How to Help Your Teen with Depression
The 10% Rule
It's hard being a teenager in the best of circumstances. It's hard because teens are caught between the adult world and all of it's problems and the lack of control in life. Depression is a result of hopelessness and loneliness. Furthermore, today we deal with a greater number of problems that didn't exist 50 years ago, gun violence in schools, bullying and cyber bullying. There are, however, several practical things that you can do to help your teen fight depression, navigate these difficult years and with your help stave the loneliness that often accompanies it.
The first thing that is a crucial element is establishing communication. This should have been established years ago when your child was born. If you are having difficulty in this area I would suggest having a "date night" with your teen. Do something fun that both you and your teen enjoy, change the scenery, get outside and enjoy nature, go to their favorite restaurant, but make sure you leave time to "chat". While talking and listening to what is going on in their lives encourage hope by letting them know that they have the ability to change how they feel.
Let them know that they do not have to feel 100% better or even 50% better but to try to feel just 10% better. Ask them what would make them feel 10% better right now. Make a list of 10 things that would make them feel 10% better when they are feeling depressed. And then do them, maybe not all of them but some of them. If there are certain areas that are bothering them like school or bullies, think outside the box, change schools, home-school, or if it is feasible have your teen take the GED and attend a Junior College instead of high school. Think outside the box! Your teen should not have to endure torture in order to get an education! If they are being bullied remove them from the situation asap.
Get your child a pet! My preference is a puppy, it will give them something to take care of and love. Make sure that they are getting exercise every day. Think OUTSIDE the BOX! Let them know that there are solutions to their problems, if not today then tomorrow.
Help your child to find something they are good at. Everyone is good at something. Finding that one thing can be difficult but once you've found it, it can make a huge difference in a persons life. Help your child to explore any and all areas that they have an interest in. Many teenagers have been saved from a difficult adolescence simply by delving into a passionate pastime. Look into music, art, mechanical abilities, writing, sewing, acting or sports. Who knows you might discover the next prodigy right in your own home.
Finally, help your teen know that this too shall pass. That someday they will be grown and they will be able to make their own decisions and begin to make their dreams come true, that these years will be gone before they know it. Help make their dreams come true by exploring with them now in order to give them hope for the future. If they have creative interests encourage them to take steps in that direction, if athletic help them in that direction, even if they are just baby steps. If they have entrepreneurial interests find books on the subject and explore that, if they would like to learn a new creative outlet like a musical instrument or painting, sign them up for a class. It's hard to be depressed when you are being creative and/or active, especially when you are good at something. Find what they are good at and help them be all that they can be. But most of all help them see the light at the end of the tunnel, that it isn't a mile down the road but only a few steps down the road today and a few more tomorrow.
Related articles by Brie Hoffman
- 15 Innovative Ways for Kids to make Money
Give foot and back massages. My son used to do this with the relatives; he charged a dollar a massage and cleaned up! Run Errands for People. My son and I lived...
- How to Stop Depression through Natural Methods
I have dealt with depression for my entire life and in so doing I have developed ways to deal with it when it comes without resorting to medications. I have tried medications in the past but they never...
- Never Give In, Never Give In, Never Give In
Winston Churchill wrote: Never Give In, Never Give In, Never Give In at a point in British History when all seemed lost. The Brits were up against the Germans, they were starving and losing and the...
- How to Combat Suicidal Thoughts
This is a sensitive topic but one that needs to be discussed and more importantly one that needs answers. People who have suicidal thoughts seldom share these thoughts with others, however they might,...