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Middle Schoolers Should NOT Be On Facebook

Updated on March 28, 2013

Social Media is NOT for a Child

My 6th grader came home begging for a Facebook account. She said,"My friends have it, they keep in touch this way. They also think you are too protective mom.""Hmm, "Am I really?" A middle schooler is old enough to manage a Facebook page.Infact, facebook allows kids age 13 to sign on. But even they don't know if you are truly 13 years old. Kids today are smart. All you do is change the birth year when signing on.

In my opinion, they are not mature enough to handle or fully understand written dialogue. "Words on Facebook can be seen by the entire school body and to anyone who logs in, if the setting are set to public. Now they have a time line feature, YIKES!" Kids can say the darnest things. We know things can get miscontrued. What about the cyber bullying or photos kids can post. I think Facebook needs to have controls for parents to set for kids. Friends of friends is not enough! There should be Friends of Parents! Parents should get a news alert any time a child invites a friend to join. I would want to know who they are be friending and who the friends of friend are.

I am no helicopter parent. I am pretty liberal about what my girls can do. But to think that advertisers can follow our children at such a young age to learn their habits to me is very creepy. Todays kids see no problem with bareing their entire soul online, text or Facebook. It leaves kids open and vulnerable and some things should just be unsaid, kept private until they are 18.

Well, 2 days have passed and my 6th grader has not asked me again about having a Facebook page. I told her she can have a Facebook page when she is more mature. I told her, "You can have a Facebook page in high school, perhaps her sophmore year." She responded with "You are so mean." I told her that anything you post on Facebook is permanent. You might be able to post appropriate comments. But you can't stop what others say about you, good or bad.

It is enough that we have monitor emails and text . I do not have time to monitor Facebook. There is enough to do raising kids. As her mom, I just want to preserve some innocence and keep some privacy.


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    • Stephanie Henkel profile image

      Stephanie Henkel 

      6 years ago from USA

      As a grandmother, I also have deep concerns about the things that older kids share on Facebook. How can it be a good thing to share every private thought with 300 of your closest friends? I seriously doubt that they would tell these same 300 "friends" face-to-face the most intimate details about their love life. But then some adults are just as bad...

      I do think you have an excellent case to keep kids off the social media sites.

    • alphagirl profile imageAUTHOR

      alphagirl 

      6 years ago from USA

      My daughter is 11. Be prepared for what is coming down the pipeline. I was caught off guard when she asked. I told her what could happen. The guidance counselor at school advises against kids this young to go on any social media platforms too.

    • Phil Plasma profile image

      Phil Plasma 

      6 years ago from Montreal, Quebec

      My oldest (9yo) hasn't yet asked about Facebook, but I'm sure it is coming. I definitely agree with you, there is a maturity that is required before I would let any of my children into social networks. For me, the biggest reason is to ensure that my children learn how to socialize in real life, face to face with others, first.

    • alphagirl profile imageAUTHOR

      alphagirl 

      6 years ago from USA

      Tweens are learning who they are among their peers...like you said they want independence and yet need to know their parents are there, without embarrassing them.

    • alphagirl profile imageAUTHOR

      alphagirl 

      6 years ago from USA

      thanks again for stopping by. Tweens are

    • jacqui2011 profile image

      jacqui2011 

      6 years ago from Norfolk, UK

      I totally agree with what you say here. Tweens should not be allowed to use social media. I was shocked when my 10 year old came home from school and asked me if she could set up a Facebook account as all her friends in class had one. I couldn't believe that they were on facebook at the age of 10. I think that they are not emotionally ready to use social media at this age. Sound advice. voted up and useful.

    • gmwilliams profile image

      Grace Marguerite Williams 

      7 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      You have made some excellent points. I totally concur with you regarding this topic-most tweens are not judicious in the use of social media.

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