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9 Tips of What Mothers Can do to Handle Stress While Raising Kids

Updated on January 18, 2017

How to Ease the Stress of Motherhood

The importance of having time for yourself and not be under-rested cannot be over-emphasized. Everyone needs a few moments each day to himself/herself. Whether you are a first-time mother adjusting to a new baby at home or an over-scheduled working mom with a husband, kids and full time job to manage, motherhood can be stressful. New mothers need time to adjust to the new reality. Everything from financial insecurities, a more intensive parenting style and higher expectations for our kids’ success to a lack of support, lack of leisure time, relationship demands, and concern that the world is more perilous for kid raising help to raise the stress level.

No matter how good your shape is during new motherhood, your body will be facing situations it will nonetheless find strenuous and stressful. If you have prepared properly for the physical challenges of new motherhood by exercising and eating right during pregnancy then you have most likely done a fine job of minimizing an amount of stress you go through and this tiny investment in yourself will pay off exponentially. Learning to manage your stress is important to your overall health. Stress that builds up can lead to physical problems such as illness and disease as well as mental health problems such as depression.

Acknowledge your feelings and learn your stress signs

Modern mothers feel stressed or overwhelmed when they are juggling their family and office responsibilities. Remember that stress is a natural alarm system built into your body. Feeling stressed as a mother does not mean you are failing. However, it is important to identify how you react to stress. This will help you curb how you react. Common stress signs include: rising blood pressure or increased heart rate, which can make you feel a little dizzy. Speaking louder or yelling, irritability, more impatient and experiencing lapses in judgment is other signs.

Seek support

Ask for help when you need it. Call family members, friends and others who might be willing to help out with your baby or other chores when you need a break. Seek the support of the people closest to you. Explaining how you feel will invite compassion and help. Discussing your stress is a good way to manage it.

Prioritize your schedule

Look for flexibility if you work outside of the home. Having too many things to do, will lead to stress, so adjust your schedule to keep yourself from getting stressed. Explore the opportunity of working from home and other opportunities your employer might offer to provide a little more work/life balance.

Trust yourself as a mother

Many mothers fear that they’re not doing a good enough job because they are constantly being told that they are over protective, not protective enough, too involved in their kids' lives or not involved enough. So it is necessary to develop your own style of parenting. Different processes work for different families. Find what works and stick with it regardless of what parenting style others practice or recommend. Each child has unique temperament traits, needs, and quirks, and because children grow and change all the time, it’s impossible to apply a one approach to mothering. Often, there are mysteries to be solved, crises to handle along the way. It’s easy for mothers to question themselves, and become stressed by the consequences of making a mistake.

Take care of yourself

Many mothers find it difficult to have time to care for themselves. Faced with all of the stressful demands of raising children, what’s a mother needs is to maintain some sanity and serenity. This is why many of you need time to be alone, reflect, explore and take care of ourselves to be in a good position to care for others. Exercise regularly. It has been proved that exercise keeps stress at bay whether it’s walking, bike riding, swimming, playing basketball or something else. The trick is finding the type you enjoy. You can ride off the tension: There is nothing like riding bikes with your kids. You can also dance stress away. Massage, relaxation routines, a long bath or hot shower can also help. Eat a well-balanced diet. A plate of one’s favorite food can help produce relaxation. Keeping yourself physically healthy will allow you to better manage the symptoms of stress.

Take time to laugh

One of the best ways that mothers can reduce stress is to revel in the joy of motherhood--to really enjoy their kids and make the most of all the gifts and benefits that come with being a mother. The American Psychological Association reports that stressed people often hold a lot of stress in their faces. Laughs, smiles and giggles can help relieve some of that tension. Find ways to bring a little more fun into your life to curb stress.

Learn deep breathing or meditation

The purpose of the breathing is to decrease accumulated tension your body builds up in response to stress. It works beautifully well in everyday stress situations. Deep abdominal breathing and meditation are proven to help moderate stress and help the body relax. Inhale deeply through your nose and slowly exhale through your mouth and when you reach the end of a comfortable exhale, use your abdominal muscles to push out all the air remaining in your lungs. Use slow, deep breaths. Inhale slowly, pause for some time, and then slowly breathe out the same way. Repeating the sequence creates maximum relaxation.

Seek therapy or attend support groups

Motherhood can be stressful! While the position brings some of the best perks you can imagine--the fun, the growth, the love--it also brings more than its share of work, frustration and stress, and can even put you at greater risk of depression. When you are doing what you can to manage your stress but it still seems overwhelming, get help from professional or other moms. Develop and nurture relationships with other moms who are also feeling stressed. Support groups are available in most local communities and online.

Have more fun

Do something that you enjoy by finding reliable caregivers who can take care of your kids while you engage in activities that you find relaxing. Make time for family outings, laughter and anything else that makes you feel good. You may not be able to avoid all the stress, but you can get away for just a few minutes to feel less overwhelmed. The truth is we devote so much time to our families, we forget to take time for our social needs, whether it's with your partner or friends. Relationships help reduce our stress and restore balance. You can put up a "do not disturb" sign on your bedroom door and listen to music. Watch a TV show or movie. Although TV is always available, it is not necessarily the healthiest or more edifying. Reading a book, surfing the net, and other attention-demanding tasks or chores can get one’s mind away from painful feelings that otherwise might drag out into depression.

Conclusion

Children bring joy, love, and countless gifts to our lives, and there is no deeper bond than that between mother and child. However, with the commitment to nurture your kids from infancy to adulthood comes an additional load of stress, and the stress that comes with motherhood can be significant. While each mother may face unique stress, many demands of motherhood and the stress experienced are virtually universal. Even though children bring a lot of responsibility, they are also experts at having fun. Whether it’s a toddler reveling in the wonder of the soap bubbles in the tub, or a teen who is discovering the sheer joy of driving a car, your kids can supply you with numerous opportunities to take joy in the mundane activities you take for granted, and live each day to the fullest.

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