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How to manage being a "Mighty Mom"
Being a mom is the toughest job of all, but the most fulfilling and rewarding. No other job can ever match this. Imagine yourself working with no pay, you cannot even file a resignation, no breaks, no holidays, and no off days. That's how tough it is. But just a thought of holding your precious little child in your arms, will ease all stress and hardships. Just a single thought of your kids' smile because you helped them do their homework from school, will take you to a feeling of comfort. Just a single but sweet kiss from your child will take all your troubles away from a day's work. Imagine that. Tough, but fulfilling. A mother's love is unconditional, so no matter how hard life is, how you feel tired of everything that is happening in your life, how your body feels, your love to your child will always prevail.
Mother by John Lennon
How to manage it?
I had a hard time at first because I need to work and attend to my kids at the same time. But time and experience helped me get a hang of it. You will also need to have your external resources work with you, like your husband, your parents, your in-laws, your brother or sister, and even your friends. This is important because, even if you have a nanny or a day care to look after your kids, you still have to seek support from other people in case of an emergency.
Your husband will really play a very important role being your partner in everything. You need to talk about arrangements like where to leave your kids if both of you will need to go to work at the same time. Or who needs to take a different shift so one will be at home, while the other is at work. Communication is really vital.
Okay, so everything's settled and arranged, now, you can go to work without worries. But that does not end it all. While at work, it would be best if you check out on your kids during your break, or lunch, or anytime you'll have a chance to pick up the phone. In this way, you can be assured that everything's okay. This can also send a good signal to your kids that you think of them even at work, that not a single moment have you forgotten them.
After work, is a far more challenging part of being a mom, because, here, you have to build that bond with your kids. Bring something home, even just small things like candies, chocolates, coloring books, crayons, stickers, or anything that you think your kids will like. Well, you don't have to bring a bunch of it, one each day will do. This will definitely make your child happy, and it's your chance to sit down, and start a small talk. You can begin with a simple question like, "How's your day?" or "How's school?", then let your child do the talking, and you have to be a GOOD LISTENER.
Make yourself involved by helping your kid in doing his or her homework. Also, while fixing the dinner, you can either make your child talk about anything that happened to him or her during the day, or you can ask your kid to help prepare the table. After dinner, make it fun. You can watch movies together, or play some games, or listen to your child's favorite music. Just enjoy your kid's company, and surely, he'll do the same.
Try to come up with some activities that you think your kids will enjoy. Know what makes them happy and their interests, then, from there, you'll know what activity would be perfect.
Prayer will be a big help in fulfilling your duty as a mother. It is the source of your strength. Be positive when dealing with the hardships of motherhood. And never expect for something in return.