horses for sale  7 years ago

      I think different horses have different habits.

      Some horses are easy-going and some are not.

      so I want to know what kind of behavior or habits does a horse have..

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Granny, thanks for reading it, I am glad you like it. It was a bit of a strange time! thanks again nell

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      Granny's House 7 years ago from Older and Hopefully Wiser Time

      Wow, what a great stoy Nell. I'll be back for more. Oh, thanks for stopping by my hubs.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hiya, thanks for reading it. I lived in a caravan that was quite old, but I would have loved to have lived in a vardo, but maybe it would have been alright for a holiday in one, to check it out first. but what a lovely way to live, just traveling around with no worries. thanks again nell

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      Enlydia Listener 7 years ago from trailer in the country

      a few years back when we feared (and finally lost) losing our house, I discovered vardos (on the internet)and I told my husband I wanted to live in one. Sometimes life gets so full of stuff, and I just wanted to have a simpler life.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hiya, Joshua, thanks for reading it. I think the horse is a piebald shire horse, but I am not sure. Gypsies call horses grays, that is all I know. It was really interesting to live in a caravan, but it was also a bit basic. So I was glad to get back into a house! The caravans these days are very modern, but back then we had a smaller van and it was a bit cramped! thanks again nell

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      Levi Joshua Kell 7 years ago from Arizona

      Dear Nell, I really enjoyed your tale. As a child I always wanted to live in a Gypsy caravan, especially after my mom read me Roald Dahl's "Danny the Champion of the World" (one of the most magical and beautiful books ever). Also, I am reminded of the tale; "The Wind and the Willows" (another magickal story). When Mr. Toad convinced Ratty and Mole to go on an adventure in his newly aquired Gypsy caravan w/ him. I love thier horses too. What kind of horse is that? They look like clydesdales (sp?). Except shorter and stocky. I know no Gypsy's, but I would sure like to. I did meet an Italian witch, who used regular playing cards, instead of the Qabbalah based Tarot, to read my fortune (back in the old days), and she said that she was taught how to divine in this manner from Gypsys. She was completely accurate. This is a story that I intend to write about one of these days, because it was so amazing. But for now my cup is full. Thank you again Nell. - Joshua,

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Moulik, thanks for the comments again, I really appreciate it. I will try and keep finding stories about this time, and put them together for a story. thanks again nell

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      Moulik Mistry 7 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

      That is a wonderful story of the 'other' people - keep writing this kind of story...

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, Wyanjen, I am glad you liked it. Yes sometimes it was a bit mad, and I got used to standing around trying to understand the language! mind you I found some wonderful cursing words in Romany! cheers nell

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      Jen King 7 years ago from Wyandotte Michigan

      Wow! This is a wonderful hub, Nell.

      I appreciate your descriptions, and your unique point of view. You are able to explain one culture to the other without judgement - a foot in both worlds. :) That is beautiful.

      I'm glad I read this hub - it is a gem. Thanks.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi Dale, Thanks for taking such an interest and I will come and have a look. Thank you very much. Yes it was hard, but it was really nice the way everybody was so friendly. it suprised me, and now I won't pass a lady selling heather, without giving her some silver! cheers Nell

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      Dale Mazurek 7 years ago from Canada

      What a great hub. It does sound like a tough life but it also sounds like you enjoyed it.

      Your hub was suggested to be on my blog and it is now.

      You can find the link to my blog in my profile. I hope eventually when the blog becomes very popular your Hub gets a lot of traffic.

      Cheers

      Dale

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi franki, Yeah it was a strange way of living. it was hard though, we lived in a caravan with no main drainage, as in water toilets etc. We had to go down the road with water cans to collect the water, and the toilets were opposite the caravan. So yeah the people were lovely but it was a bit hard. I am sorry that you were homeless it must have been hell. I hope things get better for you. And thanks for stopping by. cheers Nell

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      franki79 7 years ago

      That sounds like heaven, it sounds like you landed on a different planet compared to what I've seen, me, me, me and to hell with you. (Not me, of course. I try to help others as much as I can). If I ever go homeless again, how do I find that place? LOL

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Yes I know what you mean, I did'nt realise until I lived with these people how different we are. We could learn a bit from them. Thanks again. Nell

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      Micky Dee 7 years ago

      I enjoyed this very much. I wish most people were as you are describing them. I feel like most of us have out-smarted ourselves.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hiya, Zsuzsy, yes my mum eventually came round to the idea, but she still was a bit wary! I lost my mum and dad ten years ago, but by that time they were really good friends with my hubby. Thanks for writing, and I can't wait to read more of yours. thanks again Nell

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      Zsuzsy Bee 7 years ago from Ontario/Canada

      Nell what a fascinating start into adulthood. Has your Mom come to terms with your choices? Tell us more...

      great hub

      kindest regards Zsuzsy

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Thanks ehern, I suppose we all have a strange story somewhere, this story was just a small piece of a very large bizarre picture! thanks again. Nell

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      ehern33 7 years ago

      I enjoyed your story very much. Thanks for letting us peek into your experiences. No matter who it is, everyone has something to share and that is fascinating to me. Thanks!

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Hi, fishtiger, sorry about the supper! It was'nt until I read my story back that I realised that it was'nt that normal! It was hard at times but pretty interesting and bizarre! I think I am a bit more normal now! well, perhaps not..lol Nell

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      fishtiger58 7 years ago from Momence, Illinois

      A great story Nell. I really enjoyed it. Almost burnt supper, didn't want to stop till I had read it all.

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      Nell Rose 7 years ago from England

      Thanks you so much for the comment, i was'nt sure whether to write about it or not but then thought to myself that other people write about things in their lives so I had a go. thanks again Nell

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      poetlorraine 7 years ago

      thanks for sharing so nice to read something so original....