- Family and Parenting
Lesbian Parenting: Can two women raise good kids?
To the people who go out their way to say that two women can’t raise good kids I only have one question … “Since when?”
No seriously, this is by no means a rhetorical question in any way, I would really like to know why a person’s sexuality limit them their ability to be a good parent. Let’s just pause and take a second to explore a few widely known facts.
Form the beginning of time, the structure of what constitutes a family has manifested itself in so many forms. Two parents, one parent, no parents, kids raised by grandparents and extended families, and kids raised by wolves’ lol. I mean all humor aside children have been raised in all kinds of parenting environment and still turn out successful. Very few cultures around the around actually subscribe to what many are labeling as “normal” parenting roles.
To say lesbians or two gay men cannot raise well-grounded and confident children is just as ridiculous as saying two people with blue eyes cannot raise good children. Why are we as a society blurring the lines? Your sexuality is just that… YOURS. It’s a part of who you are, and the only thing it should dictate is who you choose to love. Your sexuality speaks nothing of your character or your ability to mentor and guide a child along their own path.
If this was indeed the case then the honor roll should chuck full with children from only a hetero normative background. At the end of the day, I am a firm believer in “to each his own”. However, the stereotypes are way too thick and way too padded and way too outlandish to use as a foundation to place judgement on anyone. Family is complicated, and we can use culture to define it, or religion to try to make it concrete, but at the end of the day if we just look at our surroundings and the people around, us we would see that the proof is in the pudding.
So many of us was not raised in the traditional family setting however we have turned out just fine if not sometimes even better than those who were. As a child I was raised in a parent less home, and I can attest to the fact that what makes a good parent has nothing to do with gender roles or sexuality but has everything to do with love. If you can provide a child with love and guidance that is the most important thing that is needed (aside from the obvious food and shelter). The research has shown time and time again that a child that does not experience love suffers on so many levels. So I would then be lead to conclude that whether you're black, white, Latino or somewhere in between. Gay, straight, bisexual, transgender or lesbian what ultimately matters is that you provide an environment for your child that's reliable stable and filled with lots of love.