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Making a Difference

Updated on July 1, 2008

I remember once when I was in about the 3rd or maybe the 4th grade..it's been a while....I got invited to a party from a new girl in the class. She invited everyone. Maybe 20 kids.

Mom carefully looked at the homemade invitation ...I told mom I wasn't going..I just didn't want to. But she said "Yes you are going". She had never done that before and I was very upset. My other friends weren't going. Mom assured me she would pick up a gift the next day.

On the morning of the party..it was on Saturday if I remember right, she got me up early and had me help wrap the mirror and comb set she had bought..for 2..00 I think. She drove me over to my friends house and said she would pick me up at 1 P.M. I forget her name..but let me give her one now...Mary. Anyway she lead me to the room with her homemade cake and it had 8-9 candles on it. You could tell it was decorated by her mom. There was as many cups full of candy as people invited and it was a bright and cheery room..I figured it would actually be fun when the rest of them arrived.

I asked mary where her mom was..and she looked sad and said she wasn't feeling well and that her dad was gone. I began to feel sorry for Mary as she sobbed..and it also occured to us that NO ONE ELSE WAS COMING.I jumped up and yelled "who needs them" Here were two little girls with a big cake , lot's of candy, kool-aid, and prizes with games to play.

We began with the cake. And not finding any matches we pretended to light them...I sang Happy Birthday and she blew them out.

Before I knew it it was 1 P.M. and mom was there to pick me up, honking the horn...I thanked Mary for all the prizes I had won, we shared the rest of the goodies 50/50 and I couldn't wait to tell my mom how much Mary loved the mirror set..and that I also couldn't wait to tell everyone what a great party they had missed.

When we pulled up in front of the house , mom leaned over and gave me a big hug and told she was very proud of me...with tears in her eyes. She told how One person can make a difference and I had made a difference in Mary's life today. But mom had made a difference too , in my life.

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      blangrehr 9 years ago from Spartanburg SC

      Thanks, I needed that!

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      You are welcome...Thanks for commenting so quickly...G-Ma :o) hugs

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      Stephanie Hicks 9 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Gosh, you just made me cry again G-Ma. Can you imagine what that day might have been like if you didn't go?? You are a special person. And your mom is too.

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      Kiz 9 years ago from Antioch, TN

      G-ma, that's not fair. I'm not supposed to cry at work! I wish I could hug you right now.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Stephhicks68..am sorry didn't think it would do that. Just another story to tell. G-Ma :o) hugs

      gamergirl..Thanks for the hug..I feel it..and please don't cry..I might..G-Ma :o) hugs

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      Blogger Mom 9 years ago from Northeast, US

      G-Ma, what a beautiful story! I'm sure Mary remembers this story and thinks about you often. =)

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Thank you angel..where are you from? if I may ask? and yes I am sure she does..as we speak often..but I should remind her about it..though maybe not...memories to one are not the same to others. She may never know what mom and i went through. she had a good BD Mary..and many more to this day. children remember things differently..it depends on how their parents remind them..G-Ma :o) hugs

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      ROLAND 9 years ago

      G-Ma,

      Many of us fail to understand that, one of the main reasons we are on earth is to comfort one another. When we support each other in times of need we help God to fullfill, his purpose.

      I can only imagine what the rest of Mary's life may have been like, if she had went to bed that night thinking that, No one cared for Her.

      Thanks for shearing and reminding us all that we owe it back to God, to love and support one another.

      Question, How much did you pay for that smile? It's worth a Million.

      Love Roland,

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Well what a sweet thing to say....both about Mary and about my smile...You are new to me...Thank You for your comment G-Ma :o) hugs

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      Blogger Mom 9 years ago from Northeast, US

      G-Ma, I'm from the northeast, specifically Connecticut. Although I was born and raised in NY (just north of NYC).

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      well my dear Thank You it is so sweet to have you commenting here. G-Ma :o) hugs

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      Charlene 9 years ago

      Hi Merle: it`s true you were important for your friend , i know how its hard being alone as your friend were, and probably to proud to tell you were the only one going toher party its was a special birthday for her she will always remember i`m sure , so you had fun it was the most important, you helped her not thinking you `ll be only the two of you at that party, she was probably grateful for not having spoiled it,you `re a special friend to her i`m sure,Charlene

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      you also are a dear friend to me...I wish to be at one of your BD parties sometime..I Love you Charlene.Merle Ann...:o)Hugs and prayers always

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      SweetiePie 9 years ago from Southern California, USA

      This is just a sweet hub with a good lesson.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Thank You sweetiePie I appreciate you and your comment G-ma :o) hugs

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      rmr 9 years ago from Livonia, MI

      What a beautiful hub! It never ceases to amaze me how much good a single person can do. I can't help but to wonder how many lives Mary has gone on to enrich because of your act of freindship!

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      donnaleemason 9 years ago from North Dakota, USA

      That just made me cry. I am so happy that your mum made you go and that you rallied and made it into what could possibly have been the best party Mary ever had.

      Donna

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      well thanks rmr..but it's mine that was enriched anyway..Mom is a great teacher...Thankyou for the comment G-Ma :o) hugs

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      donnaleemason..Thank you sweetie..and didn't want to make you cry though. I joined your fan club...without hesitation..cause I am also from N.D. Sounds as if you are one busy woman...maybe my hub "Have you been fed today"? will help just a bit. Thank you for your comments. Looking forward to more from you on the pages..... G-Ma :o) hugs

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      sandra rinck 9 years ago

      oh gosh, my eyes are swelling. You are a prize, a jem, a beautiful person. Thanks G-Ma J, infinate hugs.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      sandra..thank you for your very kind words...I am just a G-Ma being one..I think?? You all are just as special as anyone I know..Thank you for your heartfelt comment...G-Ma :o) hugs

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      marisuewrites 9 years ago from USA

      How inspiring, G-Ma---Reminds me of something in my childhood I had not thought of in a while...I was in the 3rd grade I think;  there was this girl named Cheryl.  She had a terrible stuttering problem and in the 50's speech therapy was not around in the schools.  Most kids scurried away from her  -- she was hard to be around and I could understand the nervousness others felt.  And, of course, she stuck to me like glue because I smiled at her in lunch line one day.  There she was, standing around, looking so lonesome.  I think her parents neglected her as well because she never looked clean and her hair was oily.  They must have struggled -- everyone has a story.

      I will admit that many times during the year I wondered why I befriended her.  I just couldn't leave her behind.  So, she stayed with me at lunch and we ran around and around on the playground...I think I thought that if I was in motion...others wouldn't notice my slightly strange friend....I can't give myself ttoooo much credit as I was just a kid with normal thoughts as well.

      Soon, she lost  a little weight with the running and began to try to wash her hair in the bathroom.  One day I slipped her a bottle of shampoo and during recess she washed her hair.  She got in trouble for coming into class soaking wet and looked at me and got a bad case of the giggles.  We both had to sit out in the hall...

      I got so familiar with her that I would sing songs to her and she learned them and wahhhhla   no stuttering during singing, so we sang a lot.  I would even laugh sometimes  and tell her to sing to me what she wanted to say. 

      That was before research discovered many people were helped with music and rhythm during speech therapy...so maybe we were on the cutting edge.  I lost a few front row seats that year in the lunchroom, got many stares and dirty looks from would be friends,  but I can't say I was too saddened after the first few weeks of doing without some of the beautiful people....

      Cheryl bloomed a little, came home with me once or twice...I can still remember my mother winking at me when no one else was looking as we tried to look away and give Cheryl time to say her words....Mom knew she had raised us right.  Still, it is hard to do the right thing and to be honest...there were days I wanted to disappear when Cheryl would see me and scream my name so joyfully as she ran to me.  I learned  a lot from Cheryl.  She was a beautiful person.  gee I feel like crying.   Marisue

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      marisue...there is a beautiful hub for you to publish my dear..what an adorable child you must have been. and you did it all on your own..my mom made me go...Thank God...and Thank you for your great comment G-Ma :o) hugs

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      marisuewrites 9 years ago from USA

      hahaa you are so funny "my mom made me go..." you had it in your heart and your mom knew it...as did mine...she always taught us over and over to respect differences and to be kind to those with differences..she hated the word "disabled.." and later lost her own eyesight...so it then carried a personal weight for her...more stories about her tons of them ahead...lol and you're right I might do a spin off on your beautiful HUB of making a difference because I so agree with your wise words... we can make a difference in this harsh ol' world one kind act at a time...! I will do that HUB soon. see how we help each other here...this is so cool. is that a word still used...gosh I'm dating myself. Marisue THANKS.

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      Tessali 9 years ago from United States

      I'm sure "Mary" remembers this as a time in her life when a friend brought her sunshine. That could have been one of the worst days in her life and you saved her from that. I love stories like this because it reminds us of how important events are in our life. Everything we say and do can make a huge difference and we may not even know it. A small act of kindess to a stranger or the words we say to a friend or relative can make all the difference in the world. Thank you for this story. It is wonderful.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      mariesue..you are soo right..we all can make a differenceand we do.G-Ma :o)hugs

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Tessali...Thank you sweetie..and we never do know when we make a difference..as you say it can be just a friendly Hello..a big smile..even a wave..Me and My grand kids wave at people we don't know..from the car often..and you should see the looks we get? some frantically wave back trying figure out if they recognize us, some frown, some just smile..and then some totally ignore us. But it doesn't matter....Thanks for the comment G-Ma :o) hugs

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      marisuewrites 9 years ago from USA

      I think you are wise G Ma to bring it up gently -- she could have a great memory or none or a bad one....you are wise to tred softly i think it's great you are still friends...

      I've lost a sense of my history...moved away from some of it over the years and it does leave one feeling alone at times....we need our memories...

      history is a valuable connection for us....marisue

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      Merle Ann Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Yes my dear it surely is...G-Ma :o) hugs

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      VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      I know you wrote this over 3 months ago, so my comment is rather late, but let me tell you, you write such beautiful hubs, definitely written by a beautiful person; this one made my eyes wet and heart expand. Sniff!

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      VioletSun...aww how sweet of you and thank you for reading one that old..although it never is too late to read any of the hubs...G-Ma :o) hugs

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      cvaughn570 8 years ago

      This has got to be the best hub that I have read! (although I love your recipes too) It shows the lessons in life that can only be taught by experience and wisdom, Both of which you have. Thank yopu for sharing it with us.

      Hugs, Carol

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      awww aren't you sweet..Thank you so much...but we are here to help one another and that is what we do..I am no more special then the ones who read this and appreciate it. And isn't it great to find so many caring people here? Thanks for the comment and God Bless G-Ma :o) hugs

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      dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      G-ma you never fail to touch hearts. it is a beautiful gift. and you are a wonderful gift to the world and so is your mother. may your tribe increase! i love you.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      wow ...thanks so very much .... and the same to you dear..Life is good...and life is bad...If you have a problem...ask God for help. If you don't Thank Him..heard that somewhere and can't forget it....thanks for the comment...G-Ma :o) hugs

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      Michelle Simtoco 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      G-Ma, you continue to inspire me with this one. :) We can indeed make a difference one step at a time, can we? Thanks so much. Now I need a hug from you. I miss my grandma so much.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      ohhh ohhh and why is that sweetie??? I am always here as she is always in your heart ..and I know you feel it ...God Bless You always..Never fear "we are here"...G-Ma :o) hugs always and forever hun.

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      Michelle Simtoco 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      My grandma was the one person who was proud of me --minus the titles, degrees, whatever accomplishments I have made-- I was just her granddaughter. And I guess I just wanted to hear those voice say once again with joy, "This is my grandaughter!" without having the "need" to do things for approval. Sniff sniff...It's one of those days I'm kind of mixed up inside. Thanks G-Ma for the comforting hug.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      oh sweetie...you cam always e-mail me if you want ??? HUGS AND MORE HUGS..G-Ma :o)

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      MrMarmalade 8 years ago from Sydney

      Great Mum and good little girl. You have matured regally. and Congratulations to Marisue. The things we learn when we are too young to appreciate.

      Thank you both for giving me something think of.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      awww you are also one great teacher and inspiration to us all here on the Hubs Frank..what would we do without you???? G-Ma :o) hugs and kisses

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      Tatianna 5 years ago

      G-ma,

      You are an amazing woman and a teller.

      Your story made me all choke up.

      So special... am wiping my tears...

      God bless you soooo much, dear.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 5 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Tatianna ...Thank you somuch this is an Old one....God Bless :O) Hugs G-Ma

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