Part 1: Is There Hope for A Dysfunctional Family
There will alway's be new beginning's
Disfunctional Parents don't realize the long term effects that their behavior has on their children. The effects can be devastating and can damage a child for life. Their reality takes on a whole new meaning. Trust becomes a major issue.
Their values have been compromized. There is a constant war raging inside from their past. And love? I don't think they ever learn how as long as the disfunction is present. Having a good relationship is almost impossible. As siblings they can't even look to eachother for help or love because there is usually sibling rivalry due to the effects. Taking it all out on eachother when eachother is who they really need.
Many children are ignored and made to feel they don't exist. This happens when there is a lack of communication in marriage and with their children. The feeling of non- existance causes depression and anxiety. As siblings they can't depend on eachother because there is no trust. They try to do it alone and alone they shall be for a long time. They create a distance between eachother when that's the last thing they need.
Can anyone relate to this? Are you living with or have you lived in a disfuntional family? How does one move past it? How does one begin putting it all back together when they themselves are falling apart. How does one even know what to do when they don't know where to start? When all they experianced was the total opposite of love. And without trust there cannot be love. Is there hope???
Whether you believe it or not there is hope! There is always hope! Sometimes you have to take a chance. Is there risk? There is always risk but there is something better and that something I'm certain is better than doing nothing.
One needs to step out in faith and hope. Take a chance. Maybe it will be worth it. Maybe is better than not. Right now there is not to love, not to trust, not to hope. Not to do anything but to be stuck like this for the rest of our lives.
To change is to step out in faith and begin concentrating on hope. Nothing is impossible unless we make it impossible. We can achieve the impossible just by setting our minds on the possibilities. The courage is within us. We just need to start being couragious.
Nothing worth having is ever easy and the rewards are endless. The rest of our lives are at stake and we have the power to change it. Let us begin now and stop hurting eachother as siblings and start helping eachother. If anything we've learned how to fight. Don't you think it's time we start fighting for eachother? We're not only fighting for eachother but we're also fighting for our own unique identity as well as our future. Take that chance. Break down those barriors. It's never too late. Chance is.......life could be a whole lot better...if we try.
Here are two wonderful hub links to help heal and avoid the cycle of abuse. I suggest you read them for there is much needed imformation here. You can stop this cycle and give yourself and your children hope. God bless you!