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Here's to Single Mums on Fathers' Day
Mothers, mamas, mommies, moms,
they guide us through these restless qualms.
Soothing, gentle, nourishin',
their instinct birth'd from deep within.
Is a mother a mother because she gave birth?
Legally, yes. Logically, more so.
Does it take birth to make a mother?
Must a woman bear a child just to earn the name mother?
This Hub is dedicated to all the single mothers out there. To those raising your children on your own. On Fathers' Day may you too be celebrated.
To Foster a Child
A mother isn't a mother because they gave birth to a baby. Likewise, giving birth doesn't automatically make a woman a mother.
Mother is a title to be earned. The verb, to mother means to keep an eye on, to look after, mind, care for, foster. When you foster something you promote and support it, cherish and cultivate it. A mother is a woman who fosters a child. Adoptive mothers are as "maternal" as birth mothers. Not all birth mothers are maternal.
To be a good mother one must be a foster mother. To be a good birth mother, one must take on the role of a foster mother. A good mother must foster her child.
To Father A Child
What is a father? A male person who contributes to the birth of a child? Well, scientifically, yes. A father is the sperm donor. Scientifically . "Sperm donor" is also a term single mothers and estranged children like to call their absent paternal figures.
To be a father in the parental manner is to beget, to create something. To establish, to trigger, invent. To father a child is to build up a child, to shape him so that he will one day be able to protect himself on his own. A father must also "mother" the child. That doesn't mean that a father must baby the child, it just means that a father must support and encourage the child.
The fact that mother is a synonym of the verb to father indicates that both mother and father are one in the same, or complimentary of each other at least.
Mumsy, ma, mummy, mum!
I do believe I've hurt my thumb!
My cries for help you can't ignore,
No matter how much of a chore!
A child is demanding on both parents. Imagine how demanding children are on a single parent (either mother or father).
To be a Single Mother
I take this time of celebrating fathers to celebrate single mothers. Not because I wish to turn the spotlight away from those wonderful fathers out there but to add another title to those single mothers out there. I write this Hub to celebrate those single mothers out there who are playing a triple role.
Single mothers play the role of a mother, a foster and a father. Single mothers wear many hats.
Growing up as an only child to a single mother, I had an all in one package. I am blessed to have a nurturing, caring, comforting mother who's tough and who builds me up and has prepared me to take on the world on my own.
Let's Be Fair
To all the single fathers out there, you're wearing many hats too! You're probably being mum and dad. Good job! You should take Mothers' Day to celebrate as well.
Being a single mother does not make a woman less capable of being a great parent.
Being the child of a single mother does not make a child less likely to succeed.
Being a single mother does not make a woman neglectful.
A mother who chooses to raise a child on her own is not selfish.
A mother who chooses to raise a child on her own has a good reason for choosing that option. Having both parents in a child's life is beneficial only if both parents get along. A neglectful father in a child's life--a promise-breaking father--can be worse than a father completely missing from the picture.
A father who chooses to raise a child on his own for similar reasons should be commended for taking a stand!
To My Mother
Thank you for protecting me from heartbreak,
for choosing the right way to raise me on your own.
Thank you for protecting me from heartbreak,
for making every moment a happy moment.
Thanks for teaching me the value of the little things,
for being a beam of optimism in a clouded world of pessimism.
You're the hardest working mother I know,
yet you've always found time for me.
You constantly give up your comforts,
and route them to me.
Thanks for your stability.
Thanks for the lessons you taught me that I can someday pass on to your grandchildren.
Thanks for being mum and dad.
HAPPY FATHERS' DAY
to all you dads out there of every status.
Happy Fathers' Day to all you single mums. You should enjoy this day too!
Thanks for reading!