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Give your kids good Memories..

Updated on January 28, 2013

1st Birthday


We love them! We celebrate them. They are the beauty of life.They are our children..

When my first came along I was adamit on making everything perfect. Long hours planning and decorating. Conducting the right time for every one to come. Forgetting the cake. Some came 30 minutes early and, others 30 minutes late. Oh what a disaster I thought. Do these parents know how much work I put into this. Now there little monsters are trying to play with my babies new toys... AHHH! Talk about frustrated and angry.

Then I remember so clearly looking over at my baby. She was so happy all the children were here for her. What joy she had. I was overwhelmed by guilt. How could I be so blind to miss the wonder of her eye's. She didn't care that friends were late, she was happy they came. She could care less about the children playing with her stuff. She want'ed to play with the them. I missed it. Not once not twice but quite a few times.Some where in the middle I realized that all the other things didn't matter. As time has moved us all in age she is ten now and I learned. Get the cake the day before, start decorating in the morning and, use every opportunity to give her all my love. When the door bell rings preparation is over, even If there is more to do. It is party time! I have six children so our parties range from I don't wanna a cake (15) to Dance party of the century (2). They know Mama is going to do it big. Not financially but whole heartily. I have made a decision in my everyday life to make the most of every moment. I realize being a mother of a blended family my boys are 15, and 14. That they won't stay little forever. Some where through the growing in our parenting we stop sweating the small stuff. Bring attention to the important things and teach them how to carry on the love through the generations.


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    • Joyette  Fabien profile image

      Joyette Fabien 3 years ago from Dominica

      Yes, we always want things to be perfect for them, but our idea of perfection is so different from theirs. At the end of the day we have to remember it is not about us, but about them.

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      Carolyn Curry 5 years ago from US

      @b It sure took a while but I thank God for teaching me early...

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      Brian Leekley 5 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

      Experience taught you well. Thanks for sharing the insights you learned.

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      Carolyn Curry 5 years ago from US

      Yea who knew letting down your hair could be so much fun.??? It truly is a blessing to be apart of their lives... I don't wanna miss a thing! !!

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      Mary Merriment 5 years ago from Boise area, Idaho

      So very true. I remember fretting over perfection as well early on. When I eased up, made things more simple, yet fully engaging without constant direction and worry. Everything became less stressful, much more fun and way more memorable. You have great words of experience to pass on to others.