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Kids taken away, parents never put them in school
What are some parents thinking?
I just found out a few minutes ago that my boyfriends brother had his and his girlfriends two young daughters taken away by the state because they didn't enroll them in school this entire year!!
How does this happen? I just don't understand the mindset of some people. I'd been telling his brother for months now that these girls need to be in school or they'll be taken away, it's the law! In fact, early on in the school year, I personally took him and his girls to the local elementary school to get the paperwork to enroll them. Well then he decided to move back home with his ex and they never put them in school.
So, what were these poor girls doing this entire time? Good question, that's what I'd asked my boyfriend several times when he'd talk to his brother on the phone. I always put my nose in their business because I'd babysat the girls full-time for a couple of weeks before they left. We all lived together and the girls' father was trying to be a single father and do the right thing. But he didn't. My boyfriend and their sister talked about it on several occassions, angry as hell, because these poor girls are obviously not getting the education they so need and deserve.
The girls are 6 and 8, the youngest has never been in school, and the 8 year old missed most of the prior year of school as well. What do the parents think they're doing? How could you NOT send your children to school?
Drugs and their consequences:
The father of these two girls, along with their mother, has been addicted to drugs for the girls' entire lives. They've tried over and over to get sober, to no avail.
The sad part is, I know their father means well, I know he wants to help his girls and he loves his girls. But when your children aren't in school with the rest of the entire population, how do you not see that this is morally and socially wrong?
I realize I've already answered this question, they're on drugs. But it's difficult because I lived with the father and their girls for a time and I saw that he loved them very much. He did whatever he could to provide for them while he was here, but then he made the tragic decision to move back to the town where his drug addiction began. And the mother was not clean, he knew that. He's stuck in this addict-minded blur that doesn't allow him to see reality.
As I stated earlier, I babysat the two girls for a couple of weeks and saw their sad faces, heard their sad stories, and I tried to do whatever I could for them while I had the opportunity. They barely had any clothes and very few toys, so I bought them some toys and color crayons and books and paints. You should've seen the joy in their eyes when they saw what I'd gotten them. And I don't say that because I want credit for it, I never help others for selfish reasons. I'm telling you because the sadness I saw inside them, was alarming.
The girls and I would spend time outside playing and talking. They barely smiled, they told alot of fibs (to get my attention of course), and I could see that it was difficult there for them to be in a place they had never been, with a stranger. I babied them, I did almost everything they wanted me to do because I knew they'd never had that. Even though I have a bad back, I jumped on the trampoline with them because they loved it. I made them giggle and have fun and they began smiling after a few days of this. It's the hardest thing for me to realize that now they don't have their mother or their father.
I cannot bare to think of those two innocent, precious girls and how they're feeling right now. Strangers taking them away from their mommy and daddy, whom they've never been apart from. Of course you and I know that this is what should be happening but it's so unfortunate, they are innocent victims.
My heart goes out to them right now and I will pray for them. I will pray for their parents to take this as a wake-up call and get themselves the help they need so that those babies can have their parents back someday.
How will they thrive?
Not only have these children been ripped from their home by strangers, away from their parents, but the childen have not been given a true shot at life. How will they grow and thrive? Will they ever get caught up in school?
Their parents have not only taught them that an education is not important, but that it's okay to break the law.
How will they survive in society in the years to come? I hope to God that they are given to wonderful Foster Parents who can love them and give them the life they deserve. As they sit right now, they've been abused and neglected their entire lives. Do they have any hope of having a normal, happy life in the future? I will pray that they do.
This is what angers me about the parents, they are so incredibly selfish that they didn't care about their children. They didn't care that their children were hungry while they sat and smoked drugs in the next room. They didn't care that their kids were barricaded into a horrible mess of a room, that they practically lived in 24 hours a day, so they could get high. They didn't care for one second that their children were missing out on an education and the needed socialization that every human being needs in this life. They couldn't have fun without getting yelled at, they would be sent outside for hours at a time, with no supervision, God knows what could've happened to them.
My heart breaks each time I think of the situation these innocent babies have been in for most of their lives, but I'm happy that they're getting out of it. I'm happy that maybe they'll be able to enjoy some sense of normalcy for awhile, maybe forever. I'm happy they'll assumingly have food and toys and nurturing that they so deserve. At least they have each other. It's just a disgrace that adults could act this way, I think they should have to spend time in jail.
What do YOU think?