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How to Have the Birth of Your Dreams
As a Mother You Have Choices
Created in response to the Time magazine article, Choosy Mothers Choose Caesareans, by Alice Park. This hub highlights resources to assist any woman in liberating herself from the fear surrounding birth so she can choose to have the birth of her dreams.
Women everywhere choose to become mothers through a process we have termed Birth. Of course it starts with sex, then conception, followed with pregnancy, but the actualization of all of the preceding is Birth.
Not only mother, but father, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and anyone else privileged enough to witness the raw, unadulterated power of a woman through realizing her own personal potential, will be forever changed when that woman is allowed to be fully who she is. An Amazing Creator.
For those who have experienced a birth less than that of you dreams, fear not. It is within. For those who are growing a baby as we speak, may this hub direct you towards information to educate and inform you along your journey. Even if you are no longer having children, you can benefit from knowing that you are still the awesome being who has this strength and amazing ability of birth inside of you.
Face Your Fear: Inform Yourself
Fear can be paralyzing. Or it can be informing. Or both. In the situation of birth, and wanting to have the birth of your dreams, it will benefit you and your baby to become well informed. Gather information from your health care provider and if answers sought there do not suffice, take your asking a step further. Or a few steps.
The resources are endless. Search them out. We all know ~stuff~ can happen and emergencies arise, the point here is to become your own source of strength in this amazing experience, rather than seek it elsewhere. You can have the birth of your dreams in whatever circumstances you encounter.
Regardless of where you plan to birth, with an MD or midwife or unassisted, here are a few really awesome resources worth checking out to empower yourself to have the birth of your dreams.
Resources for Pregnancy and Birth
Do you experience yourself as bountiful, beautiful, and blissful? You can. This book by Gurmukh Kaur Kalsa combines relaxation, focus, and information to prepare yourself for birth. It is divided into very short chapters with an exercise at the end of each chapter for practice.
One reason many women have difficulty in birth is because we are not prepared to handle contractions. We can learn how to relax when we are uncomfortable for the benefit of ourselves and our babies. It makes a world of difference in the birth process. Start the journey to find your own inner resource with this powerful yoga video. You can do it in the privacy of your own home and it includes as amazing endurance exercise for upcoming contractions.
This book provides practical information for a safe, satisfying birth through reviewing current medical research. It discusses any interventions and their pros and cons so you know what is happening with you and your baby and you can make choices from a truly informed place.
This book and the classes based upon it ares a comprehensive collection of writings, information, and exercise of all sorts to allow you to work through any fears, issues, concerns, and to clarify what you desire for your birth. An awesome resource!
Natural childbirth with the partner involved in the process. Parents are educated on a whole perspective of nutrition, relaxation, and support.
Ina May is a certified midwife who has helped thousands of women deliver with confidence, less pain, and less medical intervention.
This book was originally written in the 70's and contains many personal stories as well as information for midwives. It is helpful for preparing from the perspective of parent and care provider.
Take Care of You
If it hasn't already occurred to the pregnant woman, it will definitely, at one point or another, hit home for the mother that it's time to take care of herself. We are multifaceted beings. We're talking about more than just eating right, getting rest, exercising, and drinking plenty of water. Those are all part of the picture, yet it is a lot broader. When we incorporate all aspects of ourselves, we feel more whole and balanced. Birth is certainly one experience that would ideally be entered into with a sense of balance.
One way to look at yourself is with Virginia Satir's Self Mandala. Virginia Satir was an author and psychotherapist who worked with people as a whole, on eight different levels. She categorized them this way: I am, Spiritual, Nutritional, Emotional, Sensual, Physical, Interactional, Contextual, and Intellectual. The point here is that we are more than just a body. And we have the ability to realize that when we take the time to do so.
Allow yourself to really focus on you and what you need to bring your whole self into balance. This in itself will assist you in having the birth of your dreams.
Know You Can Do It
As Hathor the Cow Goddess suggests in her cartoon above, women gave birth for a very long time in the existence of the human species, with no intervention. Is this to say that interventions are not necessary? In some cases, they do preserve life. At the same time, many measures used in modern medicine can and do lead to further interventions, and often c-section. No fault here, just the facts.
Bottom line, a woman's body is created to birth. That's what we do.
A study of the human sexual response cycle gives insight towards the magnificence of the whole reproductive beauty, from beginning to end. We ovulate, our cervix opens, our vaginas lubricate, the sperm has a swimmingly good time in the slippery mucous produced, and wa-la... the creation of a little human.
Birth is the same. We nurture our babies inside, when birth begins, our cervix begins to stretch, dilate, and release the plug that has so kindly kept bacteria from endangering our little one all of the months of gestation. What happens next is an increase in the intensity of the opening until the mother finally surrenders and her body expels the being from within.
Believe it or not, the whole process can absolutely be the most liberating, joyful experience a woman ever has. To feel that way, she must reclaim her personal power. The power innate within her at her own birth as a little baby. The power she has now, only waiting to be discovered.
Peace 4 Parents
Amy Phoenix (aka Rainbow Recognizer) is a gentle, yet direct parenting guide and healing facilitator dedicated to sharing insights and practices to transform frustration and anger, heal the past, nurture conscious relationships, and experience the peace of the present. Visit her at www.Peace4Parents.com.