Hey Girls! Be Smart, Not Stupid! - Hub 6 - Parents
The content of this chaptered article of information is intended to enlighten and encourage young girls by promoting mentally and emotionally healthy attitudes in preparation for adulthood.
The content is written for general knowledge and is not meant to replace or supercede parental or professional guidance.
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Hey Girls! - Hub 6 - Parents
The term ‘parents’ is used in this booklet to refer to the adults who are responsible for you during your childhood years.
Parents are human beings that deserve to be treated as such and you must keep in mind that your time living with them is very short when compared to the rest of your life.
One of the most difficult aspects of growing up is realizing that good parents are really trying to teach you to do well. And while there are certainly all different kinds of parenting methods, by the time you are thirteen you should be able to understand what type of method your parents are using. And you must respect them for it! But, if there are some expectations that you honestly feel are too demanding you must talk to them about it and work on a compromise. And make sure that your input is not being driven by laziness, selfishness, rudeness, or any other negative behavior. Parents should be more open to consider your requests if you are a good kid and you have shown them that you are a trustworthy and considerate teenager.
Respecting your Parents
There seems to be a growing trend that it is permissible for young people to be disrespectful to their parents. This is a terrible thing happening all over our society. Teens need to remember that they are still CHILDREN and their parents are the ADULTS. Parents are responsible for their children. It is a demanding job raising children and parents should have sense enough to insist their children show them respect. If you know you are disrespectful to your parents, it’s time to change your ways. Stop being a brat and acting like a little kid who doesn’t know any better. Treating your parents badly is a terrible thing to do. Not having respect for your parents is another issue you must resolve while you are young. Because it prepares you to have respect for other authoritative people you will encounter throughout your life…like teachers and principals, bosses and supervisors, bank and/or loan personnel, and police officers and judges!
Talking with your parents
Kids must be able to talk with their parents. Communication is a vital part of good relationships. Learning how to talk with adults now will help you when you become an adult. Certainly the time will come when you can expect to be involved in romantic relationships and there is no greater need for good communication than when you start dating and having boyfriends and then possibly a husband. You must be able to constructively express and assert yourself to others. Learning good communication and being assertive starts with your parents and gets fine tuned through schooling and maturity.
It is important to realize that arguing is not usually conducive to positive outcomes. When you sit down to talk to your parents remember these rules:
1. Don’t argue.
2. Don’t use foul language.
3. Don’t make threats.
4. Think about what you are going to say before you blurt out something you don’t really mean.
5. Give them time to talk and finish sentences before you respond or
‘retaliate’. Expect the same consideration from them to let you say
what you need to say.
6. If things get heated or you start to lose control ask to take a break so
everyone can consider what has been said so far.
7. Then try to regroup and continue the discussion.
8. Keep your mind open to consider your parents views.
9. Be willing to compromise in order to come to successful conclusions
10. Thank your parents for their time and efforts to help you.
Again, being able to talk with your parents is a vital aspect of growing up. Respect them for their knowledge and experiences. Most all grown ups can say “been there, done that” when relating to issues and situations you are facing or will face. Don’t forget that your parents were teenagers before you and give them a chance to help you avoid problems they may have encountered then. The wise teenager will listen and consider their parents’ advice. There isn’t any adult that couldn’t tell you that they wished they had listened to their parents’ advice about something.
If by chance you do not have parents capable of rational communication, find someone who is mature and trustworthy that you can talk to…another
family member, pastor, teacher, guidance counselor, or coach that would be willing to help you communicate with your parents.
Remember that you are looking out for your future to become a mature adult and learning to communicate is essential!