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Just because you are a stay at home mom does not mean....
What you wear says a lot, or so they say
As a stay at home mom, society has expectations of you. It is like a certain table where you get imaginary points by imaginary judges, who really have no say in it, because after all, no one witnesses our days, except for us.
One of the biggest mistakes I have heard, is if you are doing "Motherhood" right you are basically wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts all day, no make up and barely time to take a shower. I personally do not agree with this what so ever. What this says to me basically is,to be a great mom, you need to forget that you as a person exist, because otherwise, you aren't doing it right. I am a stay at home mom, my kids are 4 and 2, and trust me, It is beyond a handful, sometimes I daydream of having 2 nannies and a maid who brings me coffee in bed. The truth is, what works for me, may not work for other people.
I have a schedule that works for me. I am not the mom who wears sweatpants all day, who doesn't do her hair, or gets dressed. I love that part of my day. I love to dress up comfortably but still in my way, stylish. I do this, by simply picking out the outfit the night before when the kids sleep and hoping that it looks the same the next morning. I don't think that judging anyone by the way they look is fair. I don't judge moms that love sweats, but at the same time, I don't want to be judged because of my bohemian style either. It is all a balancing act, to accommodate yourself through out the day.
Your cleaning skills...
Moving on now, let's talk about our cleaning skills. Basically, if your house is a mess, then you are doing motherhood right, but if its clean, then obviously you're doing something wrong. Once again, I don't agree. My house is extremely clean, which means I spend all day between singing Dora songs, while picking up the same Lego mess I had cleaned an hour ago. This doesn't mean I am not spending time with my children. I am, as I clean, they help, we turn it into a game, and they don't even realize they are cleaning until they are done. My house is clean, because that's the way I like it, I have always been very particular where things go and how things look. Call it my OCD. Don't get me wrong, there are days where I just don't pick anything up until after they go to bed, just to give my husband a little peek into what it would really look like if I didn't do it. It goes both ways as well. If you clean, then it means you aren't taking care of the kids, and if you don't, and you have a big mess, then it means you have been watching tv all day. Like I said, it is a lose lose situation, so just do it your way.
Oh, you're a stay at home mom working from home?
Yes!!! I am! And the looks I get on this one make me seriously laugh out loud! Once again the instant judgment that you are not doing motherhood right because how can you have time to work from home, if you're supposed to be taking care of your kids? Well that's simple. I work when they nap. I work when they sleep at night. I work when my husband comes home from work and takes them to play and keeps them busy. We are a good team. It doesn't mean I spend less time with my children, It just means that I am using my time wisely and doing something that I love.
What I have realized...
What I have realized is that we live in a world, where people will always judge, no matter what because it is human nature. As a stay at home mom, people love to point fingers on what you aren't doing right, or on how it is supposed to be. In this day and era, it is possible to be a stay at home mom, work from home, dress good, have a clean house, and still have time for yourself, because after all, you are still you, and you have to take care of you, in order to take care of them. Its time to show the world, that maybe we can do it all.