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How To Make Your Child Behave And Listen

Updated on May 9, 2011

How To Make Your Child Behave And Listen To You

Learning how to make your child behave and listen to you is different for every parent.

Some have an easier time instilling discipline in the household while others find themselves at the beck and call of their children.

The latter, while very disheartening, is also more realistic if you take a look at the families shopping together at the supermarket. Family shopping is usually a reliable gauge to see how well-behaved your children are.

For example, don’t you find it interesting that there always seems to be a child fighting with a brother or a sister while the mother exasperatedly pays at the counter? Or isn’t there always a kid breaking or spilling something in aisle 3?

Kids will be kids. However, you need to know how to make your child behave and listen to you. Read on to find out how.

Tip # 1: Be Firm with Them.

The first thing you need to know when dealing with children is that they know when an adult is weak. It’s as if they know which one is easy to push and which one won’t tolerate their antics.

If you’re the mother or the father, you need to work hard at being firm. Showing weakness will only lead to your child exploiting you.

Tip # 2: Avoid Instilling Fear.

Want to know how to make your child behave and listen to you without having negative consequences? Then do it nicely and patiently.

Threatening your child might work for a short while, but it’s only going to end up giving you more problems than peace in the future.

Some parents like to tell their child that they’ll send him or her away to a scary relative or neighbor if they don’t behave properly. And while most kids forget about it after a while, there are some children who learn to hold grudges against their parents and who grow up withdrawn.

Therefore, it's not a recommended persuasion technique to get your child to behave.

Tip # 3: Don’t be Afraid to Confiscate Toys.

You love your child. I get it. However, there’s also such a thing as tough love. When your kid does something bad, like shout back at you, don’t be afraid to teach him or her a lesson by taking away his or her favorite toy for a few days. Doing this will teach your child that there are consequences to bad behavior.

Tip # 4: Lead by Example.

If you want to learn how to make your child behave and listen to you, you need to behave accordingly as well. Children, by nature, are very curious creatures. They copy their elders with hardly a concept of right or wrong.

In fact, children who grew up with abusive fathers or mothers also have a tendency to go down that same road when they start their own families. While this is not true for everybody, there are enough cases to confirm that parents’ actions have a lot to do with how a kid behaves.

Tip # 5: Reward When Necessary.

Positive reinforcement is a great way to get kids to listen to you and cooperate. For example, if you want to get your child to be polite during a children’s party, tell him or her that good behavior will not go unrewarded.

Try not to bribe your kid with money. Instead, reward your kid with simple things like his or her favorite dessert, a visit to the amusement park, etc. Do something that will help the two of you bond together.

Learning how to make your child behave and listen to you is a hit or miss kind of thing. Sometimes, you get it right. At other times, you fail miserably. However, you can’t go wrong when you keep your kids’ best interests at heart.

Don’t be afraid to learn from other parents as well. After all, you’re not the only one who’s raising children or getting them to behave in general. Everybody has had challenges bringing up their kids one way or another.

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      Dana ALhammadi 6 years ago

      I'm Dana from United Arab Emirates, i really like this article i found it very valuable and thank you for providing such informations about kids

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      George 6 years ago

      Really nice blog, but is hypnosis good for children? check