- Family and Parenting
"It's Okay Mommy"
By Candace Green
Have you ever felt you were at the end of your rope hanging on to the last piece of fringe? Mommies feel that way sometimes, whether it's just been a bad day or she is suffering from something deeper that hurts her or causes anxiety.
Right in the middle of your "moment," that little person comes running to you, head knocking your knee caps, looks straight up with those innocent eyes and says, " Mommy, hold me."
I know you don't feel you have another ounce of yourself to give, but that little voice calling you "Mommy" just seems to bring a stashed away strength you didn't know was in there. The next thing you know ( though tears still may be flowing and hurting heart may still be pounding) you find your lips lost in a little chubby cheek, patting a diapered bottom; both giving comfort and being comforted.
"So Mommies, while your feeling overwhelmed with the cares of this life, slow down, take a break, then take a look around." Those little eyes can tell Mommy is not feeling so happy, but if you look close enough you'll see they're saying, " Mommy it's okay."
You see a child by nature is lighthearted and don't feel pressures like we do. Even in times of unspeakable circumstances you can watch a child smile or find something playful in their surroundings. They can't figure out why Mommy is so mad or crying so hard, they are clueless. So sometimes it's good to enter into their little world in those tough moments, "get down in the floor next to their make-believe play and just take it all in." You may have to humble yourself, get a little dirty or slimy, but I bet you'll get back up with a smile on your face with your worries suppressed.
Lullaby's are a very soothing for Mothers and children to connect and relax. What's fun is to create your own lullaby's that they will remember for years to come and even share with their own children. Making memories is therapeutic now while your making them and will be cherished recollections in the future.
Try to refocus and realize though you have to exert your energy all day for these little people, you too can draw strength from them. " Don't be hard on yourself!" "Your doing a great job!"
Sometimes they're vocal, sometimes they're not, but if you take some time to chill out and enjoy your precious blessings, your problems ( as big as they may seem) will take a backseat and ultimately you may just find yourself believing those little eyes that seem to keep consoling --"Mommy, it's okay."