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Kids taken away, parents never put them in school

Updated on February 26, 2013

What are some parents thinking?

I just found out a few minutes ago that my boyfriends brother had his and his girlfriends two young daughters taken away by the state because they didn't enroll them in school this entire year!!

How does this happen? I just don't understand the mindset of some people. I'd been telling his brother for months now that these girls need to be in school or they'll be taken away, it's the law! In fact, early on in the school year, I personally took him and his girls to the local elementary school to get the paperwork to enroll them. Well then he decided to move back home with his ex and they never put them in school.

So, what were these poor girls doing this entire time? Good question, that's what I'd asked my boyfriend several times when he'd talk to his brother on the phone. I always put my nose in their business because I'd babysat the girls full-time for a couple of weeks before they left. We all lived together and the girls' father was trying to be a single father and do the right thing. But he didn't. My boyfriend and their sister talked about it on several occassions, angry as hell, because these poor girls are obviously not getting the education they so need and deserve.

The girls are 6 and 8, the youngest has never been in school, and the 8 year old missed most of the prior year of school as well. What do the parents think they're doing? How could you NOT send your children to school?


Drugs and their consequences:

The father of these two girls, along with their mother, has been addicted to drugs for the girls' entire lives. They've tried over and over to get sober, to no avail.

The sad part is, I know their father means well, I know he wants to help his girls and he loves his girls. But when your children aren't in school with the rest of the entire population, how do you not see that this is morally and socially wrong?

I realize I've already answered this question, they're on drugs. But it's difficult because I lived with the father and their girls for a time and I saw that he loved them very much. He did whatever he could to provide for them while he was here, but then he made the tragic decision to move back to the town where his drug addiction began. And the mother was not clean, he knew that. He's stuck in this addict-minded blur that doesn't allow him to see reality.

As I stated earlier, I babysat the two girls for a couple of weeks and saw their sad faces, heard their sad stories, and I tried to do whatever I could for them while I had the opportunity. They barely had any clothes and very few toys, so I bought them some toys and color crayons and books and paints. You should've seen the joy in their eyes when they saw what I'd gotten them. And I don't say that because I want credit for it, I never help others for selfish reasons. I'm telling you because the sadness I saw inside them, was alarming.

The girls and I would spend time outside playing and talking. They barely smiled, they told alot of fibs (to get my attention of course), and I could see that it was difficult there for them to be in a place they had never been, with a stranger. I babied them, I did almost everything they wanted me to do because I knew they'd never had that. Even though I have a bad back, I jumped on the trampoline with them because they loved it. I made them giggle and have fun and they began smiling after a few days of this. It's the hardest thing for me to realize that now they don't have their mother or their father.

I cannot bare to think of those two innocent, precious girls and how they're feeling right now. Strangers taking them away from their mommy and daddy, whom they've never been apart from. Of course you and I know that this is what should be happening but it's so unfortunate, they are innocent victims.

My heart goes out to them right now and I will pray for them. I will pray for their parents to take this as a wake-up call and get themselves the help they need so that those babies can have their parents back someday.


How will they thrive?

Not only have these children been ripped from their home by strangers, away from their parents, but the childen have not been given a true shot at life. How will they grow and thrive? Will they ever get caught up in school?

Their parents have not only taught them that an education is not important, but that it's okay to break the law.

How will they survive in society in the years to come? I hope to God that they are given to wonderful Foster Parents who can love them and give them the life they deserve. As they sit right now, they've been abused and neglected their entire lives. Do they have any hope of having a normal, happy life in the future? I will pray that they do.

This is what angers me about the parents, they are so incredibly selfish that they didn't care about their children. They didn't care that their children were hungry while they sat and smoked drugs in the next room. They didn't care that their kids were barricaded into a horrible mess of a room, that they practically lived in 24 hours a day, so they could get high. They didn't care for one second that their children were missing out on an education and the needed socialization that every human being needs in this life. They couldn't have fun without getting yelled at, they would be sent outside for hours at a time, with no supervision, God knows what could've happened to them.

My heart breaks each time I think of the situation these innocent babies have been in for most of their lives, but I'm happy that they're getting out of it. I'm happy that maybe they'll be able to enjoy some sense of normalcy for awhile, maybe forever. I'm happy they'll assumingly have food and toys and nurturing that they so deserve. At least they have each other. It's just a disgrace that adults could act this way, I think they should have to spend time in jail.

What do YOU think?

Do you know someone who's had their children taken away from them?

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    • MissJamieD profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from Minnes-O-ta

      Thank you Sharkye. And I totally agree that not all children at home are abused, that certainly wasn't what I was trying to say. I really admire parents who homeschool their children, it cannot be easy:) And you're right, I do care very much for these girls and hope to have some contact with them soon, if at least throug the mail. Thanks again for reading, I really appreciate your comments and input:)

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      Jayme Kinsey 

      5 years ago from Oklahoma

      I never went to school after I was 9. But...I was homeschooled. Or as it is frequently called now "unschooled", meaning we didn't use an official program. The difference was that I had wonderful parents. These girls obviously deserve better care than they were receiving. I am sure that even if they were in school their lives would have not been better. Maybe even harder as they dealt with social issues, since they probably didn't have much guidance in that department. Not all kids who are kept home are morally or socially deprived, however...children who are allowed to run wild are neglected. Very good hub, full of emotion. It is obvious you care very much for these girls. I hope you are able to retain contact with them and that they go on to lead rich wonderful lives full of caring people. Voting up.

    • MissJamieD profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from Minnes-O-ta

      You're so right Vicki and I hope there is a way for me to send them gifts and/or cards in the mail because I know from experience that all kids love getting things in the mail. And it's not about the money or material things when a child is young and from a dysfunctional family. They really do feel like someone cares about them during these innocent years and even if I had to remain anonymous I'd make the same decision. So I am going to have my boyfriend get their address if that's possible. Thanks again for your kind words;)

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      5 years ago from Minnes-O-ta

      Elizabeth I totally agree that they're in better hands now. In fact after they left for a couple months I talked about taking them myself! But I have 3 of my own kids I'm sharing with their father and I can't afford an attorney for the legal side of things. But I told my bf (the girls' uncle) several times that I would've easily and definitely taken them in for awhile while the parents regrouped. But who knows if they'll do that even now. Thanks so much dear I'm happy you stopped by and commented;)

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      Elizabeth Mara 

      5 years ago from New Hampshire

      Hello, Miss Jamie,

      I have read your hub with mixed feelings. I realize you are saddened and worried for these children, and rightly so. As an outsider, though, I felt a little relief for them now that someone with power to make decisions is aware of their plight. I, too, hope and pray that these decisions will be ones to heal and help them in a secure foster environment. I agree with Vickiw that even one loving and supportive voice can make a huge impact on thier lives -- you are already that voice, here, in this hub, recounting what has brought you all this far. I hope you find the strength to go farther, because they still need you. I hope your words find other supporters for all of you. Take care.

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      5 years ago

      Hi again Marie, take comfort in knowing that both of you must now focus your energy on supporting these children. You can literally be their saving grace. You cannot deal with the parents, because addicts are not in their right minds, and will take endless advantage of family to support their habit. You have the right idea - any money will go to their habit. You may not be able to know where the children are, but you can still communicate through CPS, and can receive from the children the same way. Make it your business to find a helpful contact in CPS. Doing that will help you so much. My heart is with you!

    • MissJamieD profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from Minnes-O-ta

      Vicki and Reaper--You women are so amazingly beautiful and supportive, thank you so much. It really does mean alot to me. My boyfriend and I have been texting all evening (he's working and his brother called him earlier this evening and told him the news) and him and I are just beside ourselves. Of course we new the inevitable was coming, but now that it is a reality, we're sickened and saddened, deeply. Thank you for the wonderful tips, I will definitely send them things through whomever I need to. My bf and I thought about sending them packages before, but we knew the parents would probably try to take the items and sell them for drugs. Even if it was color crayons and dolls, drug addicts are rugged. So, I guess now I will try to find out where they are and send my love to them. They need it now more than ever, and they certainly needed it desparately before.

      Again, thank you for the support ladies:)

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      Faith Reaper 

      5 years ago from southern USA


      I am so sorry to hear of such a sad thing. When it comes to children, my heart just breaks to no end for them. I will pray that they are blessed with great foster parents too. I seems a lot of people are so focused on themselves, they are not even aware of the damage being done to their very own children. No judgment here, but God can change the hearts of men, and that is exactly what is needed are lots of heart changes in the sometimes brutal world in which we must live. You sound like a very loving person, and would make a great role model to any child, as your heart seems to be filled with much love for others.

      God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      5 years ago

      Hi Miss Jamie, I hear the sadness and desperation in your words. This is a situation where the children cannot stay with them because you cannot expect anything different until the parents manage to get clean. I hope too that they have really good foster parents until that time comes. I can tell you this: research shows that if children at risk have only one person in the world who believes in them and cares about them, they have a very good chance of succeeding in life. You have and can continue to show caring for them, by means of cards to them through CPS if necessary, and little gifts of things they like. You can be such an important person for them! My thoughts and prayers are with you.


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