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How has Feminism/Women Empowerment Affected Men?
The Poor Male Child
I am all for women empowerment. Our mothers, sisters, wives and friends- who wouldn't want to see them succeed? Women, like ethnic minorities have come a long way; No, wait, actually, women have come a long long way- double oppressed if I may put it like that. I mean; even women within ethnic minority groups were looked at as inferior to men and therefore had to contend with their traditional roles as mothers, wives and caretakers. Considering that they have managed to achieve as much as men and still play these roles, you have to admit- Women are way stronger.
But let's switch gears for a minute shall we? Has women empowerment and feminism in general affected the human male species in any way? See, men were traditionally looked up to as the providers, protectors and heads of the family. Is this the case today? I mean, women are working for their money, women can keep ass (seriously, women are training to protect themselves) and are even doing an excellent jobs taking care of their families. So, where does this leave the man? Has women empowerment resulted in the neglect of the male child?
Time and again I have heard of some men being referred to as "stay-at-home dad". Personally, I think that is very unusual- and not in a good way; unless they work from home of course, or something like that. Anyways, I like think the male child has increasingly been neglected, which in turn has resulted in many more male wimps than ever before. Grown men living with their moms, grown men staying at home as they wait for their girlfriends and wives to bring home the bacon, young adult males marrying older women for financial support and so on. You have to admit, such instances are becoming more and more common today than before. I cannot even count the number of times I have watched women in the Jerry Springer show explain how they work so hard to bring home the bacon and give some money to their "men". This is also the case off television. As the girl child becomes empowered and supported as she grows up, the male child is considered strong and ready to take on the world, and therefore, in most cases, will not get as much empowerment and support as the girl child. This has resulted in the girl child being more focused and determined from a young age, and therefore ready to overcome all challenges that come her way- All the way to the top. At the same time, men are becoming more feminine as they strive to fit the image of the "modern man". And who is the modern man you may ask? Well, just Google it and you'll find out. Honestly, I was not even surprised when I heard of things like Jaden Smith in feminine clothing and wanting to have his penis removed. It is simply "what's trending".
One many be inclined to ask, are all these as a result of women empowerment and feminism? Are women empowerment and feminism to blame for what has happened to the male child? Well, yes and no. I am not insinuating that women empowerment and feminism are "evil". Not at all- I am simply saying that they have resulted in the male child being neglected. As a result, the male child has lost his identity. He is not sure what his role in the society is any more. The media has become his teacher, his guide to through life. And what is the media teaching him? Well, it teaches him that he needs to go with the times. Be more sensitive, become more fashionable, carry male purses, and get their nails and eyebrows done and so on. In other harsh terms, become more feminine. And what are the women and the girl child being taught by the media? Sure, they are being taught to be pretty and such, but are also being taught to rise above men; to work towards their goals and accomplish them and the list goes on. Tell me this is not true... :)
Again, I am not saying that women empowerment is evil or anything; I would love nothing than to see my sister succeed- Honestly, my only issue is that the male child is being neglected in the process.
There are so many instances I have heard grow men being told to act their age and stop behaving like little boys. I am sure you have heard of the following phrase countless times “you are not a man, you are just a boy”. Interesting enough is that such comments are not just directed towards young adults, but also grown adult men, who tend to act and behave like younger boys in high school.
So whose role is it to teach the male child how to become and man? It is the feminists’? I doubt that. It is the role of fathers and grandfathers to do this. The only problem is that these fathers and grandfathers are also adopting the current trends, maybe in an attempt to re-live their youth. It is for this very reason that I can safely conclude that the future of the male child does not look all that bright.
Not Against Feminism
Again, I am not and never will be against feminism. It has benefited the women and saved them from the oppression and suffering they went through before the 21st century. Although the situation of women is still not ideal, feminism has really benefited them. Like I said before, I am only concerned about how much this has affected the male child. Maybe I am wrong, Maybe men have simply let themselves go. So, if I am wrong, are there no negative impacts on the male child? who is to blame? talk to me, let me know your thoughts on this.