Love that is not expressed somehow, is not love. How do you say I love you.
Siblings share a great love
How do you say, I Love You?
Communication of Love. There is a fellow who wrote a book called something like “the five love languages” Dr. Chapman I think. He believes there are five languages of expressing ones’ love for another: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. I think there are two others of significance. Sacrifice and Prayer.
I think that it is important to do all of them to others. And I think that the intention behind our conduct speaks louder than the acts.
But a cool thing about the above is the use of the word language. Language to me means speaking and speaking to me means communication. And most assuredly we can communicate without words.
Public Displays of Affection
I just read a question about kissing in public. We call that a pda. That is one communication that is more to show the world than your lover. But by showing the world we do tell our lover. Caution, moderation must be used.
Being too effusive or too remote causes anxiety and that is probably not the intention, just clumsy.
The bottom line is that you have to communicate that Love. It is wrong to assume it is communicated. It is right to express it. I suppose the inverse is accurate. No communication would reflect no love. I certainly know that If I do not communicate with those I love then I am not really feeling the love. I avoid eye contact and the phone with those I do not want to interact with, I shut down communication.
Probably the most important communication of Love is prayer. You need to let God know you have Love. (surely God knows but that misses the point completely as with any Love) God is generally a non-verbal communicator. Thank goodness. Can you imagine if God actually broke into our lives and was constantly talking to us. Well I guess the same is true for Dads. Sometimes the greatest communication is “I love you so much, I will stop bugging you”. Well I think I will just keep communicating and understand that if I do not get an answer, my friends and family are just communicating back a different way.
(hey I just realized that another form of communicating Love is through food –My wife loves to feed me, I will never think of what she gives me as just food again)