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Here's to Single Mums on Fathers' Day

Updated on July 10, 2016

Mothers, mamas, mommies, moms,

they guide us through these restless qualms.

Soothing, gentle, nourishin',

their instinct birth'd from deep within.

Is a mother a mother because she gave birth?

Legally, yes. Logically, more so.

Does it take birth to make a mother?

Must a woman bear a child just to earn the name mother?

This Hub is dedicated to all the single mothers out there. To those raising your children on your own. On Fathers' Day may you too be celebrated.

To Foster a Child

A mother isn't a mother because they gave birth to a baby. Likewise, giving birth doesn't automatically make a woman a mother.

Mother is a title to be earned. The verb, to mother means to keep an eye on, to look after, mind, care for, foster. When you foster something you promote and support it, cherish and cultivate it. A mother is a woman who fosters a child. Adoptive mothers are as "maternal" as birth mothers. Not all birth mothers are maternal.

To be a good mother one must be a foster mother. To be a good birth mother, one must take on the role of a foster mother. A good mother must foster her child.

To Father A Child

What is a father? A male person who contributes to the birth of a child? Well, scientifically, yes. A father is the sperm donor. Scientifically . "Sperm donor" is also a term single mothers and estranged children like to call their absent paternal figures.

To be a father in the parental manner is to beget, to create something. To establish, to trigger, invent. To father a child is to build up a child, to shape him so that he will one day be able to protect himself on his own. A father must also "mother" the child. That doesn't mean that a father must baby the child, it just means that a father must support and encourage the child.

The fact that mother is a synonym of the verb to father indicates that both mother and father are one in the same, or complimentary of each other at least.

Mumsy, ma, mummy, mum!

I do believe I've hurt my thumb!

My cries for help you can't ignore,

No matter how much of a chore!

A child is demanding on both parents. Imagine how demanding children are on a single parent (either mother or father).

To be a Single Mother

I take this time of celebrating fathers to celebrate single mothers. Not because I wish to turn the spotlight away from those wonderful fathers out there but to add another title to those single mothers out there. I write this Hub to celebrate those single mothers out there who are playing a triple role.

Single mothers play the role of a mother, a foster and a father. Single mothers wear many hats.

Growing up as an only child to a single mother, I had an all in one package. I am blessed to have a nurturing, caring, comforting mother who's tough and who builds me up and has prepared me to take on the world on my own.

Let's Be Fair

To all the single fathers out there, you're wearing many hats too! You're probably being mum and dad. Good job! You should take Mothers' Day to celebrate as well.

Squashing Stigmas

Being a single mother does not make a woman less capable of being a great parent.

Being the child of a single mother does not make a child less likely to succeed.

Being a single mother does not make a woman neglectful.

A mother who chooses to raise a child on her own is not selfish.

A mother who chooses to raise a child on her own has a good reason for choosing that option. Having both parents in a child's life is beneficial only if both parents get along. A neglectful father in a child's life--a promise-breaking father--can be worse than a father completely missing from the picture.

A father who chooses to raise a child on his own for similar reasons should be commended for taking a stand!

To My Mother

Thank you for protecting me from heartbreak,

for choosing the right way to raise me on your own.

Thank you for protecting me from heartbreak,

for making every moment a happy moment.

Thanks for teaching me the value of the little things,

for being a beam of optimism in a clouded world of pessimism.

You're the hardest working mother I know,

yet you've always found time for me.

You constantly give up your comforts,

and route them to me.

Thanks for your stability.

Thanks for the lessons you taught me that I can someday pass on to your grandchildren.

Thanks for being mum and dad.


to all you dads out there of every status.

Happy Fathers' Day to all you single mums. You should enjoy this day too!

Thanks for reading!


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    • kaltopsyd profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      I agree. Thanks, Tina!!

    • gr82bme profile image


      8 years ago from USA

      My mom was a single parent also. There were 5 of us kids. She kept us all together. Moms are the strongest people on earth.


    • kaltopsyd profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      I grew up without a father my entire life too and like your mother, my mother never let any man take care of you. It's great you have a mother that's always there for you.

      Thanks for commenting!

    • LizzyBoo profile image


      8 years ago from Czech Republic

      Wooow. My father died when I was 5 or 6 years old. So I grown up without father. My mother was amazing. She helped me a lot throught my life.

      She never let any man to take care of me. Even now she is always here for me.

      Thank you once again. LizzyBoo

    • kaltopsyd profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      Thanks for reading and commenting, Cheryl-Ann!

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      8 years ago

      Very insightful, keep up the good work Kimberly.

    • kaltopsyd profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      Dobson... hmm... to answer your question about the photograph, or not to answer. It's a secret. :) Ooh, I know that's a little wicked. Thanks for commenting.

      Lady_E, I totally agree. What CAN you do when a man/woman walked out? Single parents can do a better job raising children at times. Thanks for commenting!

      Marvalous, what can I say? Thank you. I HAVE to pay tribute to my mother. She's the best. Thanks again!

    • marvalousnj profile image


      8 years ago from Central Jersey USA

      Aww...this is beautiful!! You are a well rounded writer. I appreciated that you not only paid tribute to single mother's but in the same breath you encouraged and paid tribute to fathers also.

      Good article and as I previously stated..... BEAUTIFUL!!!

    • Lady_E profile image


      8 years ago from London, UK

      Beautiful Tribute. Sometimes single parents don't have any choice but to raise kids by themseslves. What do you do when a man/woman walks out on you?

      It's also interesting that some even do a better job than 2 parents and I hope they all reap the rewards as it's a big Sacrifice. A Labour of Love.

      Best Wishes.

    • Dobson profile image


      8 years ago from Virginia

      What a wonderful tribute to your mother. Is this a picture of you and her that has no attribution elsewhere? Great job Kimberly!

    • kaltopsyd profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      Alexandria! Thanks for stopping by to read my Hub. It's cool that you can relate to me. I'm glad I'm not alone on this. I was slightly nervous about how people would take this Hub. I still am.

      Thanks for commenting!

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      8 years ago

      What a great Hub! That was well said! Being raised by a single mother myself, taught me to respect her because she played 2 roles. I don't celebrate Father's Day for my "father" but I do always somehow take some extra time to thank my mom for all she has done for me. I could definitely relate to this! Great job! :)


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