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How Alcohol Addiction Effects Our Childrens Lives
How much do we love our children? Do we love them enough to keep them out of harms way? Would you die for your children? Would you protect your child's life no matter what you had to do?
All my answers would be yes. How about you?
If we answer these question truthfully with all being yes then why do we put our children in harms way by exposing them to drugs and alcohol even in their early stages of live. Do we think that they will not remember all the horrible things they saw as a young child?
Do we think that they will not follow in mommy or daddy's footsteps? If a child is brought up in a addicted family life, how can they think that this action is wrong. They see their parents using and abusing the drug each and everyday. In their minds they think that this must be okay to do, after all mommy and daddy do it.
This is not to say that we are also putting them in danger for many reason. Fights and arguments between the parents. Things being thrown about during a argument. Verbal abuse to the children and between both parents.
If we the addicts or alcoholics want to ruin our lives or kill ourselves that is our decision,BUT our children do not deserve to be put in the middle of our ruined and horrible life. These poor children don't even know what is right or what is wrong. They are too young to realize anything.
Believe me, I feel guilty as heck for what I put my children through all those year of drinking alcohol. With verbal abuse to my wife and sometimes losing my temper with my children. Being more nasty then I would have been if I were sober.
No one wants to live with a alcoholic, and no one should have to live with one. It's our choice whether to stick it out with them or just leave, but when there is alcoholism in a family who really suffers?
We are all grown adult people and we can make that decision on our own whether to stay or go, BUT our children don't have that luxury of making that kind of decision, they are stuck with the addicted with nothing to say or do, but hide from the horror in the household.
With our children being brought up in this type of environment the will feel the percussion over their life time. They will never ever forget what was said and what was done. It will stick in their minds forever.
I'm sure we as parents now, might have been victims of the same thing when we were young.
Please take a moment to think before you decide to go on your drug or alcohol rampage, and take a good look around you of what you are ruining, like your relationship with your spouse, and most important, your children that love you and look up to you as their role model, teacher and their parent.
And we must not forget that not only are we ruining our relationships and our children, we are indeed ruining our own lives with substance abuse, and each and every time we use we are putting one more nail in our coffin.