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How Tweens Avoid Parents Snooping on Facebook

Updated on May 3, 2012

Yeah, it all starts early. Before Facebook accounts, Tweens, those between 8-12 yrs. old, want to be cool and emulate the older group, Teens. So, when the tween asks for a FB account, the parent often feels safe. Yet, the tween, in a few quick clicks, can chat with others their own age (we hope) on numerous other non-FB sites, like, viddy, playground, club penguin and fashionplaymates.

They can easily share photos by downloading Instagram or share videos by downloading Viddy. According to statistics, 15% under the age of 11 have their own cell phone. Parents worry about predators and bullying and about permanent electronic records their kids may make.

Kidzvuz is a FB-like site for tweens. Playground is a site that teaches tweens how to be responsible on social media. Disney owns the ever popular Club Penguin that is censored for bad words. Kids can play and be social with others. Fashionplaytes is for girls and is all about fashion.

But many kids are able to sign up to the same accounts adults and teens can even though they are under 13. All they do is lie about their birth date and their in. Others join with their parents permission. The odd thing about tween and teens is that they think their parents should not be able to see what they are doing, yet, thousands of strangers can.

Go figure!


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    • perrya profile image

      perrya 5 years ago

      I agree, Beth, 100%.

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      Beth100 5 years ago from Canada

      There is wonderful software on the market that helps monitor what, where and when your children can access the internet. It's not a guarantee that your child will not land on inappropriate sites, but it provides some peace of mind.

      My belief is that children should be taught to be responsible. They should be taught the pros, cons, and possible outcomes due to their decisions. As you stated, it depends upon the age and maturity of the tween. My daughter, who is now 17, has had FB and a cell phone since she was 12 BUT she understood the rules and I enforced the boundaries. Slowly, she earned the privilege for outbound calls, texting and video messages. To this day, she has kept her part of the deal to keep her FB account clean -- and I still have full access to her account (yes, her password!!). It's about trust. And she's earned it from me. :)

      I have done the exact same thing with my teen sons, and they are just as responsible as she is. The test will be my youngest two..... :D but, hopefully, I'll have my techniques down pat. :)

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      perrya 5 years ago

      Yes, it does matter with the kid. I monitor my 13 yr. old's with spot checks. What I see is mostly just chit chat and junk, nothing obscene or porn. Now, the cell phone is a different breed because you can delete messages sent or received instantly.

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Thank you for the good article Perry. My ex partner has a 10 year old and a 13 year old (both girls)and both are on FB and other social sites every spare second of the day. If they are not on the PC they are on Mom's phone texting and Mom allows all this.

      Now, in this case the 13 year old is in so much contact with the wrong group of kids that there were messages going back and forth about XXX bringing a gun to school to kill people, while zzz was dating the xxx's boyfriend etc.

      It is my opinion that NO children should be allowed phones oe unescorted access to the internet until they are totally socially responsible. This age will of course differ from one child to the next, but in general the technology we have today is much more harmful than good to a young person.