- Family and Parenting
How to Answer Your Kid's Questions
Perhaps raising kids is one of the toughest yet enjoyable tasks on this earth. They play ,fight, cry around us and perhaps ask most questions to us. At times, we feel them very annoying. But we all understand that it is the part of their raising and they are much curious to know lot of things around them. Sometimes we feel completely lost with some of their questions which may at times be very stupid or very clever. When our kids ask us some very sensitive issues like sex, alcohol drugs etc, we go completely blank.
Why do Kids ask so many questions?
Kids of various age groups ask lots of questions and some of the main reasons it are: -
1. The growing phase of the child makes him/her curious about things happening around him.
2. They expect love and attention all the time. When they see us getting engaged with some other work, they tend to ask questions to gain attention.
3. Kids got lots of time in hand and when they do not engage in any creative and useful work, they tend to ask questions.
4. Sometimes it must be an excuse to avoid doing their homework as well.
Does your Kids’ question annoy you?
I believe it should not. Even the question is very very stupid. Let us take it as positive one. Before answering them, the reason behind asking that question is to be found. Sometimes kids may ask one straight question and once they get a satisfactory answer, they stop. Others keep asking questions one after another. And as a parent, we start answering them honestly at the beginning and towards the end we get annoyed. But the true reason for asking so many questions may be different and would never be found out. I am sure that every one of us would have struggled to answer at least one query by our kids.
Should we answer them truly?
Yes. They should be answered otherwise your kid will stop asking. This will create a feel of fear to ask questions and they may be reflected during the later stages of life, where they will find it tough to communicate with others. Once you have understood the reasons for asking such questions, it’s very easy to tackle them.
1. Curiosity: - If you find them really curious to find the answer, try your best possible way to answer them. Refer some books and get back. Some parents even do a follow up next day regarding the topics answered by them.
2. Attention: -If kids are asking for the sake of attention, you need not answer them to the point. Just joking and playing with them will be enough for them. You will find that the question vanished after a while.
3. Time Kill: - If he/she wants to kill time, then as a parent, you should take the upper hand and engage them in some constructive work.
Sometimes kids may ask very stupid or even sensitive questions in front of a group of people. And this is a very common thing. Parents will find it quite embarrassing under this situation. But they should also understand that everybody understands this: “Kids asking odd questions”. Best method to tackle it is to tell them you need some time to answer it. Or even divert their attention to games or food immediately.
I have often found some unknown kids asking me or other adults really weird questions during parties or other get together. First thing I do is to ask some tough questions back to them. Then I used to enquire about them. A sort of introduction and ice break session. At the end of it, I say, “Yes dear one, what was your question?” And most of the time, I find them forgetting about it or just discussing something else with me.
But there can be some real serious issues when kids ask about sex, drugs, alcohol etc. As a parent, we should try to find out how much details will be sufficient for him/her at that age. Talk a few more than the “Birds and the Bees”. An enquiry regarding any incident which might have triggered this question will be very useful.
They Still Ask
So when do they stop asking? No idea!!! They will keep asking and we should keep answering. And it should be dealt with truth and honesty. How you respond to kids’ question is more important than how you answer them. The best advice if you have a kid at home: “Be prepared to answer”
I am sure most of you have faced lots of questions from kids and I would like to invite your participation and comments in the feedback.