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Happy Families Have Certain Things In Common

Updated on February 7, 2016

Happy Families Have Certain Things In Common


According to Leo Tolstoy, "Happy families do have certain things in common". The essence of a happy family is that they uplift each other, stand besides each other facing all odds as one. When children get back home, they share with parents, the most funny and intruiging incidents and stories from school. Parents greet them,and take interest in their activities. As humans, we have an ability of self awareness, that is, we can stand apart from our lives and observe it from a distance to improve upon our weaknesses. Between any stimulus and response there is a space in which lies our power to chose our response, in which lies our growth and happiness, as individuals or as a family. Being proactive is an ability to act on the basis of principles and values, rather than emotionally reacting to the circumstances, which is very essential for family cohesion and harmony.

Things Happy Families Have In Common

  1. Maintain a work-life balance and spend quality time with each other. Parents who do not carry their work home or take their household problems to the office, but maintain a fine balance between the two, are more likely to be satisfied with their situation. To spend time with each other, you do not have to spend a fortune on a luxurious vacation, it can be as simple as cleaning the house together every weekend.
  2. Build strong social ties but always keep family ahead of friends. Happy families attend community organizations, religious prayers together and make friends from the same location. This way, they get to know each other's friends. They would put family before friends.
  3. Break bread together. Though not extremely essential, family dinners are one of the few unifying activities, through which members can connect with each other. Aim to have at least four family dinners per week. You need not worry, if unable to achieve is target, as there is only 10 minutes of meaningful conversation in any meal. You can take those precious 10 minutes and place them at any time of the day, and reap the same benefits. Try to have a family breakfast, meet at a bedtime snack, even one meal on weekends can help. A recent research shows that children who eat with their families are less likely to smoke, do drugs, drink, commit suicide or develop eating disorders. They have larger vocabularies, better manners, healthier diets and higher self-esteem. The time children spend eating meals at home is the best predictor of better academic achievement and fewer behavioral problems.
  4. Stick together through the good and the bad.
  5. Make own choices and are true to themselves. Families do not work if certain members do not wish to be there. Nobody can be forced to have an interest they donot feel naturally, just because the rest of the family does.
  6. Taking care of grandparents. Children who spend time with their grandmoms are more social and show more concern for others. They teach core social skills, to be compassionate and considerate. A trusted nonparental adult increases feelings of support and satisfaction.
  7. Let the children set their goals. Cutting edge brain research suggests that children who evaluate their work themselves and make their own schedules, have better control of their lives.
  8. Family history and rituals. They increase social development and improve cohesion. Children who know about all the ups and downs faced by their parents and grandparents, have a higher self-esteem and greater confidence.
  9. Try to be fair, not right when there is a conflict.
  10. Are optimistic, open to change, and express affection,


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    • JosephRichardson1 profile image


      3 years ago

      So true. So many families these days are little more than roommates. Spending quality time together is key to strong family dynamics.

    • denise.w.anderson profile image

      Denise W Anderson 

      3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      It is good to hear that there is research to show that families who spend time doing things together have a greater likelihood of sheltering family members from the ills of our society. As a former school psychologist, I could almost predict which children would have issues in school just by visiting with the parents! Family support is vital to children's success in all areas.


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