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Moving Away from Home and Family
Will Moving 2000 Miles Away Be In Your Best Interest?
There is something wonderful about living where you have been brought up and where your relatives, such as sisters and brothers, cousins, aunts and uncles, are just across town or in a nearby city. You can take the time to visit them whenever you feel the need. You know that whatever happens, they will be there for you.
I made a decision early in life that made a big impact on my life. Today, years later, I am still paying for it. If you are thinking of moving far from your friends and family, I hope reading this article helps to give you the tools to help you make a decision based on knowledge rather than taking a chance that it will work out or not. If you or someone you know has to make a decision on moving a long distance from their hometown it would be wise to show them this article.
To know that moving will make a great impact on your life is very helpful. In this article, I will attempt to give you the reasons why it does. I'd like to help you to at least know how it will change your life and the limitations it will make in your family life. Moving will affect the relationship you will have or not have with your immediate family and childhood friends. Even simple environmental differences are quite an adjustment.
My Story: How I Moved Away From Home
I came from a large family of 6 children. The Korean war was going on when I got out of high school. There were a lot of men who were in the service at that time and I met a man at our church who was a sailor. We seemed to have a lot in common. At least, I thought we did at the time. He wasn't from my area, though. His home state was about 2000 miles from where I lived when I met him.
When this sailor asked me to marry him and live in his hometown, it didn't occur to me how much of a change it would make in my life and the kind of life I would have to experience. For one thing, I didn't realize people in other states had such severe weather that they would sometimes have to consult the weather channel before they could make any traveling plans. Where I lived, we rarely watched the weather, and it was never involved in our planning whether we could go somewhere or not.
If where you are moving is going to give you the advantages that you're looking for, it might be something that will make your life easier and happier. But, if it is going to make more challenges in your life, due to weather, life styles, difference in people, etc., you may want to think again before making this drastic change in your life.
What's a Home Without Family?
As someone who wished they had been told early in life about the limitations of living 2000 miles away from family, I want to make you aware of the challenges of moving that far away. If you are a married woman, you may have children. Mothers (and fathers, too!) always love to give their children the chance to be closely connected to the grandparents because of the love and support that grandparents can provide. This is not possible when you are 2000 miles away. Children do not know their grandparents when they live so far away, and will never have the advantages of knowing a grandparent's love and support.
When holidays come, you will not be spending it with your family. You will be spending holidays with the in-laws and you will always be the in-law who is always not quite family. Believe me, as one who has been there, you need to consider the things you will be missing. It's very hard to be so far away, and you always have this feeling of missing out. There's a feeling of warmth that you cannot fully explain when you're with the people of your own family. No matter how kind your spouse's family is, it just isn't the same.
When the children start school, you are no longer able to travel as much, and your visits home will not come as often as they did before the children arrived. Soon, the distance and the years of separation become a divider in your ability to be close and comfortable with your family. The separation becomes inevitable and you will not feel needed anymore when you do see them.
You may think that your love for this dream man will accommodate for the loss of your family. It may, but again, if you can have the best of both worlds it does make life easier, especially if family is important to you. I think that for the most of us, it is. Family are the only ones who stick with us through thick and thin.