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I blame the parents

Updated on September 23, 2012

Is rudeness getting worse?

I blame the parents!

If children were taught from a young age the rights and wrongs in life then society would be a much nicer place.

Children need to be given respect in order to learn it. They also need responsibility when they are old enough to take it. Routine is another big thing in my view.If they have a routine then they feel more secure and protected, therefore making them less likely to get into bad ways.

I blame the parents!

Give kids jobs to them via their allowance or pocket money, so they can see that what they are achieving. It gives them a target and they realise that to get something they want comes with a price. HARD WORK!

I blame the parents!

If a parent takes the time to do these things they won't go far wrong in bringing up polite well grounded children. We are the teachers and it is all trial and error because there is no rule book for parents. We have to learn by the seat of our pants. Maybe I should write a hub bout the subject......what do you think?

Well you are right, keep reading to find out more about how I blame the parents!

What I would like to achieve from this article

My ultimate goal in writing this article is to make people the world over think about the subject of parenting and to question their own parenting skills.

If it changes one person's view on the subject or makes one person realise that they could be on the wrong path and can turn it around, then my work will have been worth it.

I blame the parents!

I would also like to think that if people take note of this thought provoking article, then it could prevent a child they know from going off the rails and therefore reach their full potential in life.

This is one of the biggest things for wayward kids. It is very likely that they will never reach their full potential and could later look back on life and wish, if only I did this or if only I did not do that. All that can be prevented if your kids are set on the right path from day.

Why am I writing about this subject ?

The reason why I am writing on this subject is because -;

  1. The question was asked - Is rudeness getting worse?
  2. My considered opinion was - Yes I think it is.
  3. The conclusion I came to was - I blame the parents!

Children don't ask to be born

Powerful thought that. CHILDREN DON'T ASK TO BE BORN.

It is, I believe, the responsibility of the parents to bring up their kids in a right and proper way.That means setting an example and teaching right from wrong. If you ever see animals in the wild with offspring they have an inbuilt mechanism which makes the parents automatically teach the offspring survival skills. They don't speak because they can't. What do they do then? They communicate by example. They are taught the skills needed by watching and copying what the parents do. Sadly this is what humans do. This means that if the adult teaches their offspring in a poor way or allows the child to fend for itself then things are going to go wrong not only for the child but the parent as well. You bring them into the world,therefore you should continue teaching and setting the example for the rest of your life. Your children are duplicates of you. They will duplicate what you do. And yes I believe it is that simple.

Obviously there will be outside influences that will have an effect on the child and could change the path that the child takes. If you have taught the child the rights and wrongs then they should know when decisions are made in their minds to take a particular path they will be able to decide if it is right or wrong and take the appropriate action.

Naughty Kids
Naughty Kids

Be a proud parent

When you have kids you want to be proud of them.You want to be proud of them for doing good things not bad. I blame the parents! if they are not proud of what their kids do. You want to see them achieve good things and their full potential in life. If they are not proud and the kids do not reach full potential...... you guessed it I blame the parents!

If you don't believe me look at the riots in England

I know it is difficult to know where your kids are 24 hours a day, 7 days a week but you cannot let them do as they please. By the same token you don't have to be a control freak. Look at the technology you have now in the 21st century, mobile phones,e-mail,computers, social networking to name but a few.You can give the kids the freedom they feel they deserve, but you can also insist they keep in touch with you wherever they go. It only has to be a quick text to say where they are and ''I'm ok''. If you trust them they will pay you back for giving them the trust.

Don't keep track of them,allow them to do as they please whenever they want without boundaries or discipline and you have your answer as to why the recent riots in England have occurred. A bunch of no hope anti everything criminals. These are the spawn of the devil and the parents created it, no if, no buts. If these parents get a hard time because of their kids then I have no patience for them because they should have been stronger parents at a younger age.

Riots 2011 London

Top tips to keep your kids on the straight and narrow

  • Lead by example
  • Be the best you can be
  • Teach right from wrong
  • Give them personal responsibility at the right age
  • Don't be a control freak
  • Have open dialogue at all times
  • Give them jobs to do at home
  • Praise them often
  • Give constructive feedback and try not to criticize
  • Remember they duplicate what you do
  • Insist they keep in touch regularly when they are away from home with friends
  • Watch for unusual behaviour and discuss any likely causes
  • Let them be kids
  • Remember what's in it for you when they turn out well
  • What could be in it for you if they turn out less than good
  • Work hard to bring up your kids
  • Don't pass the buck. It stops with you
  • Kids don't ask to be born

Good luck if you have kids to raise and remember there are no hard and fast rules for bringing them up. You learn as you go and you know deep down if you are doing the right thing.

Their childhood goes so fast so try to enjoy it whilst they are young because before you know it they are all grown up.Be good.

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    Steve Mitchell 5 years ago from Cambridgeshire

    innerspin, thanks for your comment and taking the time to read, it is much appreciated and nice to find someone who is reading from the same hymn sheet.

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    Kim Kennedy 5 years ago from uk

    I'm with you on this. We need more respect and good manners in the world. Points well made.

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    Debra Allen 5 years ago from West By God

    When I wrote about Children choosing their careers I had one parent chastize me for pushing them. This parent only wants her children to play and have fun all the time and not learn anything. That is exactly what she is going to get and that is why we are in the state that we are in regarding crime and all the mess. Voted up and useful and will promote it too and add your link to my two hubs on child rearing.

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    Brenda Barnes 6 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

    Many, I might even say most parents, are also rude. Recently I held the door open for a woman and her children. She sailed right through without even acknowledging me. And another time my son and I were getting ready to open the door at a convenience store when 4-5 kids came barreling through, almost knocking me down. The mother never said a word. So I also blame the parents. The foundation for a child's life is set at home. Sure, they will make their own decisions when older, but that basic respect remains forever.

    You stated, "Kids don't ask to be born." I remember mine saying that very thing. My response was "Well if I could go back and make the choice again, would you rather I choose not to have you?" That was never said again. They are here and it is a moot point. I refuse to be held in emotional blackmail by my child!

    Have a great day. Hyph

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    Nevada 6 years ago

    I don't know anything about the riots in Europe, so I can't comment on that. However, I do agree with your other points, but you are missing one essential point that makes you 'real' to your kids, that makes them believe that you care for their minds and hearts.

    When your kids think you have screwed up, take the time to try and find out why. Maybe you did. If you did screw up, you could just apologize, but I found that doesn't work. You need to get down eye-level with your child and ask for forgiveness. It makes for happy children who know they are being treated as though they matter.

    If you don't ask for forgiveness, there will be an invisible wall between you and your child. That child will also grow up unable to admit an error, correct it, and deal with it properly.

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    Marie 6 years ago

    Great point! Many of us forget that the first models for human behavior happen to be our parents. Children are like parrots in the fact that they will say and do anything you do!

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    Linda Bilyeu 6 years ago from Orlando, FL

    I agree, it's the parents fault. Kids learn by example. Luckily my kids didn't take after me they are just sweet as pie! haha! Great hub!!! :)

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    Mamadrama 6 years ago from Upstate NY

    Of course! :)

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    Steve Mitchell 6 years ago from Cambridgeshire

    Thanks again Mamadrama for your comments on this hub. Looks like we are on the same wavelength.

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    Mamadrama 6 years ago from Upstate NY

    Great hub! It is amazing how many people treat their children as independants from the time they are born. It is like they feel their soul responsibility is to feed them, that is it, the rest they can figure out themselves. I have 5 myself, and am constantly putting myself in check to make sure I am doing the right thing. I was sick of others raising my children, so last year I quit my career and decided to stay at home. To say parenting is a full time job is an understatment. It is just really sad to see those out there continue to breed without any responsibity for their actions.

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    saif113sb 6 years ago

    Nice work.

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    Dave Mathews 6 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

    Permissive parenting is the biggest mistake society has introduced in the upbringing of children. "Spare the rod and spoil the child" in other words a good spanking never failed to teach and the lesson was never forgotten.

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    Steve Mitchell 6 years ago from Cambridgeshire

    Thanks Laral for your feedback and your return follow.

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    laral 6 years ago from England

    Great hub! We adults do not often realise how to look after children properly. We need to think about it and give proper examples and methodically follow them always. I agree with what you say. I am a parent myself and I think your suggestions are excellent.

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    Deborah-Diane 6 years ago from Orange County, California

    I agree! It is so sad that young people are not being taught respect, right from wrong, and good manners. I think things changed when society, divorce and high living expenses forced so many young women to have to work. When the kids are being raised by childcare centers, a lot of basic lifeskills get left out.

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    lavender3957 6 years ago

    This is so true and such a great hub. Today, it seems like there is no such thing as respect.

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    Kari Herreman 6 years ago from Ontario, California

    rudeness IS getting worse! last night, someone picked pumpkins from my front yard patch and smashed them in the street. this hub validates my righteous anger.