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How to Cope with Mommy Burnout
Signs of Mommy Burnout
Mommy burnout is normal and is something that happens to almost every mom at some point in time. It's nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about, mothers are humans too. However, it is something you want to pay attention to, though. If you feel like you're on the verge or have already reached mommy burnout, that's a telltale sign that you need to take a break ASAP.
A major sign of mommy burnout is exhaustion, you're beyond tired physically, mentally, and emotionally. Yes, motherhood is extremely rewarding and wonderful but burnout can happen to you. If you're feeling exhausted, than just arrange some time where you can have time away from your little ones that's just for you.
I know that I become extremely impatient when I am running on fumes and have nothing left to give. I understand that getting time away can be extremely difficult especially if you have a newborn baby. Some time away isn't just good for yourself, it's something that can help yourself be a better mom. As mothers we tend to forget about ourselves because we are so busy putting everyone else first. We need to remember that we are still people with needs of our own that need to be met.
3. Missing Adult Conversation
If you feel like your daily conversations involve nothing but "Mickey Mouse Clubhouse" or in my case "Octanauts" chances are than it probably has. Being a stay-at-home mom like myself can most definitely feel isolating at times, like your a prisoner in your own home. Call a friend to get a much needed fix of adult conversation. Another option would be to set up a play date, that way the children can play and the mommies can have their adult time. Not only are you talking to another adult but you are talking to another mom that understands exactly what you are going through.
4. Kids aren't the only ones melting down.
Dealing with meltdowns is a clear sign that you are experiencing mommy burnout. As a mom you need to be in control of your emotions at all times and if that simply isn't happening, you definitely need a time-out of your own. Arrange a get away by yourself for a little bit. Go shopping, get your nails done or just do something that simply just makes you happy, relaxed and refreshed. Yes, you will probably be missing your babies which is totally normal but its okay to miss them. It means your ready to dive right back into motherhood.
5. You forgot what it was like to feel beautiful
If you've forgotten what it feels like to style your hair, put makeup on or wear something else other than yoga pants, then you are due for a must needed break. Don't be afraid to call Grandmom and arrange some childcare so that you focus on you for a change as a person, not just a mom. Go out to lunch with a girlfriend or have a date night with your hubby. It's not a bad idea to feel good while your at home, so if you have a few minutes do something that makes you feel beautiful like wear non-yoga clothes or put on a little makeup. It will make you feel better about yourself in the end as well as the day ahead.
6. Feeling overwhelmed
Ugh, feeling overwhelmed, this is not a great feeling. It basically means you've been doing too much for too long. It may also feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders. Its fine time to shift around some of your responsibilities, even if its just for a little while. Give yourself a much needed rest and if possible find a constructive way to ask Dad about pitching in if he isn't already.
7. You simply can't remember the last time you had a break
Simply put if you can't remember the last time you had a break chances are its time to take one. But as mothers know mom can't get breaks, sick days or down time for various reasons. If this is true than you are going to get creative in order for you to get a break. Nap time is prime time for you to do something for yourself like paint your nails, crochet or even read a book instead of cleaning up the house or doing laundry. Take baby along with you to go shopping with a friend, not only is the baby entertained by the new surroundings but you are getting out of the house and socializing with another adult. The most important thing is that you take care of yourself and your needs.
These are the signs that I have experienced when going through mommy burnout and how I cope with them. Feel free to take my ideas or get creative and come up with some of your own, as long as you are taking time to take care of number one. YOU!