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Learning from our children
Children and innocence
Children have a wonderful way of looking at things and they have an innocence that is precious and they seem to approach their life with a simple logic that adults seem to have lost with age. I have found through my own personal experiences in raising my son who is very intelligent that he is very mature in ways and very immature in ways as a result of his autism. I try not to label him but it seems that his diagnosis fits his behavior and his struggles. I have been very understanding in my son's situation and I always have been supportive and very optimistic. I have learned many things from my son and I always find that he can express himself and interact with others. I have struggled also in my life as I was always painfully shy and usually avoided social situations due to my difficulties in expressing myself freely. With my son it seems that when he gets to know someone he starts to open up and become more expressive. He seems to enjoy having the opportunity to do so and we always encourage this for him.
My most favorite part of the day is the time I get to spend with my son. I am very aware that he needs to have social contacts so he can develop and mature properly. It seems kids who are on the autistic spectrum have varying degrees of the condition. Some have a mild version and others have a very severe form of autism. It is also common that children who are on the autistic spectrum usually have repetitive behaviors that seem to help relax them and help them through stressful times. We try to help our son adapt and try to help him when he is feeling overwhelmed.
I have many recollections of my childhood and I always remember when my sisters or I said something insightful in the presence of our parents my dad would always say "out of the mouth of babes." It seems children do understand and are able over time to assimilate information and formulate opinions and express their view. A child should be able to express their opinion and should be heard. Never discount the ideas of a child. They usually are insightful and very honest.
I always enjoy asking my son for his take on things and I do value his opinion and I always let him know this as I wish to help build his self esteem and to let him know that we all should express our feelings, ideas and should always have the right to be heard.
My son has an innocence and a sensitivity that my wife and I appreciate and we encourage him to maintain these traits so he doesn't become hardened as he gets older.
I believe the two best things in life that influence men and help them get in touch with their feelings and make them better and stronger are women and children. We need them both in our life to make us happy, share our feelings and give us the capacity to love and take on responsibility. We are lost without them. I love my wife and son very much as they both mean the world to me and they give me perspective, insight, hope, love, security and a feeling of great happiness.
I have learned so much since becoming a father and I owe it all to my wife and son.
I dedicate this to my son who inspires me everyday and my wife for blessing me with a beautiful son and I am thankful to God for making it all possible.
Edward D. Iannielli III