ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel


Updated on January 11, 2012

We think we're so smart; to the point of smugness, in our ability to evolve...

Lest we forget God Doest have a sense of humor.

Life: Paradox

Being a Male of gender, although essentially influenced and raised by females, allows for a paradoxical perspective of life's lessons. As a heterosexual male, I admire the natural beauty of women. During the child rearing process,female role models pointed out the 'second class denigrating effects' of hedonism.

Confusion,later on in life, forced me to resolve this internal conflict. Look, don’t stare, seems to be the acceptable compromise. Thinking as a male instinctively, yet exposed to the female perspective of hedonistic tendencies…that works for me and to all those whom have pointed out along the way, I’m different: mystery solved.

Eventually it would evolve to 'equal is equal', with respect to the paradoxical landmine such is Life. The accelerate being my daughter, whom re-hard-wires my male brain. My credo is simple: well being and happiness is the top two goals for my kids. If their safety is in jeopardy, happiness is overruled.

Being a strong advocate of female rights while raising my daughter was an easily justifiable position until her later teenage years. The question would never enter my mind, what if she chooses to embrace a questionable industry, say Playboy for example?

Quite simply, a system failure of monumental proportions occurred in my logic and reasoning. After consideration consternation,one comes to the conclusion, I don’t get to choose what makes her happy. It comes down to choice, the right of which we are endowed by our creator.

Once again light has been shed on the paradoxical land of Life. Mapping out the course of her life,is not included if her well being is not in jeopardy. So, I hope and I pray she works through it on her terms. There's a time we can protect our children, then we must rely on the preparation we afforded them through their upbringing.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • gjfalcone profile image

      gjfalcone 5 years ago from Gilbert, Arizona


      That re-wiring kit unfortunately does not come with instructions. Be well and enjoy the journey.

    • Tusitala profile image

      Tusitala 5 years ago

      Just kind of a funny observation: That re-hardwiring kit just arrived at my door, in the past few years. My stepson has two little girls and one boy and my son just had a little girl. (I was Navy and in my peak during that "Free Love" era, this is tough for me!)

    • gjfalcone profile image

      gjfalcone 6 years ago from Gilbert, Arizona

      Thanks for your comments Mr. Happy,

      "who is to say what makes someone else happy"?

      Good question, of which I can only reply with a shrug of the shoulders.

    • Mr. Happy profile image

      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      I totally respect your way of thinking Mr. Gjfalcone.

      As long as she is not harming herself or others, who is to say what makes someone else happy. We all have our own paths to follow, in my opinion.

      Thank You for writing this.

      All the best!

    • gjfalcone profile image

      gjfalcone 6 years ago from Gilbert, Arizona

      Thanks for your comments Barbergirl28,

      Easier said then done eh?

      Thanks For SHARING

    • barbergirl28 profile image

      Stacy Harris 6 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      Well said... we can guide our children but one thing is certain... we can't live their life for them. Sure, they may not choose the path we would necessarily like but we have to support our children... and as long as they are happy and not in danger, I have to support them. Great hub. Thanks for SHARING!

    • gjfalcone profile image

      gjfalcone 6 years ago from Gilbert, Arizona

      Thanks for checking out a chapter in the life of my internal conflict Happyboomernurse. I appreciate your comments.Take care and thanks again.

    • Happyboomernurse profile image

      Gail Sobotkin 6 years ago from South Carolina

      Nice thought provoking hub and I love that you used your experience with your daughters to illustrate your point.

      Voted up, useful and interesting.

    • gjfalcone profile image

      gjfalcone 6 years ago from Gilbert, Arizona

      Thanks for taking note of the upside down PlayBoy Bunny Carolinemd21. I felt it to be an especially appropriate artistic social expression considering the times and battles we face as parents. Once more thank you for your expression of kindness.

    • carolinemd21 profile image

      Caroline Marie 6 years ago

      Wonderful hub. I am much into female rights and empowerment. I love the upside down playboy bunny chart. Thanks for sharing. You are a really good writer.

    • gjfalcone profile image

      gjfalcone 6 years ago from Gilbert, Arizona

      Thank you, nice of you to stop by again. I miss those NY bagels.

    • tillsontitan profile image

      Mary Craig 6 years ago from New York

      Interesting, many may say a bit confusing, but definitely interesting. Fortunately, at least from my point of view, my daughters did not choose Playboy bunny ;)