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'Me time" is a must have!
Ever find you’re wandering around aimlessly, feeling the overwhelming urge to scream into a pillow? That’s your red flag it’s time to decompress. Everyone needs a reality break whether it’s in the form of a great escape or something as simple as a soak in the tub, choose as you may but make it happen.
Life can be overwhelming, easily consuming us to the point of implosion. In order to persevere we must find our mental escape hatch.
Statistics show those who decompress regularly are far more productive than those who don’t. Shutting down mentally for a short period of time is the reboot your brain needs. Call it a “mental chi” if you will but make sure you call it!
There are numerous “me time” activities; here are a few to get you motivated:
- Window shopping
- Relax with that book you keep putting off reading
- Take in a movie
- A relaxing massage
- Soaking in a warm bubble bath
Imagine your favorite book; candles lit, a glass of wine, breathing in fantastic scents of candles and bubble bath followed by dead silence. Bubble baths aren’t just a night time activity, there are many days that scream for one and I can’t think of a better way to escape a monotonous afternoon.
Here are a few suggestions for the artistically blessed:
If you have small children find a positive, enriching way to help keep them busy. Pop their favorite program into the DVD player or load a learning video game into the gaming system or laptop. This will keep them busy long enough for you to catch your breath.
There were many times as children we were challenged with entertaining ourselves which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Trust me, nothing can replace family time but by allowing a child to self-engage you’re unleashing their creativity. I don’t know about you, but I find I’m at the height of my game when I’m left alone.
Take your children shopping for games that promote education and physical exercise. It will be an exciting and rewarding way to spend time together, maybe stop and grab a bite to eat afterwards. Their tummies will be full and they will be jumping at the bit to play their new game. This will keep them busy while you get time to yourself.
For the woman who works outside the home, take your yoga mat to work with you. Partake in a lunch hour yoga class or block out time on your schedule to exercise in your office. You’ll find it will break up stressful days rather nicely and you’ll return feeling refreshed and mentally organized.
There are some amazing websites right at our fingertips that offer guidance and support, for instance check out these great ideas about decompression on Pinterest http://www.pinterest.com/poshstone/decompress-breathe/ or these free techniques on Greatest.com http://greatist.com/happiness/40-ways-relax-5-minutes-or-less. Google can be your friendJ.
It’s important to set aside time for yourself as it not only helps you realign your mind, body and soul but it will bring relief to those overworked muscles and brain cells. If you find you’re able to do this daily, consider yourself to be a well-balanced lucky one as for most of us ‘me time’ doesn’t surface until we find ourselves at the end of our proverbial rope. Daily decompression is recommended, but for many if we get an hour a week we feel blessed.
For me I’ll grab a notebook or my computer and retreat to a less inhabited spot at home and let my minds eye wander, jotting down whatever craziness pops into my head in the hopes of turning it into the next epic novel. Your mind can be your best friend as well as your worst enemy; if you don’t allow it to dream freely taking you to unchartered destinations you will be depriving yourself of many fantastic voyages.
Needless to say after my ‘me time’, I find myself locked and loaded - ready to tackle the next challenge or items on my massive honey-do list…..