ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Give your kids good Memories..

Updated on January 28, 2013

1st Birthday


We love them! We celebrate them. They are the beauty of life.They are our children..

When my first came along I was adamit on making everything perfect. Long hours planning and decorating. Conducting the right time for every one to come. Forgetting the cake. Some came 30 minutes early and, others 30 minutes late. Oh what a disaster I thought. Do these parents know how much work I put into this. Now there little monsters are trying to play with my babies new toys... AHHH! Talk about frustrated and angry.

Then I remember so clearly looking over at my baby. She was so happy all the children were here for her. What joy she had. I was overwhelmed by guilt. How could I be so blind to miss the wonder of her eye's. She didn't care that friends were late, she was happy they came. She could care less about the children playing with her stuff. She want'ed to play with the them. I missed it. Not once not twice but quite a few times.Some where in the middle I realized that all the other things didn't matter. As time has moved us all in age she is ten now and I learned. Get the cake the day before, start decorating in the morning and, use every opportunity to give her all my love. When the door bell rings preparation is over, even If there is more to do. It is party time! I have six children so our parties range from I don't wanna a cake (15) to Dance party of the century (2). They know Mama is going to do it big. Not financially but whole heartily. I have made a decision in my everyday life to make the most of every moment. I realize being a mother of a blended family my boys are 15, and 14. That they won't stay little forever. Some where through the growing in our parenting we stop sweating the small stuff. Bring attention to the important things and teach them how to carry on the love through the generations.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Joyette  Fabien profile image

      Joyette Fabien 

      4 years ago from Dominica

      Yes, we always want things to be perfect for them, but our idea of perfection is so different from theirs. At the end of the day we have to remember it is not about us, but about them.

    • ccurry profile imageAUTHOR

      Carolyn Curry 

      5 years ago from US

      @b It sure took a while but I thank God for teaching me early...

    • B. Leekley profile image

      Brian Leekley 

      5 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

      Experience taught you well. Thanks for sharing the insights you learned.

    • ccurry profile imageAUTHOR

      Carolyn Curry 

      6 years ago from US

      Yea who knew letting down your hair could be so much fun.??? It truly is a blessing to be apart of their lives... I don't wanna miss a thing! !!

    • Mary Merriment profile image

      Mary Merriment 

      6 years ago from Boise area, Idaho

      So very true. I remember fretting over perfection as well early on. When I eased up, made things more simple, yet fully engaging without constant direction and worry. Everything became less stressful, much more fun and way more memorable. You have great words of experience to pass on to others.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)