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Who do you love?

Updated on July 21, 2013

Can you imagine someone whittled this!?

Wood is cool. Making somethin from it is really cool.
Wood is cool. Making somethin from it is really cool. | Source

Well it started raining.

That is way cool here in the desert. So my boy and I pulled out to stools some food and started whittlin.

We sat under the eves and ate some fun food and took out dull knives.

Hold on there some of you youngsters probably do not know what whittlin is. Oh my!! Whittlin is a carving with a knife. Oh deary it is a good time. Sometimes you just do it with a fishing pole and cast out where you cannot catch fish, but you say you are fishin. Sometimes you get all serious and make a flute or a fancy doll called a Kachina. But more often you just cut pieces off of wood and watch the weather.

Yesterday after a ton of family left: I asked my boy what he wanted to do. We agreed on nothing.

Maybe you missed that point. It is not that we could not agree to anything, it is that we agreed to do nothing. How fun is that? Wow did we have fun doing nothing.

Yes yes yes I got a fancy BS degree and a masters and a doctorate. And children with laude de da cum laudee's. It don't mean nothin when the rain is tapping on my porch tin roof and my boy is learning whittlin.

Ya see you start out giving the boy a butter knife and an apple. He learns a bit about whittlin but he learns more about slowing down and chattin with his old man. On some stools out back and tossing some bread to the birds.

I do not know -- I just like the picture

So back to the love part

So my boy had all this great big list of folks that loved him. Golly I almost fell asleep 'for he was done.

But then I asked; who do you love. And he ate some of his apple. (bad boy ;-) And slowed down a bit thinking.

He said Mommy. And then fell silent and whittled around his bite mark. I scratched my head real obvious like and said, "just mommy"? And he did like me and pursed his lips and spat on the ground. Yep. Just mommy.

I just shook my head and thought --- All these folks love him and he gets that but all he loves is mommy?

Of course we sat there for awhile letting the rain touch our toes and giggling.

But I could not take it any more. This little Buddha boy had to explain his wisdom. I stood up and put my hands on my hips and demanded why he just loved mommy.


The little bugger head just sat there and smiled a wyley smile, as if to say sit down and shut up dad.

And then he said it so quiet I could not hear. Oh bugger boy knew what he was doing. I got real close and took a bite of my apple and glared at him. And demanded WHAT?

He just looked at me with those big brown eyes that smile and said real clear like:::: because she needs me to love her.

Well don't you worry the boy is taking a nap.

I do not think I broke anything hugging him so hard. But I am still crying. I busted off a piece of our fig tree and am carving him a whistle. And I just put a lame bird in a box that I hope we can help,,, because she needs our love.

What up with that boy? He gives love where it is needed and when it is needed. Me I am just an old dog. I give love so I get fed.

Do you figure that when I grow up I could be as smart as my son? Love the one you are with and sit down and take time to whittle like my grandpa taught me.

This song is so happy sad. Harry put me on his knee once and we all sang this song.

My boy will wake up from the nap soon.

I do tell you true I do not want to wake up from this life. Heaven? Are you kidding me? Dissy here be my heaven. You be my angel. My children be my Lord. My love be my wings and the world be my Disneyland and Oz.

The greatest thing about being crazy is that you ain't got no ropes holding to this fine earth. You can just take off.

I sat in a makeshift cell once in the Congo. Back in 75 I think. I was captured and life did not look good. For about a week. But here I am loving you and my boy today. Look at me, I am ugly but so happy so!!!


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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Carly my special friend you were there with us. Our hearts are so big we have room for everyone. Thank God for making them so.

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      CarlySullens 4 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

      This is such a heartwarming and precious read. I love the story, it was so visual, like I was sitting right there next to you and your son. What a special boy you have, indeed. And what a special dad he has.

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Such grace from such a noble man. You truly do justice to your demeanor.

      Coconuts are the wrong shape for The Coconuts ooh la la. Perhaps I should use willow.

      Happy days because every time is party time.

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      Who do you love?

      You, Sir Eric, you.

      And you can whittle words like Rodin sculpts.

      Have you tried whittling and sculpting the Coconuts yet? lol

      Again your words, wisdom and outlook on life is like a fine wine

      and a bottle of Eric de superior 2013 will become a very good year indeed.

      lake erie time 11:45am

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      MsDora, thank you for such kind words. I hope things are going well for you.

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Eiddwen thank you much, I really like writing this hub.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Interesting and well written as always Eric.

      Voted up.


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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, What a precious child! Even I want to cry. Both of your share love and impart wisdom to each other. You are blessed beyond words. Thanks for sharing.

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Cam my man, round here we just keep on keepin on. Every day is good day and bad days are worth their salt. But I must declare that a day with visit from you lets the sunshine beat back the clouds. My old yella teeth are smiling. Amen

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      Chris Mills 4 years ago from Missoula, Montana at least until August 2018

      Eric, this is the most awesome thing I have read in a very long time. You have shared a world of wisdom and good sense in these words. More from the whittlin' father and son.