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My Child Hates Kindergarten Homework

Updated on September 13, 2012
Kindergarten homework builds the foundation for homework skills in the future.
Kindergarten homework builds the foundation for homework skills in the future. | Source

"My child refuses to do her kindergarten homework!"

During pick up time I heard a few parents discussing how their children hated kindergarten homework. As I waited for my daughter's class to end I silently thanked the universe for helping my child find joy while doing her kindergarten homework. I felt blessed my daughter wanted to do her homework and actually looked forward to homework time. The universe answered back later that afternoon with a resounding, "Ha-ha-ha." What changed in a matter of a few days? Instead of drawing pictures of her teacher and friends she was now expected to practice her writing. My daughter loves writing words, always has, but writing between the lines...well, that's a different story.

"I don't want to. Blah. Nooo...I don't want to!" My daughter repeated her new mantra while practicing her letters. Every now and then my daughter would say, " I don't want to go up to the sky, back to the ground, stop at the fence...I want to do it my way!" This continued for about ten minutes. Finally, my daughter dropped her pencil, pushed away her paper and pretended to fall asleep in her chair. I knew this was going to be a long year.

Model a positive attitude towards homework for your child.
Model a positive attitude towards homework for your child. | Source

"Is it worth it?"

I hear many parents asking this same question. Although to some degree I feel kindergarten is the new second grade, I also acknowledge the fact school-age education has far surpassed my own personal experiences. Education takes place in a new arena and our children have to learn how to play the game early in life.

Kindergarten Homework:

  • Gives young children a sense of responsibility.
  • Gives children the opportunity to practice time management skills.
  • Young children are able to practice doing homework for more advanced tasks in the future.
  • Young children begin to understand the value of learning tasks.
  • Can build relationships between children and parents (caregivers).
  • Homework helps keep families informed about class activities.
  • Homework helps schools achieve their overall mission of improving student’s achievement. (Seven Steps To Homework Success: A Family Guide for Solving Common Homework Problems by Sydney S. Zentall, Ph.D. and Sam Goldstein, Ph.D.)

How To Make Homework Fun

“There’s a principle in psychology that states if you want somebody to like something they don’t like, you need to make all of the surrounding conditions as positive as you can.” - Sydney S. Zentall, Ph. D.

5 Ways To Make Homework Fun

  1. Promote The Positives- Begin homework by focusing on positive words. Incorporate silly songs, rhymes, simple games or objects around the house to inspire your child's motivation. In order to help my daughter write her letters I used simple phrases taught by her teacher, but I turned them into a song.
  2. Create A Peaceful Space- Create a "working" space. Prepare a small homework area with a table, chair and supplies. Allow your child to help prepare and decorate the area. If parents show respect for the task at hand then their children will value their "work" as well.
  3. Turn Off The Television- Focus on the homework games. Turn off the television, phones, Ipads, etc. Listen to classical music or other soothing sounds if it helps relax your child.
  4. Be Present- Make time to be there with your child. Your child needs to know you are there to answer questions and offer encouragement when needed. Designate time from your schedule to be an active participant.
  5. Do Not Wait Till The Last Minute- Kindergarten homework is usually designed to take about 15 minutes a day. If you save the daily assignments for the day before the homework is due then you set yourself, and your child, up for a night of stress. Practicing how to manage time is a very important aspect of kindergarten homework.

Other Useful Tips:

  • Do not wait till your child is overly tired before beginning homework.
  • Create a fun weekly homework chart.
  • Take the "no" out of the equation. Instead say, "Great try. Try again. Great job. Let's practice together. You can do it."
  • Take a break. Come back to the homework after a small snack or short story.
  • Parents can take breaks too. If you start to feel frustrated, move to a different room, take a deep breath and come back when you're ready.
  • Praise, praise, praise, praise. Celebrate your child's accomplishments. Post the homework on the refrigerator. Tell the grandparents. Take pictures. Make it special outside of homework time.

"I did it."

My daughter eventually completed her homework assignment. It was designed to only take ten minutes, but we ended up working on the homework for thirty minutes. However, by having fun and focusing on the positives my daughter now understands the "expectations of the games" and enjoys our time together. We even made a simple homework chart to validate her accomplishments. After our homework struggle my daughter said, "I did it. I did work just like you do. Not too bad."

How To Make Homework Fun


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      TeachableMoments 5 years ago from California

      Sherry, thanks for stopping by. I wasn't a fan of homework either. I remember pushing my dad's buttons until he had to walk away. =) It's just a part of growing up. Hopefully my technique continues to work with my daughter. Thanks for voting up.

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      Sherry Hewins 5 years ago from Sierra Foothills, CA

      I hate homework too!! I hated it when I was doing it, and I hated it when my kids were doing it. I hope you are successful in helping your daughter get through school, and homework, without too much suffering. At least you have a good strategy for it. Nice hub, voted up and useful.

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      TeachableMoments 5 years ago from California

      Christine, so many parents have mentioned how much they hate homework. The amount of homework is unbelievable for older school-age children. At times it seems excessive. I agree, when are children expected to play and be kids? I can't even begin to imagine what college is going to be like for our kids. Wowzers. Thanks for taking the time to read my hub and voting up.

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      Christine Miranda 5 years ago from My office.

      Uhhh. I feel her pain! :) Honestly, I hate my kids having to do homework. I haven't seen them in 8 hours by the time they get home, my youngest has about 4 1/2 hours until bedtime less mealtime and homework there is not much "family time" left.

      They schools have cut down on recess compared to when we were kids, when do they expect kids to play? Now that she is older and spends an hour on the bus home everyday she has been doing it on the bus so she can play when she gets home. Good suggestions. Voted up.

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      TeachableMoments 5 years ago from California

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. Being an active parent and supporting your child with love and positive motivation is a must if you want your child to feel confident. No child wants to do homework, but eventually, with the right guidance, a child will strive to achieve a certain goal that is meaningful to him/her. Judging by your hubs I can tell you have been a guiding light for your children and grandchildren.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Good ideas for making homework much more of a good habit for kids. I remember those days and it was some times hard to motivate my son to get it done. If parents were to become engaged in their child's homework assignments, as you suggest, it would help the child to excel in school.

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      TeachableMoments 5 years ago from California

      Drajithkumar, I appreciate your comment. I too value the importance of playing during childhood. Children learn through play and that is why, as an early educator for the last 13 years, I strive to teach my students and my daughter the joys of learning. My daughter understands that as long as she tries her best and feels good about her accomplishments that is all that matters. I would never want my daughter to be perfect, because then she would not be human. I just want her to be happy.

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      TeachableMoments 5 years ago from California

      Thank you for the great comment. I agree, it is so important for parents to spend time with their children doing learning activities that are fun. Just ten minutes a day makes a world of difference. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Denise W Anderson 5 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Great ideas for helping children develop good habits for school success! As a School Psychologist, I observed that those parents who spent time outside of school with their child in learning activities helped them to be more successful in school and in life. Starting when they are young is the way to go!

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      drajithkumar 5 years ago from Kerala, India

      why home work for children?

      let them play, sleep, talk, cry, sing, fight, run, go to sun, rain, sand...............................why should we steal their childness from them.........................these are all part of there development.....................homeworks/studies will make them studious / but not a perfect person