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How To Be A Dad, Pregnancy and Labor
We all know how babies are made, sperm meets egg; they have a little party and then they divide a couple of million times until inside the mother sits a fully developed baby waiting to come out into the world kicking and screaming.
You have had your wicked way with the mother to be and a month or two later she tells you "We need to talk". This is your first big test "I am Pregnant," she says.
Now how you react at this point of time can be an indicator of how things are going to pan out between you and her and the baby to be.
When those words hit home, and the initial shock coupled with the inane screaming in your head stop, how are you going to react?
Becoming a Dad
"I'm Pregnant" always a moment of stunned silence when you hear those words, then there is the reaction.
- My darling that is wonderful!
- How, why, what how did that Happen?
- Is it mine?
- Run away, change your name and never be heard of again.
If number one is your reaction, then there is a good chance that you will all be a happy little family together.
If number two is your reaction, it may not have sunk in properly yet and there is still a good chance that you will become a part of a great family.
If number three is your reaction, you are accusing your girl of cheating on you, of course this is just your first reaction to stunning news, there is still a chance to be part of a happy family so long as you grovel and plead for forgiveness and then accept that the baby is yours.
If number 4 is your reaction then you need to do a bit of growing up and if another girl is stupid enough to let you into her bed make sure you wear protection.
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Daddy and Pregnancy
So you are going to be a daddy, your little sperm, instead of landing in a tissue or a towel this time, has done what nature intended and has created a new life, your girlfriend is pregnant and your life has just changed forever.
They say that men get it easy during pregnancy. That the woman's body is doing all of the work while he breezes through life. As a father of four little darlings I can tell you that this is not the case being pregnant affects you too.
A good father to be will be there for his pregnant girlfriend, through all of her "little phases" Her hormones will be going on a rollercoaster ride and you will be there all the way holding her hand and supporting her.
You may be one of the very few lucky men who has a girl that breezes through her pregnancy as if nothing had ever changed but for those of us who aren't that lucky, pregnancy can be just as hard on us as it is on her.
When your good lady is going through morning sickness you had better hope that you work during the daytime, I made the mistake of working an evening job with our first born.
Standing behind her rubbing her back whilst she brings up her breakfast and last nights supper may sound easy, but this is when she first starts blaming you for her condition. Thank goodness, her head is down the bowl because some of the words that come out of her mouth would put a nun in a coffin.
Her hormones are going wild and she will suddenly break down in a flood of tears, it is very difficult to console her, especially when she does not even know the reason why she is crying. You have to be there to reassure her, hold her hand and again accept the blame for your part in the conception.
A pregnant woman is prone to strange cravings, pickled onions, ice cream, mustard and pineapples and some women go the whole hog and crave items that are not usually eaten such a coal or chalk. Woe betides you if she has a craving and you do not have what she wants in the house. No matter what time of day or night, you will have to get it for her. Thank goodness, for 24/7 stores, just pray that they have what she is craving. Of course, by the time you get back home, she has changed her mind and you have to go out again.
Jason and Alison Seconds after Birth July 2010
Daddy and Labor
In days gone by, men were told to fetch sheets and plenty of boiled water when his girl went into labor. Now we get to see every single gory detail in glorious Technicolor as we are invited into the labor ward to share in the wonderful miracle that is childbirth.
Now that men are invited into the labor ward, they get to play a very important role in the birth of their child, they get to sit next to their woman and hold her hand, comfort her and help with her breathing or panting through labor pains.
Sounds so easy doesn't it?
In reality when she feels pain, you feel pain she screams so loud your eardrums shatter. She squeezes your hand so hard your fingers almost break and when you are supposed to be helping her to pant properly, you hyper ventilate and almost pass out. At the same time she is shouting so many profanities at you, some that you have never heard before, that the nun in the coffin is now turning in her grave.
This can go on for hours and it usually does.
Daddy And Birth
When you hear the words "I can see baby's head," this is not the time to pass out, you will be left where you land, everyone else is too busy dealing with the birth of your child to bother about you. Try to stay upright because when they see baby's head the action is just about to begin, it's all hands on deck time, this is not a drill, baby is on the way and nothing whatsoever is going to stop it from happening.
Another couple of screams, a little more damage to your ears and fingers and suddenly baby is here slime blood and body fluids and all, but none of that matters because at that precise moment in time when you see that child for the first time you lose control of your emotions. You may cry, you may laugh, and it may be that you are too overwhelmed to show any emotion but as soon as you see that child in mom’s arms, you fall in love, a different love than you have ever felt before. A warmth engulfs you and you forget all that has gone on during the course of the pregnancy as you realise that this is the most perfect moment in your entire life.
Jason and Daddy
Life Begins For Baby And Daddy
The Birth of your child is just the beginning, you have the rest of your life to get to know each other, to learn and grow with each other. To be there for your child whether needed or not, to spend time with your child to love your child unconditionally as your child will you.
Any man can father a child but not every man can be a father, if you try to do your best for your child through good and bad times then you are well on the way to being a great dad.
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