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How to friend your mother-in-law?

Updated on September 17, 2015


As for women, the relationship between them and their mother in-laws is often the most different type of relationship they usually have. This relationship could sometimes be yet familiar or sometimes different. In most situations, a mother is usually the most important woman in her son’s life. Sometimes she may not recognize that her son has grown into adulthood and may continue to treat him like a minor even after he has married. Usually, clashes might get intense with age. For example a woman in her twenties may not be so confident with her opinions before her mother in-law. She may find it difficult to challenge whatever she feels is not right by her mother-in-law. But by the time she is middle aged, she is normally well-established intellectual individual who can confidently confront her mother in-law. The situation might get worse depending on the intensity of the clashes. In such occasions, the spouse and the children will most likely experience the weight of the matter. Such battles can most of the time be that quick poison for the family. Regardless of their natures: fearsome, hateful, or even wonderful among others, there is often a strong need to embrace your mother in-law’s presence. Such acts could benefit, if lead by careful handling of a delicate relationship. Ladies could achieve this by taking account of one or all of the following:

Always Listen

Your mother in-law may have various remarks concerning various things. She might also be the kind who gives a lot of advice. It is advisable that whether you are in her favor of her advice or not there is always a need to listen to her. There is also a need to show her that whatever she is saying you are paying a considerable attention. From this point it might be up to you to take or leave the advice. If you are the radical or the rebellious type to her, you may later find that you lost a great deal of substantial advice.

Ask for help

Some women often think that asking for help from their mother in-laws could be some kind of a bother. Asking help from your mother in-law is sometimes the best way to win her trust and friendship. Doing this makes them feel needed. It also makes them feel flattered. So if you have been having some thoughts on whether to try it or not, it is time to give it a try. For example, ask her to accompany you for that gorgeous dress shopping or whatever kind of shopping. You could also ask her for that spiced-beef recipe that she always make. It would be better to complement it by telling her that you will never prepare it as good as she does. However, one thing to put into consideration is that overdoing it may sometimes serve as a spoiler. Doing this may sometimes leave her feeling as though you are not a good wife. The thing is, let her be part of your life. Too much of it will also feel as if she has taken over your household.

Mind her

If your mother in-law lives away, and she is not in the habit of turning in to your home, it could be because she is feeling secluded or she doesn’t want to interfere. Calling her at times could play a role or two in strengthening your relationship with her. You could also pay her a surprise visit to her place. Slipping in for coffee at various times could also be another way to bring her closer to you. Paying her visits often, turns on the friendlier side of her towards you.


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