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How to get a child ready for school in the morning 3-8
Fun is Fun
Oh my of my, my son loves school!
You can just make your child love each new day. I am serious you really can do that. And here is the serious benefit --- it starts your day off great also. Now I am going to make it so you do not have to read the rest of the article. This one is a freebie. Happy Holidays.
Get yourself up a half hour early and reserve that time for your child. Some things are just that easy. If you have multiple between 3-8 add fifteen per child.
You must discipline yourself and make that time for the children, not time while you are getting ready for the day. That is too easy to do and so very wrong.
Two types of waking up.
Some children wake up on their own and some you must wake up. But that is only the opening the eyes deal. Really waking up is more than that.
When they wake up on their own that is your cue to put them back to bed. Yes really. Children do not get up to charge into the day by themselves. They get up to do something. Usually to pee pee. And sometimes to find mommy. Think hard on that. That is the time to go back to bed with them.
I call it "snuggly buggly" time. This is time for a bedtime story of the day. 5 minutes here and do not bug the child. Just remind the child of all the fun stuff to do today. Playing chase, drawing, snack time, toys to play with and games to play. Friends and teachers and sunny or rainy happy days. Maybe they are into numbers or reading or animals or or or,,,,,
You do this the same if it is required to wake them up also. That is a time slot that is critical do not mess around with it. Clear your mind of you and your life. And do not bug the child.
Do you like the morning?
Do you want your child to like the morning?
Spouses are the same
When my wife gets up she hates everything. So I leave her alone. Except I stand outside the bathroom door and go through all the blessings of the day. Believe me not for 5 minutes but just for about one at the most. I usually tell her of all the stuff that I am going to do today, that she told me last night I had to do. Figure that out on your own. I also make sure I bring her her morning beverage or something like a hot tea of herbs that I tell her is not too tasty but like a vitamin. That gets her starting to think positive about herself and that is cool.
Oh yes, one day a week I get up early as usual and go back to sleep at house waking time. That way the house can bug dad awake. But usually it is hugs and kisses that wake this old man.
Sex in the morning is probably a really good thing for couples. But check in on that because it might not really be what you both want on a frequent basis. And that is tricky because one might just start doing it to please the other but really not want to and that builds an ugly cycle.
Children and the morning
Now you tell them to stay in bed for a bit.Clothing
Funny huh!? Yes, children have a time to get up just like a time to go to sleep. If they insist on being up before that time they are on there own. But do not you worry because you still have twenty five more minutes to devote to that child each day.
Get cleaned up --- I like to say "brush your face and clean your teeth". Get dressed. Children need to have clothes on. Children in a young child school setting love to talk about their clothes. Do not get all weird about this. If you do not have the time to work with your child on about 5 outfits that they like then let me be blunt -- you stink!!
Clothes swapping is so cool if approached with love. And cheap cheap shirts from K-mart might be just the thing when looking for dinosaurs or Ariel. Little people love bigger little people. And clothing from the bigger to the littler can be so cool. Make it that way.
No child under 10 should dress all by themselves. Even if they do the physical by them selves "I can do it myself" they need a clothing coach to tell them little things to change although not necessary and to pronounce them to the world each day. "boy o boy o you look fantastic, and I just love that shirt".
And these rules also apply to spouses.
I grew up to this stuff
choices upon waking up and getting ready.
Be prepared. Have choices ready. Yes the choice of oatmeal or cheerios is important to them. Not too complex please as our mind is just getting started. Meals for the day need to be a together thing. Take yourself out of the equation. What they want is paramount.
If you are all worried about nutrition so will they be. Just do not have bad stuff in the house. It really is that simple. Take bad stuff out of the equation. My son now debates whether to have a red gummy bear vitamin of a green one.
Every day is a day worth greeting well
Now let us be real
Fine all the above advice is good for children. Fine, acting as above will get great results. Fine, you know more about your child and started their day right. That is boring. These thirty minutes of devotion are not just for that snotty nosed little brat. They are also for you.
Who do you love baby?
It is my me time. I just love my children. And in the morning when I set up the routine and manipulate the situation I get to see my child before he is destroyed by the world. He is all mine and I am all his. We both have influence on each other's day. And that carries through mightily.
And again the same can be said for a spouse. A loving beginning seldom ends with out a loving finale.
Each child is worth our time
I wish I was there with you
I wish I could just pop on over to your home and help you start your day out as well as mine. I hope you are happy today. And mostly I hope you make some young person's day start out as good as mine.
Hey maybe you could comment here. Kind of leave a note and if you ask tomorrow I will send you another happy day wake up deal. I can do that. all you need do is ask.
On the other hand you can just stay silent and I will let you wake up on your own, sleepyhead.