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Leading my family

Updated on July 17, 2016

From the rat race to...

A few years ago I worked overtime 15-16 hours a day. My girls would wait up at night for me just to have a few minutes with me but it came to me when I saw my son on a Sunday and the next time I saw him was on the Friday. I realized then that my job is not everything and needed to spend some time with my family. I have neglected my wife as well were we would spend very little time talking to each other but more talk at each other shouting instructions and request buy bread we need milk do shopping the kids need new shoe etc. etc.

I made a conscious decision to become the person who people go to for any kind of assistance, but not being able to see my own family prosper was almost wasted. Not in regard that others are lea significant but as Jesus said that we must take out the beam out our own eyes before we take out the splint out our brother’s eye. I then stopped working so much at the work place and start working with my family in specific my wife and children and when that happened a lot more people came to me for assistance or advice or just someone to listen to their problem or predicaments. The role model started to form especially my family. I know concentrate to ensure my family’s goals are met.

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What would you do if your family at home sees you less than you "family"at work

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Building a better community engage our kids

During this time we see drug use is going up especially in the Teenager in communities I live in about 20% is still in high school about 10% in primary school Kids as young 8 years old

It take a community to raise a child

A study of 263 13- to 18-year-old adolescent women seeking psychological services found that the adolescents from father-absent homes were 3.5 times more likely to experience pregnancy than were adolescents from father-present homes. Moreover, the rate of pregnancy among adolescents from father absent homes was 17.4% compared to a four (4) percent rate in the general adolescent population.

Father involvement is related to positive cognitive, developmental, and socio-behavioral child outcomes, such as improved weight gain in preterm infants, improved breastfeeding rates, higher receptive language skills, and higher academic achievement.

Stand up as fathers in our community even to the fatherless

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    • ChristoulouMarkus profile imageAUTHOR

      Christoulou Jean Markus 

      2 years ago from Brakpan

      True that but how is society wrapped up in making money that we live now in a corrupt world. Are we as leaders sitting back or are we taking the bull by the horns. I think we need to step out of our comfort zone and impact and influence others to change their mindset, not easy to do though. As you say you learned it the hard way. I don't want to learn the hard way I almost did ,but can still be much happier and content when changing the world one mindset at a time

    • denise.w.anderson profile image

      Denise W Anderson 

      2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Sometimes it takes a major wake-up call to get us to look at what is happening in our lives. It is far better to work a lower paying job and have time for family than to make more money and never be home. I learned this the hard way! Now, we are all happier!


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