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Hey Girls! Be Smart, Not Stupid! - Hub 8 - Friends
The content of this chaptered article of information is intended to enlighten and encourage young girls by promoting mentally and emotionally healthy attitudes in preparation for adulthood.
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Hey Girls! Hub 8 - Friends
Hey, what’s life as a teenage girl without having friends? Long time friends from 1st grade to new friends you just met. How you choose your friends is what is important. Most all girls dream of being popular at school, having lots of friends, and being ‘recognized’. But not all of us reach a high level of popularity, and for some we are content to at least not be someone who gets bullied or made fun of. Kids can be terribly cruel to others who they think are ‘different’ or not acceptable …don’t let yourself become one of the bullies or a smart-alecks getting kicks from being mean to others. That’s bad! Always try to consider the other person’s feelings and put yourself in his or her shoes…would you like it if someone was treating you that way? Your brother or sister? Mother or father? Of course not, so don’t be the idiot! It is a proven fact that it’s the people who pick on other people that actually have the serious problems!!
Choose your friends carefully. You’ll want to have things in common, meaning you will like similar things…such as music, sports, and school. But do leave yourself open for new interests, life is all about gaining new experiences…just try to keep them good experiences.
Kids are naturally curious, and it is a good thing because being curious helps you to learn new experiences. But be very careful that those new experiences aren’t dangerous; use your common sense to keep you from making bad mistakes. Sometimes ‘friends’ will tempt you to do risky things…and yes, almost ALL of us try risky things when we are young because it’s natural for kids to be curious…but DUH, don’t ever think that bad things won’t happen to you…we all experience bad things in our lifetimes…it’s up to you to be smart enough to know when a situation can turn bad or is risky. Saving yourself is not selfish! Saving yourself is smart…no one wants to get hurt, or die, but hey, things happen to people everyday just because they were too weak to say NO when they should have. True accidents do happen, of course, but when bad things happen because someone was just too stupid to see the risk it’s just horrible. Some things to really watch for are: drinking alcohol, doing drugs, smoking, doing dangerous things on a dare, driving a car without a license, running away from home, stealing, fighting, having sex, making fun of other people, and joining gangs.
Choose friends who like to have real fun, clean fun. There really is plenty for kids to do and often real fun doesn’t have to cost much. Find a hobby that interests you, get back to basic leisure time activities like sewing, crafts, reading, scrapbooking, collecting, drawing, writing stories or poetry, animal care, gardening, photography, playing sports, doing volunteer work, etc …there are many possibilities. It’s important for you to make constructive use of your time, and keep yourself out of trouble. And these types of activities ARE cool! It’s only a misguided perception that these things are boring or nerdy. It’s how you think about them that matters. You can also ask your parents to help you with some ideas