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How to Deal with The Most Difficult People

Updated on November 8, 2016
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Dealing with Difficult People can be Most Problematic

Keep a Distant from Difficult People

I dealt with problematic people for a while and finally removed them from my life.

Sometimes I feel I just don't fit in with the crowd.

It hurts me to see the way people treat each other don't get me wrong they don't dislike me.

Their work is better and my work may or may not be the same if attempted.

I try to keep away from the problematic, or the difficult people.

My problem is I fail to understand their mentality.

I can laugh and talk with them and sometimes I am confused by the way they speak.

Often there is a complicated communication that leads me to thinking why?

Whenever there is a function I am not asked to give a hand like other neighbors do.

I am always left out in that way, and find that so hard to understand.

I want to be part of what goes on in the village and I do no see that happening for me.

  • Why am I left out?

  • Is it that I won't perform the tasks in the same way or will I do better than they would do?

Communication can be non existent when I don't listen. I do listen, still it is a problem for me just dealing with difficult people has become such an issue.

  • How would you react in such circumstances?

I know these people are inferior toward me. The local people see me differently.

This life is part of my life, a new culture, the new people, new language, and of all new challenges.

My mind flows with all kinds of thoughts and this can ruin my day or make my day great one.

I choose to have happy and good days and don't sweat the small stuff.

Dealing with difficult people can be in the work place or right in your neighborhood also in other public places.

You must stay calm when in situations with the difficult people.

If you feel upset with an individual like I am at times. I try to remain calm and react later.

If you react straight away you could lose control of the moment and say something regretful.

Don't get into a rage.

You could lose your friendship you have with that person.

Instead, be cool about the situation, and handle conversations when you have calmed down.

  • Do you think difficult people are worth your precious time?

Some people behave badly don't waste your precious time with difficult people.

Confrontation can ruin everything for you even your career.

The negative energy you receive is not worth your time.

The best is to keep your distance and be friendly in your own way.

Disliking someone can be powerful to you or the other person. You must have the power to make your decisions.

Avoid the misunderstanding and let it go.

If a friend does not call for you for days they are busy or ignoring you.

Don't be offended when this happens to you. Give them time, and they will call you back if busy, and if they are ignoring you that call won't come to you. Don't bother these people..

It is not about what is right, or wrong. It is about the principle.

Sometimes misunderstandings can flood your mind with silly thoughts.

You should try thinking of yourself in that person's shoes.

The difficult person will give you an idea of why their behavior is strange in comparison to yours.

The pressure one has can be hard to cope with leading them to act that differently.

People grow, and change all the time. If you understand that person, you will see more than you need to.

I feel the difficult people I come in contact with are envious, and less positive types of people.

Issues and less effective communications does lead to many other conversation.

The relationship I have with the difficult person and the issues I discuss with the difficult person has a great effective on my communication.

I avoid shouting or yelling, when in conversation that won't get me any where nice or pleasant.

Talking is better than yelling.

Being firm shows better character and shows I can solve the problem easily.

I have come across an aggressive person due to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder he is often the temperamental individual.

He would be sweet and all so nice in a conversation and suddenly he would snaps at you.

I had no idea about this person until I worked out his behavior.

He can be most difficult to communicate with, but with an understanding of his situation it is easier to cope with his aggressive behavior.

Overtime I found out there is not much one can do except for us to keep our distance from him.

He chooses conversations to solve the problem, and often he looks for the wrong in the situation, rather than what is right.

The individual is focused on issues of debate, and his face goes red when in powerful conversations.

The instant red in the face explains all about his rude behavior.

He enjoys dominating the field and can be right out defensive.

The kind of person who thinks his opponent is stupid.

The negative person does have positive qualities. The negative qualities overrides the positive qualities.

I use humor to communicate with difficult people that works fine with me.

Sometimes people can be quite stuck up, and don't communicate.

To get words out of some people can be impossible.

By using humor with the difficult person you will see their true character.

Difficult people pick on you and focus on a fault they can use to make you feel down.

Once you show them you are in control. The power you have can put you on top of the difficult situation. Coping with the difficult people thereafter becomes a successful one.

Don't give these individuals a chance to pick on you.

Never back down, always find a way to communicate with difficult individuals.

People who don't like themselves have a problem with everyone else.

Don't be the victim of the difficult person's target.

  • Don't cut off your nose to spite your face.

Insecure people always have issues with themselves, and tend to make others feel problematic.

One will experience a positive lifestyle with good communication in dealing with difficult people. Relationships can be improved, and success can show gradually with power and great strengths.

You want others to see your confidence, and to know you are better. Never deny what you know. Your capabilities are of another important fact about yourself. I learned this through my own experiences.

Difficult people feel threatened by the behavior of others, and envy their behaviors.

You can't always communicate with a difficult person. Use your strong skill to show you can be better, and that you are better.

When you show the difficult person you are better than they are in all aspects. These people tend to look differently at themselves. Feeling sorry for themselves is one of the most common ways of acting on their behaviors.

Society has all kinds of people. One has to learn how to put up, or shut up with their confrontations and challenges. The greater adventures experienced is another part of their lives that can be shown with all emotions. This if shared with the calm individual.

It comes with culture behavior, and a different conversation. Not everyone understands each other. That does not mean you have to lose your friendships, or relationships with each other.

The many different people learn from each other, and respect each other in different ways.

Acceptance is very important. First accept yourself. My way is not to look for acceptance from others.

If you think acceptance from others will make your life better, then think again!

Acceptance makes a huge a difference in one's life, not from others but from yourself.

  • Others can talk and say what they like and will have an issue with accepting you but then who cares?

Difficult people are bullies, they can be your next door neighbor, or your co-worker.

A husband, or wife, and even your child can be that bully.

It is hard for others to accept you.

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    • kidscrafts profile image

      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      You make several good points in your article Devika. What is important to remember is that if someone is difficult might mean that the person in question has some problems of her own that she can't deal with himself or herself.... and in that case, those problems don't belong to the person they are difficult with. I remember the last time someone lashed out at me about someone else, I told her calmly (as you mentionned yourself) ...."this doesn't belong to me". I can tell you that the other person had nothing to answer to that and she had to change the conversation :-)))

      Another well done article because it's not easy to find what is the best way to answer to a difficult person. The listener has to protect himself or herself!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      7.2 billion people...chances are we will run into some difficult ones along the way. Great suggestions here.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      A great issue to tackle. Certainly seems to me that if we can remember that we also can be difficult that it helps the situation. Some of us just do not belong together.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Ditto to the previous comments. Difficult people are apart of our heritage. Temporarily though, we can get out of their space or ask them to leave ours.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Yes, they are out there. Like I tell my daughter when it comes to workplaces, there will always be at least one difficult person to deal with in the workplace and many in life! Good advice.

      Up and more and sharing.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      vespawoolf 3 years ago from Peru, South America

      There exists a wide range of difficult people. I find that some actually are worth the effort once you can get past their rough exterior. Putting yourself in their shoes helps. Of course, never yelling is very important. But some people are plain toxic and I think in those cases, it's best to be kind but keep your distance. This is useful information. Thank you!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      There are bound to be difficult people and I admit I am not too good in dealing with them. Therefore, I avoid getting involved with them.

      Good, thought provoking hub! Thanks!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi kidscrafts well mentioned about difficult people there is always a chance of one being in contact with such people thank you kindly.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc You are so right thank you for for commenting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker thank you for sharing your comment here thank you very much for coming by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora thank you for sharing your thoughts here .

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Faith Reaper very true and I feel like I am surrounded by difficult people thank you for votes up, more and shared

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello vespawoolf the best is to keep a distance well mentioned thank you for sharing your valuable comment.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan keep a distant from difficult people and you won' t have to put up with their nonsense thank you for sharing your comments.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I have been through this too and sometimes it can be resentment of the job you were hired for, maybe they don't think you deserve it, maybe you don't replace the one before you in their mind. My advice; looking back on my own situation would be to go to a higher up and share this with them. The end of it will probably come swiftly instead of growing resentment if someone sets them straight or is aware of it, even. Sometimes you are the one to have to bring the change, especially if you are guilty of nothing.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jackie you are so right ''Sometimes you are the one to have to bring the change, especially if you are guilty of nothing.'' Thank you for commenting.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      I used to overanalyze why certain people are challenging to deal with, being a psychologist and all (but not the counseling type!). Now I understand I cannot hold someone else's emotional baggage, and I decline to. Ugly behavior is just not worth my time. Not everyone has the flexibility to respond in that way, however. I wish you well in trying to deal with these issues. It sounds like there may be some deep intercultural issues in how some of these folks are reacting to you.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      The further you keep difficult people at a distance {even when you are in close contact} the better it is. Listen to your inner self, be confident in your own goodness, and you will find these kind of people will fade away with their emotional baggage to pester someone else. Best wishes to you.

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      DREAM ON 3 years ago

      Great advice I find it so easy to get caught up in their constant struggle for power. I feel like a fly caught in a spiders web struggling to get out and waiting to die. So I have learned to avoid these types of people and with your advice I can learn to handle them better in any situation. Thanks so much for the important information.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      It is always best to, kill the difficult people with kindness. No matter how nasty always be kind to them, you never know what issues they are going through.

      Voted up +++ and shared.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Devika, some of the nicest people I now know, started off by pissing me off. We all have good days and bad but I agree, there are some people who just loves to make others lives hell. Another interesting and thought-provoking hub.

      Nicely done.

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      My comment disappeared. I will leave you another comment later on today. How weird right?

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway so kind of you to stop by I have not be active on HP for the last two days as I see your comment from two days ago I have been very busy helping out a friend. You are so right abut dealing with difficult people thank you for commenting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. Well mentioned and thank you very much for the continuous support.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      DREAM ON thank you for sharing whats on your mind her so kind of you to stop by enjoy the rest of the week.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron thank you for vote up and shared so glad you came by and shared your thoughts

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tobusiness you are so right even I have had that experience with some of the people who pissed me off fro the start and now re so good with me it is amazing how people can be thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lovedoctor926 thank you for stopping by.

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      Hi DDE, your welcomed. There is a lot of truth here. Dealing with difficult people is challenging especially if you work with the public. In my opinion, one of the best ways to get along with these types of people is to play along and just agree with everything they say. If you can avoid them, them, then even better. Always keep your distance. It's not worth getting all worked up for nothing.

      "Difficult people pick on you and focus on a fault they can use to make you feel down." this is so true. I can think of so many people. And you're so right, they make the other person feel stupid with comments such as No and they give it that little emphasis. I have worked with these types of people before. Humor does work like a charm. Don't let them spoil your mood either. voted up!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lovedoctor926 I have had to put up with difficult for many reasons and now I have learned what it is like to know such kinds of people Thank you for the vote up so glad you shared your thoughts here.

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      A great hub DDE and thank you for sharing.

      Eddy.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eiddwen thank you for commenting.

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      I was in the store one day. I had to stop and pick up a few groceries before getting the children from school. I was walking down an aisle and the end was blocked by a cart followed by 2 employees. So, I turned around and started heading back in the other direction. I saw a woman pushing a cart down the center of the aisle without regard to the fact that I was trying to leave the aisle. As I approached her, she rudely reached right in front of my face to pick something off of a higher shelf. Instead of placing it in her cart, she began to step in front of me blocking me all together and then taking her time looking at the item on the shelf.

      I then said, politely, "excuse me, may I please get by?"

      She said, "you could've walked around me".

      I have to say, I was so taken back by her rudeness that I said to her, "and you could have waited to look at that item after I walked by you."

      I've gotten to the point DDE, where I don't have time to waste on people who are only in to themselves. I normally don't have confrontations like that, but speaking up for myself helped me release that feeling one gets after having a confrontation, without spending my positive energy trying to overcome her negativity.

      It seems like people are getting more difficult every day out there in the world.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CraftytotheCore that was rude of her to behave that way totally uncalled for then again difficult people are so into themselves. People have issues who can't face the fact they are wrong. Thank you for sharing your i experience I appreciate your comments.

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      VioletteRose 3 years ago from Chicago

      I usually try to avoid negative people, they are not worth my time and energy. Thank you for the great suggestions!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      VioletteRose I too feel the same way thank you

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      Tirralan Watkins 3 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      DDE, great article! I love your thoughts and ideas on handling difficult people. It's a challenge, but I think interacting with difficult people successfully can make us better in the long run.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Careermommy you are so right ''I think interacting with difficult people successfully can make us better in the long run.'' Thank you.

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