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Letters To My Grandchild: Defining Character

Updated on October 5, 2012
A grandparent's words of wisdom through letters can be effective in helping a grandchild to define his or her character.
A grandparent's words of wisdom through letters can be effective in helping a grandchild to define his or her character.

Defining Who You Are

The process of defining yourself starts with knowing who you are; knowing how you identify yourself. These values affect your relationships and decisions you make. How do others see you? Are you the same person with them as you are when you are alone? Understanding who you are and accepting yourself will define your world.

Defining yourself necessitates mentally thinking about who you are when you interact with others and the feelings associated during your exchange of ideas. It also requires noticing your personal behavior and emotions that affect your actions. Why do you feel that way as you interact?

Think about the last time you felt really good about yourself. What was it that made you feel so positive? Did your interaction with others throughout the day affect your mood?

Encouraging a child to take the time to think about these answers will help him to discover what he values and to know himself. These moments will define her and build her character, leading to strong relationships with others, joy and contentment in life.

The following is an excerpt from a letter my husband wrote to our oldest grandchild. It is one in a series of mentoring topics meant to help him develop into a person of integrity; someone who values good life principles while helping others.

Defining Who I Am

Setting Moral Values That Define Character

One of the things that I wanted to touch upon is to ask if you've been taking time to think about whether you've been doing the right things as you go throughout your day. The reason I keep asking is because I think it is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

If you are like most people, you tend to leave things that work well alone and fix those things that are broken. So, we usually don't make an effort to change the way we behave or the way we treat other people, unless we need to. In other words, we usually don't fix something unless it's broken. And, to go further, you usually won't change the way you behave or act unless you take the time to think about the things you've done and consciously decide to change them for the better. You have to know what's broken before you can get around to fixing it.

But again, the main reason I keep asking is because I believe it is one of the most important things we can do to become a better person; and for you to eventually become the good man you were meant to be.

As you get older, you're going to find that everyone needs to continue to grow in both body and mind. We need to grow in our thoughts and in our relationships with other people. We need to form a set of moral values that will ultimately define who we are and how we will interact with others. You'll find these values will act as your guide when making both small and big decisions in your life.

If you haven't taken the time to reflect, make sure you begin doing it soon. Make sure it's something that you do more than just once in a while. It's something that needs to keep growing, something that will help you learn about yourself (and about other people). Something that will continually help you to become a better person.

Grandparent Wisdom: Words To Live By

As I reflect upon what motivated me to know myself and contentment, I recall the words that my parents used to encourage my personal satisfaction with life circumstances:

I've learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I'm just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I've found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, where I am, I can make it through anything in the ONE who makes me who I am. Book of Philippians 4:11

Grandparent Humor

Even though grandparents have a lot of wisdom to share, having a sense of humor is always a must when talking to grandchildren. I thought I would include a couple of jokes to remind grandparents how children make our life brighter.

  1. A grandmother was telling her little granddaughter what her own childhood was like: "We used to skate outside on a pond. I had a swing made from a tire; it hung from a tree in our front yard. We rode our pony. We picked wild raspberries in the woods." The little girl was wide-eyed, taking this in. At last she said, "I sure wish I'd gotten to know you sooner!"
  2. I didn't know if my grandson had learned his colors yet, so I decided to test him. I would point out something and ask what color it was. He would tell me, and always he was correct. But it was fun for me, so I continued. At last he headed for the door, saying sadly, "Grandpa, I think you should try to figure out some of these yourself!"

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How To Define Character

Parents can help children define character by discussing virtues relating to character development. This can also help your child to build positive self-esteem increasing his or her self worth and love of life.

I advise parents to wait until their child is old enough to understand these concepts before cultivating their definition of self. Most children are ready to discuss these topics when they reach upper elementary grades, but remember to keep your discussions in age appropriate terms.

Try to relate to your child through words and thoughts they will comprehend; the simpler the better. Sometimes it helps to draw pictures, read books, play a game centered around the concept, or watch a movie theme highlighting a character value.

The following points are ones that can help your child to understand character values that lead to a life of happiness, peace and contentment. It is what defines a person of integrity and great leadership.

  • What are your strengths? What can you do that shows you make good decisions? How have you become a better person this year? Can you think of a time where you helped someone with a problem that led them to personal happiness?
  • Learn to forgive yourself. Think about a time when you hurt yourself or someone else. Decide that it was not a good decision and that you will forgive yourself and let it go. This will free you to become comfortable with who you are; be kind to yourself.
  • Develop Humility. When you are humble you admit that you are not perfect. This allows you to make mistakes and to know that you can learn to do better. It will help you to respect your strengths and how much you have learned in life so far; celebrate your accomplishments.
  • Thankfulness. Appreciate or be grateful for what you have and have been given. Maybe you can write a list of things you are thankful for in your life. Has someone helped you or shown you kindness? Why not thank them for how they have helped you?
  • Be Responsible. Be honest when you are wrong and apologize if needed. When you are honest, this shows you are in control of your thoughts and actions: a mark of a good person.
  • Visualize Goodness (Success): Can you see yourself being a successful or good person? Imagine what you are doing. How are other people reacting to you? Do you feel good about who you are and what you have learned? Did you help people to know happiness through your actions?

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      Girish puri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      Diana, A Very much important share, and exactly defines the need of our children to know, about character, their goal , purpose of life, various strengths, and of course the very important personality traits, they need to have, i give full marks to this very important hub, voted way up. thank you so much.

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      mjkearn 4 years ago

      Hi Teaches

      Fabulous well written hub. Integrity, humility and honesty are among the strongest virtues. Teaching children these and more is so important and seemingly, sadly too often missed.

      I've met plenty of adults who lack these qualities and the addage "old dogs new tricks" reverberates in my head.

      Yet another great piece Teaches. Great job, voted up and ticked.

      MJ.

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      Terrye Toombs 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      This was awesome, Dianna! Loved it. Voted up and sharing.

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      huckelbury 4 years ago

      Hi, Teaches,

      Asian philosophy describes 3 faces we all have: a public face, a face for our friends, and a private face that no one sees. But what happens if we unite those 3 faces? Your piece defines the self-knowledge and benefits that result. If not, it's the old saying that if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you always got. Thanks for the reminder. I, too, voted up.

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      Mary 4 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Great hub, I too believe we should raise children with morals and values, voted up and more.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Dianna, again I love these letters for your grandkids, they never cease to amaze me and you really have done a great here as usual. Beautiful message too!! I have of course pinned, shared, voted and tweeted too!!!

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      I read this and appreciate all the thought you put into it. I think today, more than ever kids need lots of discipline and lots of understanding about life. It doesn't hurt to say no to kids or that we cannot afford it...THere is a fear that these kids are growing up with a sense of entitlement. Beautiful hub and as always you did a wonderful job. Voted up, Shared..

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      I, too, have written letters to my children and to my grandchildren. I like to think those letters may have influenced them to be better people with good moral values.

      I wrote a hub "Grandma's Advice To Our Youth. I'd invite you to read it, and I'd like to link this Hub into that one, please. I wish I could just put a link to it here, but that's a "no-no".

      I voted this UP, etc. and will share and Pin.

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      Wayne Brown 4 years ago from Texas

      My parents were far from educated people but they both understood the value of character and of looking at ourselves through the eyes of others. They projected that awareness on us three kids in such a practical way that we hardly knew we were in the learning mode. I always told my kids while they were growing up to "think before you do". It was my way of safeguarding them from bad choices which might put them in danger. In later years, I also realized that it also worked with things like character and impressions left on others. It more or less relates to the old saying "engage your brain before you open your mouth." I like you point on reflection and review of your actions. We can learn much from taking a good objective look at ourselves....that's how we get better at being us! Wonderful article....thanks much for sharing it. ~WB

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      RTalloni 4 years ago from the short journey

      You make some great points here and it's a wonderful thing that your husband reaches out to your grandchildren this way--something I hope to be able to do when ours are older.

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      Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

      Moral values defining character is very essential to develop into a kind and considerate human being. Great ideas and points put across. The letter I must say is so well written - great letter to a grandchild. Voted up and shared.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      What great grandparents you and your husband are....such wise lessons to teach your grandchildren. I'm not there yet, but I'll remember this hub when I have grandkids. Thank you for the lesson, Teach!

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      Stephanie Hicks 4 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Simply beautiful! My relationship with my grandparents was very special, and they imparted lessons to me that I could not have learned (because I wasn't listening) from my own parents. Very inspirational and special to read about your grandparenting. Rated up! Steph

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Girishpuri, you always encourage me through your remarks. Thank you. Enjoy your day, friend.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Mjkearn, you are correct -- these virtues are sadly missed in today's world of child-raising. Hopefully, I am positive that we can turn things around for the future by reaching out to those who hear, listen and act upon it. Take care.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hey, Terrye! Thanks for your support here. Always a great day when you drop in to a hub.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Huckelbury, wise words spoken! Thanks or the added value to the content. I like the 3 faces concept. I am going to check in on you shortly and looking forward to following your posts. Take care and be strong.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Prettynut, keep believing and influencing! Thanks for your support.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Janine, what a wonderful encouragement you are to me! Thanks. My hope is to help parents raise children who value others and their own actions. Take care, friend.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Carol, I agree with your sentiment on entitlement. I fear those children are in for some difficult life situations, hopefully they will learn from them. Be well and strong, friend.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Absolutely link it to your hub, Mary! Thank you for your support that is always such a bright spot in my day. I love your writing as well. Take care dear friend.

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      Rosemary Sadler 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      I think children often listen to grandparents rather than parents so it is wonderful that both you and your husband are devoted to guiding them in the right direction. Your husband's letter lay a good grounding for the child to get to know himself and question his character in order to developed and grow.

      Awesome

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Wayne,

      When I read your posts, I always am encouraged by your sharing of values. Your parents raised you well, friend. I love that thought, "engage your brain before you open your mouth." I think adults need to keep this tattooed on the palm of their hand as reminders. I appreciate your visit here today. Take care.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Rtalloni, I am confident that you will be a great influence on your future grandkids. You have lots of wisdom to share. Thanks for your visit here today and your wonderful support of my efforts. Walk tall and strong today.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Vellur, thanks for your insight on this topic, so true. My husband takes his grandparenting job seriously, guess that's a good virtue in itself. Thank you so much for coming by here today. You be careful out there.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Bill, I know that you will be an awesome grandparent when the day comes. I'm sure we will see some really wise posts as a result. Thanks for coming by here today. Have a PIPO day.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Steph, you have validated the purpose of a grandparent's mentoring -- kids tend to listen a little harder when it comes from a loving grandparent. Yours were a blessing to you. Take care, friend.

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 4 years ago from Western NC

      Beautiful, beautiful hub. I love your "letters" and it's so true what you say: we often don't fix what's broken. However, improving upon the already good things can make all the difference! Voted up/shared/tweeted/and more. :)

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hey, Cindy! Thanks for adding value to the hub. I always enjoy your comments and appreciate your support. Enjoy your blessings today.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Rosemay, you have touched on the essence of what grandparents can mean in a child's life. Thank you. Good to see you here, friend. Enjoy your day.

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      Your husband is a wise man. I think that letter is wonderful as he helps the young man develop and give thought to the things that will make him a better man. I also think Grandchildren often listen to their Grandparents in a different way than they listen to their parents. This is an awesome hub and so helpful in guiding a child in the way that will fulfill their lives with integrity and happiness. Blessings.

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      The Frog Prince 4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      I was taught values and often was told by my Mother that you can see the character of a person first hand by looking at the people you associate with. That is the stone cold truth.

      TFP

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      whonunuwho 4 years ago from United States

      The letter idea can be so meaningful to our grandchildren and cherished for years to come. Thank you for sharing this marvelous work,teaches.

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      Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

      I think this is a wonderful idea and the letter is very well written. The last paragraph about 'reflection' resonated with me. Reflection is difficult when you are young, it takes a bit of life experience under your belt to get better at it but it is a useful thing once you get it. I have a teenager who is still not great at reflection - she 'blames' a lot but she is still young and I know you get better at this stuff as you gain life experience.

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      the girls 4 years ago from Los Angeles, California

      Your grandkids are very lucky to have wonderful, supportive and caring grandparents. A touching expression of love.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Pamela,

      I agree with you, my hubby is a great man. He does take interest in his grandchildren and tries to encourage them in dealing positively with life. Thanks for your comment and blessings; the same to you!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Frog, we are known by the friends that we keep. My mom quoted that to me from the Bible -- it has also followed me though my growing years. True!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I always enjoy your visits, whonu. Thanks for your positive contribution to the topic.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Jools, reflection is a bit hard for kids to understand. Using terms familiar to them helps. Example, I often use the Golden Rule: if it were you, how would you feel? to help them to learn right and wrong. Thanks for your added value to the hub topic. Be well and strong.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Thanks for your kind comment, The girls. It was seeing you here. Enjoy your day.

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I love the letter and your advice, Dianna. There's a lot of wisdom in your hub, and good suggestions for adults as well as for children!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Alicia, I appreciate your support and visit. I think you are right, it is good advice for adults as well. Take care.

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      teacherjoe52 4 years ago

      Good morning teaches.

      I really agree with you.

      In class I always teach please and thank you. Soon it becomes second nature to them. The children end up being much more polite with each other.

      Another thing that I learned many years ago which works wonders is to practice in front of a mirrior before a presentation as well as for self confidence. The picturing in your mind is also very effective.

      God bless you.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Your great role modeling will help children to know what is acceptable as good in society. I love how you teach them simple please and thank you, TeacherJoe. God bless you for how much you value those under your care.

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      RTalloni 4 years ago from the short journey

      Walk tall and strong…thanks, dear girl. :)

      I remembered a grandparent story (not mine): A grandma was standing in a long line with her freckle-faced granddaughter. A boy of similar age was in front of them with his mother. The boy was making fun of the girl's freckles. The girl's grandmother leaned over to her teary-eyed little one and said, "It's okay. I love freckles." The little granddaughter looked into her grandmother's loving eyes and tenderly said, "I love wrinkles."

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      RTalloni, aaawww, such a sweet story. Kids say the most endearing things at just the right time!

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      James A Watkins 4 years ago from Chicago

      Thank you for publishing this lovely little Hub. I enjoyed the 'grandparent humor.' And the letter to your grandson is priceless.

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      kelleyward 4 years ago

      Hi, teaches, I'm sharing this one with my mom. She'll love your take on this, especially the grandparent humor. Kids need grandparents in their lives. Thanks for writing this informative and useful hub! Blessings, Kelley

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      James, I love those jokes that we often can "live" as grandparents. Thanks for your visit here today. Be well and strong.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hi Kelley. I appreciate your coming by here and value your opinion. I enjoy the jokes, it keeps us focused on how kids view our antics! God bless you. Enjoy your day.

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      jellygator 4 years ago from USA

      It's touching that your husband is taking such an active and loving role in your grandchildren's lives. (And I laughed aloud at the naming colors story!)

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      Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      What excellent advice and I loved your husband's letter.

      I have never written letters to my grandchildren, yet I treasure those from mine - I need to start writing some!

      Thank you and voted up

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Jellygator, Glad you enjoyed the hub and that the joke put a smile in your day. I enjoyed your visit and appreciate your support.

      Movie Master, your words of love in a letter to them will be a tangible reminder to them forever. Thanks for your visit here today, good to see you. Enjoy your weekend.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      The awesome thing about writing a letter like this is the fact that it could well be passed down through many more generations, wonderful hub! voted up!

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      The six points you stress at the end of your article, Dianna, are not only important for us to teach our children and our grandchildren, but to remember they apply to us as well. Thanks for this very well-written reminder.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Drbj, funny you should mention that, I use these in teaching professional development and ethics for adults learners. It is values we can all live by at any age. Thanks for your added insight here. Enjoy your weekend. Live Strong and well!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Nell, thank you for visiting today. I have letters from my mother that still bring me much joy and teach me important things in life. They were written over 30 years ago but they still hold true today for me. Enjoy your weekend.

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      Brenda Barnes 4 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

      As people who have lived a long time, we have wisdom to impart to our grandchildren. Writing letters and asking thought provoking questions can be a true legacy. You are an inspiration to many and are establishing a foundation for the future. I hope I do also.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hyphenbird, I am sure you are making great strides in your family. I know that you are online and they probably pick up on this as well. Thank you for your positive support, dear lady.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      I'm no grandmother yet, thanks goodness! Please daughters, don't turn me into one granny yet, though this is the last fulfilling step of womanhood.

      Thank you for this hub, teaches! It is teaching our children how to value self respect in them first, then, they will receive the respect they need from others esp. their friends. Self respect carries all the great aspects to build up happiness in oneself through DEFINING WHO WE ARE. That is a very good lesson!

      Instead of voting under your Poll with "All of the Above" choice, I have picked "Other" and here is my reason...

      My real answer is "How to be Happy", but I have to explain a bit, so I choose "Others...". To be happy or find total happiness is the product of all the truthfulness, loving others, humility and forgiveness one MUST know how to give and take.

      From here, I would love to share this to my two loves of my life...my daughters. Sharing this hub too to many. Thank you teaches for the words of wisdom to a grandchild.

      Useful and awesome!!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Coffee, to be truly happy is to have wisdom in life, you have found that joy. So glad for your add to this topic and appreciate your visit, votes and sharing. You have a real good evening.

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      Martie Coetser 4 years ago from South Africa

      Hi teaches, you were the HHOT on 10/11. Now rather late than never, I pick this hub of yours as my favorite. Because I can relate. I agree all the way with you. I love my 4 grandchildren; they are my rewards, awards and most precious delights.

      This is a profound and awesome hub to be taken to heart :)

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Martie, your grandchildren are your blessings from above and a heaven-sent reward. Enjoy them for me. Thanks for the support and for your kind well wishes.

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      Barbara Anne Helberg 4 years ago from Napoleon, Henry County, Ohio, USA

      @teaches12345...I really like the concept of this Hub!

      What is more important in today's fast-paced and changing world than to try to retain family and character values?

      And letter-writing itself is becoming a lost art that needs rescue: as in the hair-pulling grammar seen on the Internet, particularly on Facebook and other social media outlets, by the youth of our nation who take shortcuts to follow that nerve-jarring pace.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Barb, I always enjoy receiving letters by snail-mail. They are a special personal touch from the sender. Thanks for your add to this topic. Enjoy your weekend.

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi teaches,

      What an invaluable article and something that reminds me how important the role of grandparents are in our lives, if we are fortunate to have them. I was lucky to have all four growing up and the memories and lessons learned were invaluable. In fact, one my sayings I live by in all aspects of my life (work, personal) was told to me by my grandfather.

      "Treat others the way you yourself would want to be treated"

      Great article, with so much relevant info. My parents brought us up with great morals that I see in my nieces and nephew and I for one think that much of that stems from parents and therefore grandparents!

      Well done on another excellent topic! VU, across and shared!

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Beautiful hub, well worth the read!

      Voted up and beautiful! Sharing!

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Teaches...you and your husband are to be commended for being such thoughtful and stellar grand parents. Your grandchildren are surely blessed to have you. I wish you much love and happiness from your precious little ones..........UP+++

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Suzie, You were blessed to have your four grandparents in your life. What a wonderful philosophy, The Golden Rule, is the best advice you can receive in navigating life's challenges. Thank you for stopping in to visit, I so enjoyed your comment.

      Livingsta, Thank you for the votes and support. It was nice of you to stop by for a visit. I hope your day is going well.

      Fpherj48, thank you. We are very blessed to have such wonderful grandkids in our lives. Thanks for your positive contribution here. You enjoy your day and take care.

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      Denise Handlon 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Dianna-any title with the word 'grandkids' or 'grandparents' catches my eye. This is a wonderful article that brings a lot of importance to its message. I LOVED the two humorous stories and had to read them out loud to my friend because he was wondering why I was LOL. I truly enjoyed this one. Rated Up and all across / sharing.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Denise, you and I think alike; I love reading stories about grandparenting. I am glad that you had a good laugh from the jokes. When I first read them, they made me laugh out loud too. Thanks for your support. Enjoy your evening.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Was sure I commented on this but guess not. This is a wonderful write. It is like the difference in day and night with children following your advice. Sometimes we can reach children one way if not another too. Isn't it so satisfying to see children brought up well even if they are not ours? Enjoyable hub all round! Sharing and up.

      Oh, love your new photo too.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I agree that seeing any child growing up right is a pure joy and a blessing to those around them. Using a variety of methods helps to get points across, something will eventually click. Great add here, Jackie.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi teaches,

      I don't know how I missed ths delightful and lovely hub. Isn't grandparenting the best in this life!!! I love your Grandparent words of wisdom to live by. Your grandchildren are so blessed to have you both as their grandparents. And we already know how much we are blessed to have those precious ones in our lives! Voted Way Up

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      crystaleyes 4 years ago from Earth

      Meaningful, well-written letters.. indeed we need to teach our children good virtues, humility, honesty, .. very important lessons of life.. thank you so much for this hub..

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      Sheila Brown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      What a wonderfu hub! We, as grandparents can help to raise our grandchildren and share with them some of the many lessons we have learned over the years. Grandparents are a very important part of any family. I love that your husband writes these letters. My mother used to share her thoughts with me through little notes some times. I always treasured those, especially now that she has passed. Voting this up and awesome! :)

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Faith, I will not argue about the blessings of grandchildren. Just wish we could see them a little more often. Thanks, dear lady, for stopping by. Enjoy your weekend.

      Crystal, virtues are one thing that we can never go wrong teaching our children. Your visit is most welcome. Take care.

      Sg, I have letters from my mother written over twenty-five years ago. They still have her love within. I so appreciate your visit here today and hope you have a great weekend.

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      Wayne Brown 4 years ago from Texas

      The old adage goes, "Character is something we are when no one is looking". It is important that we talk about these things with our children and grandchildren even after they are young adults. Our words linger as do our own actions thus if we are instill character we must also exemplify it. Nice work! Thanks for sharing. ~WB

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hello, Wayne!

      I like your statement, "Our words linger as do our own actions", this is very profound. It is something we should keep top of mind as we speak and write to our children. Thank you for adding value to this topic. Enjoy your weekend. Blessings.

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      Stacy Harris 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      This is great. As a parent of 3 kids I want to make sure that they grow up with a strong set of values. Yet, it isn't something we really can force on them, they need to want to be that way. Teaching them young is important. This was a great hub!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Barbergirl, I applaud your values in raising your children. I am sure that you will see your efforts proudly demonstrated as they grow. Thank you for coming by and for your support. Take care.

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      frogyfish 4 years ago from Central United States of America

      Such an inspiring and responsible hub instruction, just beautiful. Loved your jokes also, but really appreciated your evident attitude, and your sharing it so well with those grandchildren.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Frogy, thanks for your support here. I love those jokes too. Be well and strong.

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      alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I know that I was the only one among five kids who kept in touch with my grandmother through letter-writing and I've saved all her writings to me -- they are a source of inspiration many years after her death. Voting this Up and Beautiful.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      This is affirming the truth here, Alocsin. Letters are words that will always exist in our hearts and minds beyond expectancy. How wise you were to connect with your grandmother, you have been blessed with a rich heritage. Have a great weekend.

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      daskittlez69 4 years ago from midwest

      Thanks for this hub. It made me smile and think of my Grandparents.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I am so glad this post brought happy memories to you, Daskittlez. I know how much family can help us through the rough times. Enjoy your weekend.

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      Linda Rogers 4 years ago from Minnesota

      Another incredibly beautiful letter to your grandchildren. In this day in age mentors and role models are so important to ensure kids grow up with good values. Your writing always inspires me Diana.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Minnetonka, thank you for following this series of letters. I hope others will pick up on the importance of mentoring young children. It does help them to form ethical character for future positive growth. I hope you are enjoying your weekend.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Very valuable lessons here teaches. I've yet to become a grandparent so these will come in handy. Children are far smarter and I was humored in their simple retorts, in the grandparent humor section.

      Amazing hub. Up and awesome.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Rajan, grandparenting is such fun and the kids make you feel young at heart. Glad you like the jokes, they are funny. Take care and thanks for your wonderful support.

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      ExpectGreatThings 4 years ago from Illinois

      I love this idea! I love that you are encouraging grandparents to mentor and take an active role in teaching character and moral values to the youngest generation. My kids take things to heart if grandma or grandpa say them much faster than they listen to me or my husband!

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      ologsinquito 3 years ago from USA

      Grandparents can play such an important role in the life of a child. It is sad when children don't have grandparents around, either because of death or some other reason. They miss out on so much. This is a great article.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Ologsinquito, I only had one grandparent while growing up, and yes, it was a loss for me and my siblings. They do enrich our lives.

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      Mary Norton 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      We are happy with our 4 grandchildren. We just spent a few days with two of them, one already working and the other still in high school. They each have their own gifts and we are happy that they like being with us. We can only be to them how we want them to be.

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