How to Be Mature as a Young Adult
Being an Adult
Becoming an adult is one of the final steps that we all go through when we are growing up. Everyone will mature at a different rate but we all are recognized as adults in our later teen years, even if it is only from a legal standpoint.
One of the challenges for any youth growing up is how their maturity develops. Some embrace this maturation process while others rebel against it in hopes of holding on to their youth as long as they can.
I have worked with some people who have carried on this rebellion a little bit too long in my opinion. I consider myself pretty mature, possibly too serious sometimes, but I would prefer it my way versus someone in their early forties who still refuses to take responsibility and fully mature.
I remember a lady at my previous job that fit this description completely, except she was in her early fifties. I have read that experts believe that people mature to a predetermined age and then stop there, that is basically how they are created and that is as far as they are going to mature. When I first read this I didn’t believe any of it because it just didn’t make sense to me, until I met my previous co-worker.
I was fortunate, I didn’t really struggle with maturing when I was growing up; maybe it was because I embraced responsibility with open arms. I had a paper route when I was twelve years old. It wasn’t a huge route of only about seventy houses but I had a responsibility to get up early every morning and deliver those papers. I’m not going to lie, riding a bike weighed down by newspapers in the rain is not what I would call fun but that was my job.
Later on in high school I actually had two jobs because sitting around during the summer months bored me to death. I worked at a local pizza place and was actually promoted to supervisor, before I could legally dispense beer from the bar. I also worked a couple of weekends at a small batting cage in town because the owner said I could take free rounds in the cages if we were slow, being a huge fan of baseball how could I refuse!
I’m not suggesting that all teenagers need to have two jobs in high school but for me it is what I chose to take on. I do believe that these responsibilities did help me mature because I had a work schedule to pay attention to as well as what I had to do at school. It wasn’t always easy but it did teach me ways to schedule my days as well as how to juggle sometimes.
What To Do
Getting a job isn’t the only thing that you can do if you are striving in becoming a more mature young adult.
Since transportation can be a bit of a challenge in the teenage years sometimes all that you can do to develop maturity is to do things at home or in your neighborhood. Regardless of where you live there is always something that can be done around the house or apartment.
A great sign of maturity is being able to stay on top of the things that you are required to do. It can be as simple as remembering to feed a cat or dog; maybe it is keeping your room clean without your parents riding you about it.
The important thing to remember is that, as small as the task may be, the key is to be able to take care of it without supervision; it doesn’t count when you do it after the fourth time mom asks you to. Being mature requires you to take care of yourself, doing your chores is a great way to learn.
I know it is hard to remember all of these things when you are growing up. We have two teenagers at home at they are complete opposites of each other when it comes to doing things around the house. I know it is partially because of their sex but the glaring differences between the two are obvious.
Our oldest, our son, is very smart. I’m not trying to brag but watching Jeopardy with him isn’t very fun because he knows answers to questions that I’m not even completely positive I know what they are talking about. Our daughter is smart as well but she is more into the reading and writing side of things; which she is incredibly proficient in.
Both of them have weekly chores to preform if they want their allowance. The majority of the time her's are completely wrapped up by midday Sunday (Sunday is the deadline to complete the chores) while he has been seen dusting as late as 9:00.
Sometimes kids in the same family can mature at their own pace, I have found this to be completely normal and it should be expected. My wife was the oldest of four and her maturation was completely different than her youngest brother.
My point is you shouldn't be alarmed if others are maturing at a different rate than you are, it will all work out in the end.