How to Deal with Disrespectful Teenagers
Dealing with teenagers is not an easy task, and to add up to your woes when a teenager gets disrespectful with his parents! Just can’t imagine. Though my child is just 10 years old, I sometimes wonder how that period would be dealt by me, when he gets 14 and above. Looking at the way I lose my patience for small, small things and not ready to accept any mistakes of his; I sometimes wonder how bad things would get for me in the future. So it’s like a wake-up call when you know what is about to enter in your life after a couple of year. I just wish I can get myself ready for those teenage years of my child and be ready to handle up the pressure. Times have changed and so are the views and opinions for each and every age group. Nowadays even six to seven years old act up like teenagers. They want to dress up like them, talk like them and then thanks to internet, books, movies, TV Serials and online media which helps them to learn everything that they shouldn’t at this age. Well! Let’s come back on the topic!
The whole point is nowadays children know more than what they should be knowing. Which in turn makes them worse while dealing with a situation. Though being small age-wise, they still try to act like a grown-up. The reason for this is because they know a lot about getting hurt or also about trying to connect and relate things to one another. If a teen gets disrespectful with his parents, then the reason could just be one or the same. With such disrespectful children, conflicts are like an everyday issue, for such children are just not ready to accept anything that is not done their way. All one can imagine is an arena of endless arguments, conflict of opinions, struggle to be a winner and a successful parent and coping up with the building pressure day by day. But to tell the truth, it can actually get easy to deal with a disrespectful teenager, if parent really understand their teenager very well.
Being Disrespectful with a Teen’s Point of View
If we see this with a teen’s point of view, then seldom you would find the behavior to be disrespectful, in fact for them it’s more like a way of telling parents what they want actually. Its more like their way of handling the situation or their way of expressing their emotions.
Common reasons why a teen may get disrespectful
There are certain common reasons why a teen may get disrespectful. Parents really need to be aware of these reasons for a better understanding and dealing with a teenager. If a parent really wants to find positive ways for how to deal with disrespectful teenagers, learn these common reasons such as:
1. Misunderstanding between teenagers and their parents
2. Feeling of revenge if certain parent behavior hurts badly
3. A feeling of being unwanted or undesired
4. If constantly criticized by parents for behavior or any other reason
5. A feeling of insecurity
7. A feeling of non-acceptance by parents
8. Lack of respect
9. Strict parents
10. No freedom
12. Parents being over-concerned or over-involved in certain issues
13. Too much of interference from parents
14. Helicopter parents
15. Lack of manners. A child being spoiled by over pampering and over caring to such an extent that he or she just gets disrespectful and doesn’t care about anything.
16. Parental conflict. This is a situation where all is not well between both the parents and it is gone accepted by children. The constant fighting and abusive environment within the house gets on nerves for teens who then act disrespectful.
17. Disrespectful parents.
18. Bad company
19. When a child is not heard
20. A feeling of loneliness
So these are few of the common reasons that I could come up with, but I am sure there could be more to add to this list. And finally everybody have few of their reasons to add to. Now once you really understand why a teenager may get disrespectful then you really understand how to deal with such a situation. Every situation has its own way to deal with finally!
Analyze the Situation and act accordingly
Firstly it’s important to know why a child may behave so disrespectfully. As mentioned above there could be n number of reasons for such behavior. Once you understand why a teen behaves so, you know how to handle the situation. For instance, if a teen feels insecure or unwanted by his parents, parents can work out to make them feel secure.
Listen to your teenager
Very often parents jump to conclusions without even hearing out what their teenager wishes to say. Allow the child to speak and express his feelings towards a behavior and then decide what to do about it. Don’t jump to conclusions without getting to know his or her say
Learn to gather lot more patience
A situation can be handled in a safer and healthier manner if a parent deals with it with lot more patience. A decision taken in haste and anger could help no one.
Be there for your child
If your child feels insecure or unloved from his parents, then there is definitely something wrong which needs to be handled carefully. Don’t let your child feel that he is unwanted or uncared for. Be there for him and support him whenever he needs you. Even a simple hug can say a lot of things and provide a lot of comfort to your child.
Spend quality time together
It is important to take out some time from your busy schedule to spend it out with your teens qualitatively. In this case, it could also mean an enjoyable weekend outing or even a watching movie together plan or even a shopping trip.
Learn the art of saying NO
If you have been pampering your child all way long and the over-pampering ahs lead to disrespectful children then somewhere down the line it’s your fault. Though you feel responsible for this, now it’s not too late to mend things. The word “NO” has lot of power to it, and even if you missed out on this till today, maybe you should just start saying it from now on! Stick to it, once you say it and though it may get difficult in the beginning, you would definitely find out later how it helped you to get some positive results.