- Family and Parenting
I Remember Grandma
An Acknowledgement of Love and Appreciation
I love you very much! When I think back and reflect upon how it was for me growing up, I remember you as being the stabilizing force in my life. You were the backbone of the family, maintaining that wholesome presence of love, family and security. Even though I didn’t know God personally, back then, I was sure that He would never take you away from me because I knew that it would be more than I could bear, too impossible to comprehend.
You were always so encouraging and helpful and quite spunky, for a senior person. I remember us calling you, “Groovy Granny.” You were down to earth and possessed a sense of determination and purpose within you. As I began to grow in Christ, I also remember that it was you who really started me reading in that direction with your book the “Daily Word: Spiritual insights for everyday of the year.” That devotional book was very timely and a great influence in my life because it helped me effectively deal with my feelings about granddaddy’s death and my first dealings with hate.
Thank you for your understanding, compassion, guidance, love and hospitality. I always considered myself and my sister as blessed among your grandchildren because we had the privilege of being raised in your house and grow up in a close relationship with you and granddad. As I sit and reflect, I think how foolish I am for allowing so much time to go by without my expressing to you how much you mean to me and the influence you’ve had on my life. You have been and still are a very special individual.
Remembering a Legacy: Bernice Bynum 1914 - 1991
“11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:11-13, NIV)
In those plans, God provided two foundational rocks to help me accomplish His purpose for my life. The first one was a temporal rock in the form of my maternal grandmother Bernice Bynum. Grandma showed me love during her life by setting an example and by investing in my future. She deterred me from succumbing to negative influences and from falling into our family’s cyclic rut by providing the finances that enabled me to stay on campus during the summer break following my college freshman year. In addition, she exercised tough love with me, as her last hope for the family, when she would not allow me to stay in her home after an unexpected mid-semester leave of absence extended into an entire year. Grandma also provided the initial funds I needed for rent after I graduated from college and refused to return to a negative unsaved environment. I will always love and remember grandma for believing in me and encouraging me to be more. She was the backbone that held the family together and I admired her strength, gentleness and beauty. I thank God for blessing us with her presence for 77 years and for not taking her until I was spiritually mature enough to let her go.
Grandma was also instrumental in directing me toward my second rock, an eternal rock in the form of Jesus Christ- my redeemer and deliverer. Jesus is the greatest rock because:
- Jesus is the source of all other rocks provided throughout our lives, He comforts and sustains us when they are no longer there and He will never leave us, He is always here.
- Jesus will mature us, secure us and enable us to do all things through Him, as He shapes us to be the best that we can be.
- Jesus will listen when you call, be found when you seek Him, and pick you up when you fall.
- Jesus will strengthen you through the power of the Holy Spirit.
When you have trouble letting go, just open your heart and take hold of Jesus Christ, the Eternal Solid Rock.