Joint Hindu Family Problems
what joint hindu family is ?
From the very beginning the concept of joint family was seen in india. It is still largely prevailing in southern part of india and some of the northern parts. Joint family comprises of maximum four generations. In earlier times the member use to have affection, love and caring attitude towards each other but with the changing time this concept is also changing. Females of the family usually share their work and males are engaged in joint hindu family business.
Joint hindu family believes in the concept "the family that eats together lives together". a strong bond and unity could be witnessed in the family.
Children in the family are more attached and close to their grandparents rather than their parents. Eldest members of the family had the decision making power others were obliged to follow their instructions even if they are not willing to.
But with the changing times certain changes and reforms can be seen:
- males not compulsory be engaged in the joint family business
- not necessary to follow the elders decision
- every member is free to do what he wants to
- every member can put forward their views, ideas on matters and issues concerning the family.
problems being faced
Selfish and money minded nature and mind set of the modern generations have lead to the decline of the popularity of joint hindu family. Lack of cultural and moral values is also the reason for decline of joint hindu family concept.
it is often observed that one of the member in the modern times in the joint hindu family is incorrigible, due to which maximum conflicts arises. There can be different reasons for the conflicts in the family:
- variation in the interests of the family members
- rising demands of children
- jealousy factor between the members and the children of the family
- partial attitude of the elder members
affects on children
the arising conflicts between the members of the family often tend to create and develop feelings of hatred in the children of the family. If one child of the family gets something it creates a feeling of jealousy amongst other children of the family and then they try to gain more attention and try to compete with their own siblings. Usually there should be love and affection amongst the children of the family but conflicts compel and force them to compete with each other. Children often try to show each other inferior to them.
Conflicts between the parents make children to hate their own uncle and aunt for no reason. Fight is between the parents but still children are affected.
conflicts make children:
- competitive in wrong or bad essence
- hate their own siblings
- carry on the conflicts
- creates differences between the members
- at times have cruel and wrong intentions
- loose thier innocence